Ok to all teenagers and all other ages need advice please?

am 38 Years old and my Cousin is 13 Years old,We are currently living under the same roof.because she has come basically come from a broken home she has lied and lied to me with just about everything in just a normal conversation.the stories she told me were not true at all.


She told me lies about her Mother and her Grandfather.she even told me that one of her friends were killed which all were made up.


I have tried to ask her why she lies to me she even denied lying to me.


I feel she needs some kind of guidance but being her lies are constant i do not know what to believe any longer and feel the need to cut all contact with her because she even lies to others about her confiding in me.My Mom says to pacify it that its a stage that she is going through and to let it be and forgive her because she is just a kid.I do not believe that,because she not only lies about everything but also is an outcast at school.my question is why would she lie to people who love her the most especially hr own blood? any advice please ?thank youOk to all teenagers and all other ages need advice please?
Teenagers are complicated, trust me. But that doesn't mean that just because shes young she should be excused for everything she does. Just as stupid is not an excuse, neither is being young. I'd try just to sit down and talk to her, one-on-one. it might not work, but it will do more good than just standing back and watching. and if it doesn't work, then just tell her that you wont stand for her lying anymore and that until she straightens up, you'll listen, but not believe her. but don't sever all ties with her just yet. if shes an outcast the one thing she could use most is just someone to be her friend.Ok to all teenagers and all other ages need advice please?
Maybe she's being influenced by the wrong company


My mom says sometimes when someone lies about everything its really hard to get out of the habit , try talking to her and the dangers of lying like


if she was falsely accused of something that could put her in jail for a really long time and she finally tells the truth no one would believe her or even try to defend her because they know her as a liar and it might happen later in life


And guidance counselor works
it is a stage when the person is THREE OR FOUR YEARS OLD. not 13.





she does this because she wants attention, she wants to be interesting, she thinks she has to lie to be accepted, OR


this is something that is a psychological problem, that she can not control at all.





In any case, it doesn't relate to you being family, or that you know that you are trustworthy.
turn it on her!


if she lies say yah rite.


and say that even if she isnt lying.


then she will be like im serious!


and you say no your lying!


and keep doing that!


she will get the point and stop lying after awhile.


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she is riding in the small bus...her problems were there long before you came along. she does have issues, but you can't believe just being related to her can make her change her ways. she does need guidance, but your not the one to give it. you don't understand what is going on, so there is no way you can help her.
could it possibly be she is seeking attention?? i know i used to do that i used to lie about sad or bad things that happen to me so people would give me sympathy and more love and stuff. try showing her more love and maybe she will eventually feel bad for lieing to you treat her good.she is obviously going through a hard time. any kid that doesnt have their parents arent goingto act normal
Just whenever she tells you anything, respond that ';you're lying again, thank you';. There is no such phase. People who are obsessive liars will never stop. It's some sort of mental deficiency of sorts I'm afraid.





Sorry you have relatives like that. Good news - some of mine are way worse.



hey uhmm i am 13 year old and its probably her friends who are giving her a bad influence or she wants to be a big shot like oh ihave done that and i have been through this so i think you got the idea of what i am saying her so yea
Since she has most likely had family problems, her compulsive lying is her defense mechanism for not having to deal with reality.
I can't really give you any advice, except that you should probably take her to a councilor or therapist... a professional would help this serious situation better than anyone on Yahoo Answers can.
I think the lies are covering up the truth about something deep and she defiantly needs to talk to a professional. It's better to be safe than sorry!
you can't stop her. ignore her exciting or shocking stories by just giving her a simple reply with no reaction, it may take time, but she'll realize it's not right %26amp; stop.. trust me.


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Call a shrink and stop believing her.
I agree with BondGirl, maybe you should seek out professional help for her.
Just smack that lil' ho in her f'ing mouth and set her straight.
u should start lying to her to see how she like it
i had a friend like that. i think its about wanting attention.


you should tell her that she doesn't have to lie
lol....i swer when i was reading your question your cousin that you mentioned reminded me of my close friend.....who also EXACTLY like your cousin lies about petty stuff and makes up wonderland stories for no reason.......


im in the same situation as you.....the only difference is that im 15 and my friend is also 15.....


well the best option is to try and make her understand indirectly that you people love her and lieing will break or weaken your relation with her.....


but remember i think she is going through a hard phase in life due to which she is lieing that way so dont be harsh or rude with her or dont scold her for her continious lies......!!





hope it helps!! ;)


anyway thanks and have a good day :)!!!~


natalie.