What is your best advice for speaking to your teenager about long-term commitment without sex?

Have a 17 year old daughter who has been dating a young man for 10 months. They are both very much in love. We've been throught the birds and the bees long ago; this is way past that stage....I'm seeking advice on approaching and discussing this topic without invasion.What is your best advice for speaking to your teenager about long-term commitment without sex?
This is a somewhat simplistic approach, but it's a lesson that is easy to grasp.





Take a plain white piece of paper, a separate piece of paper (can be a note, photo or a postcard) and a thumb tack. When you and your daughter are alone, take these objects into a room with her. Ask her what a person usually does with a these items. Ask her to show you what to do with them. (She places the thumb tack into the note/photo/postcard and into the other paper pushing it all the way in (you may want a piece of cardboard behind the paper to hold it in).





Pause. Don't say anything for a second. She's going to be thinking that you've lost your mind, but don't rush it.





Then let her in on something that teens have a difficult time grasping - and that's the consequences of their actions.





You take the thumb tack out of both pieces of paper and say something to this effect:





If I don't need the note/photo/postcard anymore, what do it do with it? (Throw it away - Get rid of it) Once that is done, what is left? (thumb tack and white piece of paper) I'm done with the thumb tack, so it put it away, but there is still this piece of paper left. It was perfectly white and now it has a hole in it. It isn't a big mark, really, but it won't ever go away will it? That one small hole will always be in this piece of paper.





When you make a decision to do something, there is always a response of some kind to that choice. That response is called a consequence. In this case you pushed a thumb tack into a piece of paper and made a small hole.





Even though the hole may seem small, it will forever be there as a reminder of what happened. The consequence of pushing the thumb tack in is that the paper will always be marred from that point on. Nothing can change that.





So, too, is the impact of decisions on our lives. If you choose to do something, you may find that you have left a small hole in your life that will not ever go away. These choices may not seem big at the time, but they will forever affect the rest of your life.





You will always carry that one small hole around with you in your mind. Make choices that keep your heart and soul intact. One small hole can be a lifetime of regrets.What is your best advice for speaking to your teenager about long-term commitment without sex?
Explain to her that her first is someone she in never going to forget and should mean more than just her furst love. that men truly appreciate a woman who saves herself for marriage, and although guys love easy girls they never want to marry them. men appreciate woumen who are very discreet sexaullyand startign young will only lead to multiple aprtners before she decides to marry. Shed hate to give up her virginity to this boy only for him to move on, leaving her heartborken
Just do what my parents did don't tell her not to, don't ask if see has. Just explain to her the passable disadvantages and yes the advantages also explain it from your eyes and tell her she is approaching adult hood and this is one on a long list of hard decisions she will have to make. depending on you views encourage her to come to you before she decides to so that you can assist her with getting appropriate birth control. And ask if she has questions about sex and answer her honestly. she may not want to talk about it but she will respect your honesty when she is older if not now. Hope This Helps.
she's 17 and been with him for 10 months she has already had sex with him, and all u shud do is maybe say do u think its time to go on the birth control pill, or if she wants to go on the pill, don't sit her down and talk to her about sex and stuff, she's 17 not 12 and she's probably already slept with him many times!! and she is probably using protection and taking care of herself oviosuly having her mother on her asking wat to do she has a wonderful mother and been brought up just right!!
';gitter done'; just kidding. take her a put her on the pill unless you want to be a grandma.
I also have a 17 year old daughter who has a long-term boyfriend.





We believe in the Bible, and God. So my talk involves how God knows what is best for you as a Father. It's like telling a toddler not to play in the street. Yes, it may be fun, but it's dangerous. There is a time and place to play for a toddler, there is also a time and place for sex.





We are created to enjoy sex. But God also intended it for sex to be in a loving, commited relationship for life.





If you look at the statistics, the most satisfied sex is found in a marriage.





Sex is fun, but it is also dangerous in the wrong situation. Now there are so many STD's, that nobody is safe, even with a condom, nobody can say that a condom will protect 100%, nobody.





Tell your daughter that it is her body that you are trying to protect as a parent. She is precious, and that waiting is the best thing she can do, till she says I DO.
well dont tell her NOT to do something cause you know just as well as i do when you say dont they do. support her in the decisions that she makes and just explain the risks and things like that to her. let her know that if they are really in love than sex and all dosent really matter. i would get her on birth control cause honestly she either already has or will soon just speaking from a younger point of view i am 23 and can remember the things i did at 17
i just wanted to agree with (just me's) answer,we also believe in the BIBLE,she explained it very well.
I AM 17, my mother told me all about the ins and outs of sex, love and relationships. Theres no way you can tell a teenager that they can't have sex. The best thing to do would be to make sure she knows all about safe sex and the consequences of having unprotected sex eg, aids, herpes, warts and most importantly pregnancy. When i learnt about how much stuff you could get through sex and what could happen, i didn't have sex until i was absolutly ready and my mum was there to support me if i had any worries. She was great. :D Goodluck %26lt;3