Any advice for help with household chores from a lazy husband and 2 lazy teenagers?

teenagers are 14 and 16 , husband is 31; all are exremely lazy and if they pick up one thing that happens to be theirs , they think they cleaned the whole houseAny advice for help with household chores from a lazy husband and 2 lazy teenagers?
Stop doing their laundry... and cooking dinner for them. What will they do without clean clothes and food to eat?? They will realize sooner or later that someone takes care of them and maybe they need to start doing it on their own.





Or you could call a family meeting and tell them they all need to pitch in.Any advice for help with household chores from a lazy husband and 2 lazy teenagers?
STOP doing a thing for them...


kick there stuff to their doorway (no matter what it is)


tell them you won't be cooking, cleaning, or doing anything for them at all until they help..


then go relax in a long bath ......


make a nice dinner for yourself(preferably their favourite)..


clean up after yourself..


don't do a thing for them ..


take a few days for you ...


act as if they aren't there...


just walk around them when you do things...


they will sooon get sick of it and help....


and as for your bed give your husband a sleeping bag and tell him that you wont allow animals in your room and until he helps he has to sleep on the lounge....


it will get to them.....
stop doing for them they are old enough to do there own just do your own stuff if they cant be bothered to bring there dirty clothes down to be washed leave them on the floor then when they have nothing to wear make them do there own washing same with cooking washing up shopping and everything else good luck i think your gonna need it lol x
to get my children and husbands attention I bought a padlock and when i cleaned up the house everything them left out got lock in the storage shed along with the television radios and video games. They where told until the learned to respect me the house and their belongings they had to learn to live with the bare minimum. I then pack a suitcase and went to a hotel for the 4 day holiday weekend. When I came home my house was immaculate I mean cleaner than when I left . Now all I have to say is I am thinking of making reservations to get them back on track.
I set the table one evening, called everyone to dinner and then set an expensive juicy steak with potatoes and green beans down in front of me, said grace and started eating. Everyone was, ';Where's mine?'; I said, ';Oh, I must have forgotten to make yours...right about the same time you forgot to empty the dishwasher and you forgot to clean the bathroom and you forgot to take out the garbage.'; Everybody freaked out, but I just sat there enjoying my steak. Later on I pulled all the laundry out of the shoot, seperated all my stuff and started washing. It didn't take them long to ask, ';Mom, are you going to wash ours?'; I said NO! I didn't say another thing, but everybody got the idea. Chores started getting done more often, and my husband started saying thank you.





I crabbed at everybody for years, but sometimes actions (and a beautiful steak!) speak louder than words!
This is what my mom did to help me realize how grateful I am for her. Go on vacation, take care of your mom, just go somewhere for a couple of days. Once you are gone, your responsiblities will become theirs. Once my mom left , my little sister, dad, and I realized quick that mom had a hard job. If when you come back and you still have this problem go on strike, meaning stop cleaning, cooking, etc.
I will tell you why I never did any chores while I was growing up: nothing was ever good enough for my mother. When I washed the dishes, I got yelled at for putting the dishes in the drainer wrong. If I dusted, it wasn't good enough. If I cleaned the bathroom, I used the wrong cleaner and didn't wipe the mirror. If I ran the vaccuum, I pushed it too fast. Eventually, I preferred to get in trouble for not doing chores rather than doing chores and getting in trouble anyway. I'm sure that you are so happy when they do the dishes that you don't nitpick or criticize, but I thought it was worth sharing.
Go on strike...if nothing is getting done in the house like their laundry, maybe they will sit down with you and decide to share the chores.
Go on STRIKE and make sure they know you are!


I wouldn't lift another finger until they get off their butts and help you out!
let them fend for themselves! omg 31 and he has a 16 year old? no wonder he is lazy, he was too busy having kids to grow up!
They're all to old for you to be picking up after any of them. You're not their maid and I would make that clear. Set up days and times to help with chores, and have some kind of reward system. If they don't pick up set the consequences. And I'd tell my husband you split the chores around the house.
Give your teens chores and make them do them or they cannot go out and do what they want to do.. Or make them do chores for allowance.. You have to get a hold of your family before its to late.. Come on people what is wrong with our society.. We need to start controlling our kids instead of your kids controlling you.. Get your crap together and make your kids do what you want them to do..
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My husband helps out around the house, but not as much as he could...What I did not too long ago was I stopped doing all the typical chores I do on a daily basis (just stopped for about a day and a half) and he soon realized how much I actually do around the house for our family. Mine is like your's....expects to be praised and rewarded for...i don't know, picking up his laundry off the floor and moving it to the hamper...





He has started to pitch in a lot more for little odd jobs and it really helps. Also, if you do try this technique, tell them you appreciate their help and let them know how much time it saves you. My husband has started saying thank you to me more, now that I remind myself to thank him for little things too.





Hope this helps!
Ugh! I feel you on this one. I would start making a list for each of them. Give the list to them in the morning and start taking away priveledges, tv, allowance, unless these things are done. Let them know that it is not fair for you to have to do EVERYTHING. With hubby. . . I'm sure he loves dinner. . . and sex. Let him know that the more he helps out with household chores and takes a lot of stress and energy off of you. . . . more dinner, more sex. Worked wonders on mine. Good luck to you.
Don't give them anything until they ALL start helping around the house...Husband included. No allowance for the boys, don't pick up anything special for them at the grocery store, cook meals they don't care for, don't do laundry for them(uniforms), don't give any rides (only 2 school..not anything extra), show them how much you do for them and that if they can't help around the house you aren't helping them with anything special.
Have a family meeting. Talk about this. If this yields no results, go on vacation for a week. Or just tell them that you aren't cooking or cleaning for a week or so.


Or you can try to bribe the kids...=]
yes! MAKE IT FUN!!!!! make up some games or try and get everyone involved and do something fun together.
Ha-I think this problem plagues tons of wives/mothers. You're not alone! When you find an acceptable solution please post it on Y!A to enlighten us that feel your pain!





Children are probably like that because moms do everything for them when they are young-it's just easier to do it yourself once than to have to go behind them and fix what they did wrong. Husbands are like that because their mother did the same thing we are with our kids!