Desperately need advice on how to handle ex & father of teenagers?

What can I do? My husband upped and left this year after a long period of indecision and 18 years of marriage. We have two teenagers and a house which I am trying to sell which means that I cannot just move away from the area. I feel so very alone. He always said that I was the only friend that he wanted and did not want friends around and did not want to go anywhere or do anything. He has taken up with a colleague from work, lied to me and put me at risk.





And yet every time we meet he acts as if nothing has happened and is happy to provide support and to be supported and talk about his new life, girlfriend and the hard times he is having.





Now he says it is my choice if I want us to be friends. I don't understand and am desperately afraid that he will hurt me again.





On another hand I miss him and feel so at ease when we are together. This is hard and crazy but I need some advice on how to handle this relationship and keep working %26amp; trying to sell the house and move on. Most important are the teenagers who need support and a stable environment. There are times that I don't feel very stable though! help me please.


I miss him so much even after all the hurt





Any advice would be great.





KateDesperately need advice on how to handle ex %26amp; father of teenagers?
You need to get angry. Right now you are still so hurt you don't realize how selfish this man has been and that he is asking you to ';be friends'; while he takes his love life elsewhere and leaves you to rear his teenagers! Once you see what a jerk he is being, you will tell him you can be civil for the sake of the children, but you cannot be friends. He is being selfish and saddling you with the work and the worry. Get yourself a lawyer and ask for half of everything this man has now or ever will have. You are going to need money in order to help your kids get through school and flourish. If you haven't worked outside the home, you may need to go back to school to get a refesher course. Ask the courts to make him pay for that. You'll need a job that pays well to support yourself. And, I think you need to see a counselor of some type to help you through this period. Either a marriage counselor to help you get through the divorce, or a pastoral counselor at church, or a psychologist who can help you keep things in perspective over the next year. You have a lot on your plate and he stuck you in this position. Thre sooner you get over the hurt and on with the anger, the sooner you can empower yourself to get what's due you financially (why do you have to sell the house? Make him pay to keep you and the kids there!). Once you get through this, join Parents Without Partners and learn from other parents who've had to raise kids on their own.Desperately need advice on how to handle ex %26amp; father of teenagers?
if you respect yourself, NO man not even your god should be allowed to do that to you. You're letting him have his cake and eat it too. He's a low life and if he's w. you then you're a low life's gf. don't be stupid! take your life into your own hand, life is what you make of it. if you want him in your life then that's your bad. GL2U!
Kate, After 24 years and 3 teenagers my husband did pretty much the same thing to me just 3 weeks ago...My only advice to you is to stay close to family and friends, Write in a journel all your hurts and thoughts, PRAY, PRAY ,PRAY, the power of prayer is awsome and pray for him too, and keep busy and move on, It totally blows my mind that a man can up and leave his family and act like hes the wounded one..but there is a reason for it and eventually he will realize what hes done and have many regrets.. One Day At A Time Kate, it will get better..I will be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers..