Need advice on teenagers. Help!?

I need help with myself (sounds weird, but it's true). I used to respect my family and friends and now i find myself swearing at family %26amp; friends, occasionally smoking and drinking with friends, having sex and sneaking out at night. At college, I go to the placement but won't go to the classes in the college as the other people there are very forward and loud and generally im a shy, quiet person. I know I need to change sooner rather than later. Any idea's how I could change? And there is also a chance I could be pregnant at the each of 17 with strict parents and still living at home.. any idea's how to tell them? Any advice is much appreciated.Need advice on teenagers. Help!?
I have no clue about the pregnancy news but for the other part of your question, chances are you are feeling as lonely and frustrated by the swearing, the fighting and the conflict as your family/friends are. By alienating them you are also becoming lonelier. So keep that in mind next time you feel the urge to disrespect your parents. Its not only them who loose, you loose something too, your self-respect and your relationship with them.





My theory is that many negative and aggressive people act a certain way to better hide their own vulnerability. It's easier to curse and alienate people with a bad attitude than to actually get close and ask for people's trust or love. If this is your case, I think you should take the risk, be yourself, take off the shield and let people get to know you. You don't have to prove anything. They won't think you're weak or infantile for needing them.





Drinking, having wild sex and doing all that stuff won't make you stronger, more adult or more sophisticated. It'll just make you feel lonelier surrounded by people who aren't as loving or loyal as your family or your true friends. I'm trying not to sound judgmental or like I know everything (and failing) but this is my best idea. Hopefully you'll figure things out soon.Need advice on teenagers. Help!?
Just try to spend more time with your family. If you spend more time with them theres a less chance you do anything bad. I do this sometimes. And if your preggo just tell your mom when your 18 cause then they cant do anything.
Think about wat ur saying. And if u r pregnant u need to stop drinking and smoking. Just tell ur parents im 14 and pregnant and i had to tell them i was also very shy.
Well the important thing is that you have realized what you are doing and know that you need to change- the change itself will come easily now.


It is a normal part of adolescents to act out, rebel, be moody etc. partially because of hormones and partially because it's just a phase in your life that you need to experience and learn from. The most important thing you can do is to simply think before you act/speak. You know that you shouldn't disrespect your family and friends, smoke, drink, sneak out, skip class, have unprotected sex, so why do you do it? Because you are acting out on your instincts. I think what might help is to wear a constant reminder of the change you want to see in yourself. Whether it be a bracelet, ring, word; whatever. That way, whenever you are about to do something again, you can look at it, remind yourself of your goal and think about your actions. Try giving things up slowly and set goals for yourself.


Example:


week one- no partying (drinking, smoking, sex) on school nights and attend class every day.


week two- no swearing.


And eventually you should be without all of these bad habits.


It's okay to have a good time and give yourself a break from the stresses at school, just make sure it is responsible. If you work hard Monday- Friday at school, then it's *more* than okay to go out with your friends Saturday night. I'm not saying you need to stop having sex or drinking, just think about it more and do it responsibly. ALWAYS use protection and NEVER drink and drive.


As for the pregnancy:


go to the doctors office and get a blood test done to see if you're even pregnant in the first place. Hopefully you won't be and you can come out of this scare learning a valuable lesson- be responsible about sex and always use condoms %26amp; BC. If you are then you need to tell your parents as soon as possible, have a friend go with you if you need support. Of course it will be intimidating and of course they will be dissapointed and probably pretty shocked for a while, but they are your parents and they love you and will support you. In this situation, only you can decide what is right for you; adoption, abortion [hopefully not though], or raising the baby yourself.


You are a good person, you just need to use your sense a little more and hopefully these experiences have taught you some valuable lessons.





xx shanti





edit: crap you're 17! I probably shouldn't advice you to drink or have sex on the weekends, ESPECIALLY if you are pregnant.....well that goes without saying- at any age.