I want advice from teenagers. What can I do to support my young adult children...?

when they have made decisions that may not be in their [perceivable] best interest? Examples might be: school, friend, sexual decisions, fiancee, mate, etc... I want to remain open and helpful, but I don't want to sit quietly and encourage something that I may see as disaster.I want advice from teenagers. What can I do to support my young adult children...?
As a sixteen-year-old:





I can say it's a tough situation, but the worst thing you can do is not to bring things up, and then stew quietly until it's too late. On the other hand, it's important to pick yourr battles. If your teenagers want to wear clothes you think are stupid, or have friends who you think are annoying (but not dangerous), then let them, and you'll have more credibility for the big issues.





The way you approach things is also important. Sitting them down and saying, ';You're wrong! Don't do this!'; isn't going to help. Explain calmly what you don't like, and why you don't feel that it's in their best interest. If they're not ready to talk, keep trying until they are - don't bring it up when you're fighting already. Tell them that it's ultimately their choice, but that you care about them, have experience, etc. And if they take your advice and it works out , don't gloat - they already know. If they don't take your advice, and get in trouble because of it, resist the urge to say, ';I told you so.'; Instead, comfort them and help them deal with the situation they're in. They might not say anything, but they'll probably be more inclined to listen the next time.





I hope this helps!I want advice from teenagers. What can I do to support my young adult children...?
Let them know how you feel, but don't try to force them to do something the way you want them to because they will probably just do what they want anyway and try to hide it from you. It's important to let them make their own decisions (as long as it's not something life-threatening) and make sure they can always talk to you about their lives and problems without fear of you getting angry. If they never make mistakes they will never learn how to make better choices. It may not be easy for you to see them make bad decisions and get hurt from them but sometimes the best thing to do is let them learn on their own. Offer your advice but don't try to control the situation too much.Good Luck!
Keep your distance and that would let them know you're offering them a chance to be able to make more decisions for themself. But, always keep an eye on what they are doing to make sure it is nothing destructive to someone else and especially themself. Try giving them more opportunity to be more independent by giving them more responsibilities but dont tell them to do their responsibilities. Tell them that you're always there for them also whenever they need it, but also when they necessarily dont need it. Should also have a talk with them about responsibility and how you are going to be like this. I think my parents got lucky with me because they were never around and I still did everything I was supposed to and did not get in any sort of trouble. But I think being able to make my own choices helped me mature. I just turned 20 so I'm not too far out of my teens, a few weeks. Even offer books to them that would suggest proper behavior and how to deal with situations and peer pressure. A decent book is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey. It would teach them many lessons that they would use.
say what you got to say a that is all you can do
promise them a small fee for college or what ever as long as they don't give into hormones or peer pressure, if you have a daughter that would most likely keep her pants on.