She did not say anything,I know she was shocked because she was never taught about sex,and I don't actually know if she knew what was going on.Help? This is a serious matter,I have no idea what approach to take with her from now on!My daughter caught me and my boyfriend having sex! Advice from teenagers and parents !?
I'm sure she knows what sex is.. for all any of us know, she might not even be a virgin. I'm a little surprised you haven't had the talk with her, though in my view that's pretty much a separate issue from her seeing you and your bf getting it on.
One approach might be to say, ';I'm sorry you had to see that. We weren't thinking you'd be home so soon. We will be more discrete in the future.'; and leave it at that.My daughter caught me and my boyfriend having sex! Advice from teenagers and parents !?
Be straight up and talk to her about it. Say something like ';I know this is embarrassing for both of us...'; and talk to her about sex and what's private, boyfriends, what's appropriate, and allow her to ask questions and answer them honestly. By 17 she should be taught about sex, because if you don't teach her, some rowdy teenage boy would be more than happy to take advantage of that and teach her for you. You can't shelter her forever.
Well, I think that even though it was probably a bad move not to teach her about sex, now would be the time to tell her. And make sure you tell her it's fine if she has questions, and that it's okay for her to talk to you about those things because I'm telling you there is nothing worse than growing up not being able to talk to your parents. (I grew up being able to talk to them about anything, and it's really nice.)
From someone who's seen this before it is rather embarrassing to see but I was 10 yrs old when I saw my mom doing it.
Mattie is 17 i'm sure she's had more than her share of seeing things and I'm sure she understands what sex is. I don't think it's anything that should be blown out of proportion it happened it's not a big deal, maybe if she was 8 or you were married or something. Don't say anything or apologize it's your home and you didn't do it on purpose, I'm sure next time she will call before she comes home. It's fine I'm sure...
I would not be extremely concerned. most people have that awkward story of there parents having sex and she is old enough to understand that you do have it. but because it is just your boyfriend i would be careful in the future telling her that she can not have sex with her boyfriend after all you have set the example.
';My boyfriend of 4months and I were unaware of Mattie finishing school early this term';
You don't even know what's going on with her school life... Have some respect for her, and dedicate time to finding out what's going on with her instead of dedicating more time to your boyfriend. Be a mother once in a while.
Of course she knew what was going on! You're a moron if you think a 17 year old girl doesn't know about sex. Good grief..
TALK to her about it. You've already displayed your poor parenting by not discussing sexual matters with her (do you think if you don't talk to her about sex she'll never have sex?). IT's time to step up to the plate and start acting like a responsible parent.
And while you're at it, talk about drugs and drinking. Because she's probably aware of them, too.
I'm a teenager.
just give her time to get over it.
just don't bring it up around her or anything cause that will definitely make her feel uncomfortable
you know im sure she has already heard about sex even through she's attended a Private Girls Catholic School.
i mean she's 17 right?
im sure she figured out what sex is by now lol
so like i said.
just give her time to get over it :)
pretend it never happend.
you'll be doing her a favor.
GOOD LUCK !
let me start by saying if she is 17 she knew what was going on. i think if you have not had the sex talk now is the time. but it might be too late. i am sure she was embarresed but i am sure she understands. by 17 i had a steady boyfriend and was sexually active for almost a year. if you are worried about what to say maybe you should look up oprah.com and read about yesterdays show. it was on how to talk to your kids about sex.
At 17 I'm sure she knows SOMETHING about sex...
My advice is to just take her aside and tell her you are sorry that she walked in on you guys and ask her if she has any questions about the situation or just sex in general. AND Don't get upset with her at all, just answer her questions honestly.
she is 17 and u have not told her about sex wow my mom told me about when i was 7 and im now 12 and saw my parent havin sex at 3 but i didnt no what they were doin and my mom said he was givin me a masssage she proble know what sex is about cause her friends told her still just tell her about just incase she does no so no boy try to have sex wit her
TELL HER!!!!!!!!!!!!
At 17 years old in this day and age I am pretty sure she KNEW what was going on.
You need to apologize to her for what she saw and at 17 years old you should be able to have a pretty open conversation about sex with her. She knows more than you think she does. In fact she very well may have already had sex herself.
oh please if you believe your daughter doesn't know what sex is you are seriously deluded.
i went to a private catholic girls school and can assure you that she probably knows more than the average normal main stream girls do.
juts say i'm sorry and don't make a fuss of it.
I am sure your 17 year old daughter knows more about sex than you do. From the internet, friends, movies etc...
Say this to your daughter '; I know you saw me and blank having sex, are you okay?'; More than likely your daughter does not want to talk about it just to embarrasing. Good Luck
You should have watched OPRAH yesterday, they got into great detail on this subject. :) It was very informational. ;] Look it up online im sure she has something on her website about it.
Goodluck .. and dont worry, she is 17, im sure she knows about sex... but you should have a more open relationship with her... Talking about these kinds of things before a situation like this occurs.
Are you a troll??? I promise you that your 17 year old knows what sex is, and shame shame shame on you if you never taked to her about it.
Beyond that... . keep it in the bedroon next time, and actually spend some time communicating with your child.
Tell her that you apologize and it wont happen again.
She's 17, I'm SURE she knows what sex is.
BTW: When you have kids, you should be having sex behind closed doors; whether they're home or not. You never know when they'll walk in (like your daughter did).
Don't freak out, just talk to her in private and do this as soon as possible. She's 17, she isn't that innocent as you may think, just apologize for what she saw. She will understand. It's normal for single parents to have sex.
17 years olds probably know about the birds and the bees.
You could always say that ';we'; love each other and this is one of many ways one shows love? We'll be more private next time....or just forget it! What was the full view??? Good luck!
I think since your daughter is 17 already you should have taught her about the subject. Now since she saw you and your boyfriend. It's hard to say but you should really talk to her.
Of course she knows about sex. And although you both may be very embarrassed, both you and your daughter should be mature enough to just forget about it.
You need to have a private talk with her.
Talk about her feelings and if she needs someone to discuss things with.
If she needs help, but not comfortable with you, then help her find someone she can trust.
Maybe you sould of been a parent and went up to a room that you can lock a door.
i am sure she knows abou sex.
just forget about it less embarrassing for both of you. and as for her not knowing what was going on errrrr she's 17 i think she probably knows more than you think.
Of course she knows about sex. I would just leave it. Believe me if you go and talk to her about it it'll make things worse and even more more embarrassing.
Your daughter is 17? Sweetie, she's probably ALREADY HAVING sex. She knows which way is up.
wow ok hum, don't do anything. That's really embarassing but you could always pretend it never hapenned?
It's your own damn fault for not teaching her about sex.
Teach your kid about sex, you moronic idiot.
She needs to know, that's important
This makes me rage so much
Relax, this happens to a lot of people. If she asks you anything about it, tell her you and your boyfriend were just playing a wrestling game. Haha. Works every time!
hahahahahaha
im sure this is horrible for you, but to a reader this is hilarious
*sorry*
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