Well, I think teenagers are the same as they were in your day.
Except, I think they may care more about what other people think and I think us teens are probably more bitchy? Well I'm not sure...
Umm... the best thing for parents to do is to support us no matter what, even when we've done wrong.
I recently gave birth to the greatest little boy anyone could ask for. My mother was there for me and if she hadn't been I don't know how I would have coped.
Teenage years are difficult for parents I can imagine, because you're tempted to treat them like kids but I think all teens act better if you treat them like adults.
No 13-18 year old likes being told off and grounded... it's better to talk things over I'd say.Teenagers - what advice would you give to a parent on how to help you through this difficult time - as I?
space,support,understanding,discipline and listen.
the first 4 should all be given in proportion.
I think that hardest thing is trying to find out who you are. It's great to here that ';At least there is nowhere to go but up from here!'; Your at the lowest point in your life and sometimes it's just easier to sit in your bed during a thunderstorm with the lights low. Make sure to have their old friends over to help them through. Sometimes the only people who can help are friends.
Parents think they know everything about their teens, they want to assume we are perfect and that they have the best children. Most parents think they are doing the best for their children when most are either to loose about the whereabouts of their children or they are to strict. Teens are going to experiment in life. We will eventually learn from our mistakes. We are not perfect and neither are they. Parents expect to know everything about their children and they don't respect the privacy of their children but when a teen tries to talk to their parents, the parents get angry and don't even try to understand. If you are a parent I would say, know what your children are doing and respect their privacy at the same time, also don't ignore what your kids have to say, everyone opinion is worth something.
As for advice, I'd say that consideration is needed, particularly when planning something big; ask us what we think, and what we would prefer.
For issues, I'd say issues that affect society as a whole, mostly, although we may have a few that affect adults less, or not at all. Developing sexuality, for instance. And I think we are more paranoid about friendships.
#1 realize teens are human beings, they have their own beliefs, hopes and dreams. #2. Teens are no longer children and are preparing for life away from home. #3 Listen more than talk, do not lecture or try to discuss things when either party is angry. #4 Realize they like all humans make mistakes and are entiltled to make them as they learn from them. #5 Realize teens as humans are sexual beings and need factual information and all methods of protection available #6 Choose your words and battles very carefully #7 You do not control your teens they have their own minds and ultimately will do as they choose with good communication and developing a relationship with them that may continue into adulthood they may consult you more on the choices they make. #8 if you want respect from them show them respect
no it hasnt changed...parents are still so crappy and NEVER understand anything like they were never teenagers!!grrr maybe they could TRY and understand how we feel and stop making such a big fuss of it and just LEAVE US ALONE WHEN WE ASK THEM TO and STOP making us do stuff we dont want to do
LISTEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My mother never does that enough. She just jumps in with her vast wealth of experience and doesn't even think that maybe I thought something through on my own.
nope...times are the same. to make it better parents could just leave us alone and give us time to get through it unless your suicidal then you should try and talk it out
well the world hasnt changed much in 12 yrs. we (mostly girls) are very self consious about body image and thats societies fault. being realy supportive about things teens want to do is really important. make it known that a teen can talk to u and U WONT FLIP OUT! that makes us feel really bad. if a kid is body counsious then suggest exercise and change of diet and best bet is to not let them do it alone. as everything else goes its all the same. presure of sex and ';being cool'; just talk to them and try not to be repeatative. and dont be all in there business and dont push.
Before I through in my two cents, I would just like to thank you for trying to become more intune with today's teenagers. In order to make this somewhat confusing time period more enjoyable, listen to your teen's needs, let them make their own mistakes, and dont bombard them with endless amounts of info that theyve already heard a million times. But most importantly, treat them the way you would treat adults.
Well really it depends on what kind of teenager you have.
For example, i myself am 15 and do not want much to do with my parents, ( at least with my social life and my life in genearlly)
I love having parents and having them care for me, do everything for me, and generaly be the amazing people they are. but i feel so unconfortable talking to them about stuff.
But my friends, the same age, they like talking to parents about this stuff.
Basically find out what type of teenager your child is and deal with it that way. Don't limit them to stuff, but actually listen to their point of view and be reasonable.
Don't judge their views but try to see their way and talk through with them and see whether you think it is reasonable or not
Angie x X x
Just try and be as understanding as you can - and do give guidelines!
Also give them space sometimes!
They need to know you are not spying on their every move however much you care!
Be reassuring and praise them up - tell them they look good - build their confidence - and give them your time and listen to them when they want to talk!
if its a gurl be there for her when she needs you themost and she will most liklekyl keep to herself and if she doesnt tell you dont pressure her to tell you as she will be angered..dont let her down
if a boy just let him be if he is sad you could ask him about it but we tend to be stubborn and not tell anyone but out friends or somethign and we wont talk abotu it becuz we think we need to confront it alone
hope it helps
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