Attention teenagers, need advice about 13 year old stepson....?

Is this right?


My stepson just returned home to his mothers in Kentucky this past week, and he started school yesterday, he is 13 years old, was with me and hubby for the eniter summer, he called us tonight ......his mom's new rule is that all of the kids have to stay in the house monday through friday after school and can be out until 9:30 pm on saturday and sunday....is this right? shouldn't he be allowed to play outside and hang out with friends? It is her way of saying they need to focus on school work....mind you the year just started and he has never had an issue with his grades.......sorry for rambling....what do you think of this idea??, Also mind you his mom works 3-11 monday through friday, off saturdays and sundays and the kids are home with their grandpa....so in essence she is leaving no time to spend with her kids.... because they are outside all weekend while she is off work.what do you all think??Attention teenagers, need advice about 13 year old stepson....?
Personally as a mother i think monday threw friday (school nights) they should come home and do there homework first, then be able to go outside till dinner then come back inside to eat if they want to go back out after dinner id give them till 8pm so they can come back and take a shower before bed.. F and sat night they should be able to stay out till 9:30 -10pm debating on if the childs grades are good..Attention teenagers, need advice about 13 year old stepson....?
im 14 and yeah its pretty weird i guess





weekends are my favorite to sleep in and see my friends yes





but also its fun to see them during the week because it can be stressful without them :)
Umm, the staying inside all afternoon after school is, a little on the extreme side. I can understand the 930 on weekends. children that are still young, and don't know how life is in the world shouldn't really be out to late. I really hope his mom lightens up on the weekdays. Kids need their time to hang out with their friends. Now not being able to go out if he gets in trouble, or his homework isn't done. Is understandable. But if your kiddo is a smart good kid, then i think she has some control issues.
I think that he'll survive and that things could be much worse than the present situation. Granted, she's being overprotective, but it's not your call.
my parents did this to me til i just ignored the rule, stayed out till 10:00 pm, not good consequences but totally worth the freedom i felt, she should let them go out during the week, otherwise there just guna end up doing what i did n then shes really guna worry isnt she
I think she should let her son outside after homework is done, have him come in for dinner %26amp; studying if needed and let him back out until 9:00 or 9:30
Well i think she is looking out for them to be the best of the best in life. But u just need to let her know all works and no play makes a jack a dull boy.....
I agree with you, after a teen finishes his homework, does his chores then he should be allowed to go out to play until around 9pm but not past 9 on school night. I think this mother is over-reacting. Sorry I am a parent myself but my kids are not that restricted and they are good kids. Being a Christan home we have struction but we don't make it like a prison with play on good behavior like this mother sounds like.
I think you know what every teen is going to say. I think you are just trying to confirm how you feel. The point is that she is his mother, I believe that because of her work schedule she does not want them running around the neighborhood. This may seem unfair but its better than getting a call from the hospital or police. The only baby sitter she has is her father and don't think the kids won't take advantage of that. You know as we'll as me that he will try to get away with anything and everything he can. I think the tragedy here is that both parents aren't together, raising their kids. This will have a big effect on the kids as they grow up. I think that there are other areas to this story that we don't know, like how old are the other kids, does he need to help watch his younger siblings, has he been in trouble in the past? I think maybe that you should ask adults questions about kids and not kids. I also think you should support his mothers decisions and not try to build a wedge between them and make her situation any harder. I know you think it is unfair and that you don't agree, but try and think of it this way. Lets say you have children and your husband leaves you for another woman and your left to raise them. Your husband takes the oldest boy for the summer and they have a great time together and then he comes home and has to start doing chores, go to school,do his homework, he doesn't get to see you because you have to work a full time job and thank God you have your dad with you so he can watch the kids while you work, because if you had to pay for daycare, you wouldn't know what to do. Now of course he's thinking what a great time he had with his dad and his wife. I would say a summer of fun. Now he's thinking that his MOM is being mean and that she's no fun. Then he calls his dad and his dads wife and gives them this big spill of how bad it is and that he really misses them, yada yada yada. Now I think he's got them hooked, there getting mad because they think he's being treated unfair, so she starts asking other kids on line to confirm the poor boys situation. What she doesn't realize is that if he was there with them, he would have to go to school, do his homework, do chores, have a curfew and all those other things that will make you a bad parent. Then he will be calling his MOM and telling her how strict you guys are. DON'T PLAY THE GAME. No child will grow up bad if they understand that there are rules.
I personally think this is stupid. She is pretty much grounding him by keeping him in all week and has absolutely no reason for doing so. My son goes outside and plays after school until about 7 and then comes in, takes a bath and goes to bed. A childhood isnt a childhood without the playtime and he is only 13, that is child. Tell her to lighten up.
i somewhat agree but not completely.. AFTER a child finishes homework they should be alloud to play outside, but not roam the streets... i could see taking them somewhere to a movie or skating rink/park on fridays and/or saturdays, but not letting them roam the streets... i see one of two things for her reasoning.. 1 being she doesnt want to be around them or 2 she doesnt have much faith in grandpa. she might not want them to go out during the week because she is afraid they will get hurt, and grandpa wouldnt know anything about it, thats why she lets them go out on the weekends when she is there...
i dont think its right at all..i think when kids get home from school they should snack on something then do the homework and then let it be their choice to play or watch tv ..unless they are grounded or did something wrong at school that day.. and as far as the weekend she should at least spend half a day with them ..
im wondering how much visitation she has...


that is a bit unreasonable.. however, this is your husbands ex-wife and he needs to step up rather than you.





im product of a divorce and my stepmom has been in my life sence i was 2 and married my dad when i was 5. i haven't had the greatest relationship with my mom as a result of her flakiness and she lives far away so i only got to see her a month in the summer.. this year was her last ';legal'; month and she didn't even take it..





so just be glad she's involved. and continue being a great stepmom..


mine IS my mom and thats what matters.





good luck.