Help urgent advice on teenagers.?

I would like to hear from any parent whose teenage son left home after bringing him up for 14 years to be with his father. I would like to have advice on how to cope with the situation and if after a few months they did realize the grass wasn't greener on the other side. Help urgent advice on teenagers.?
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My boss is going through the same situation now. She and her ex-husband have not been together since their son was 4, and she has had custody since then as her ex left the state. Now that her son is 14, he's decided he wants to try living with his father so she's allowing him to do so.





It's very hard for her, but she knows that she needs to let her son really get to know his father now, and that he needs to see for himself that life with his dad is not going to just be a fairy tale - or even decide that he prefers living with his father if that's the way things turn out.





She still has him visit on long weekend and he will be spending Xmas and summer vacations with her. And after this year, he gets to decide if he wants to stay with his dad for another year or go back to his mother.
I know how you feel. But from my mums point of view.





When I was 14, I left my mums home to go live with my father in another state.





Mum was of course devastated. However she would phone me every day just to say hello and after a while she learned to cope.





I never moved back in with mum, I went from living with dad, to owning my own home. But, mum and I are the best of friends (we never got along under the same room), we always call and email each other and see other when we can. So things can work out for the best, like my mum and I finally getting along great when I moved out!.





Its not a case of the ';grass was and/or wasn't greener on the other side';. Sometimes its just simply for a change.





I would advise, don't harras your son and call every 2 hours for an update. Just give him a ring once a day or once evey second day. Just to say hello.





And on the other hand in the mean time keep busy, do some exersize, go shopping, do things you enjoy to take your mind off the feeling.





Unfortunately, we all leave the nest at some stage. It's just his time. Things will be right in the end and you will appreciate the relationship you have with him.