Does anyone have any advice for dealing with moody teenagers?

My eldest son is thirteen and gets really moody and drags everyone down.It doesnt help that he has adhd. I am getting sick and tired of him.Does anyone have any advice???Does anyone have any advice for dealing with moody teenagers?
All I can say is to use a stick and carrot policy.


The childhood ways of dealing with the child don't work anymore, and they really shouldn't. Imagine, you trying to expect for a cocoon to act the same way as caterpillar or a butterfly does.


He is in an interim stage of his life.


Strangely enough, he doesn't like his behaviour himself, he just doesn't have a courage to tell all of you so.


My 14 year old daughter had these moods for about 2 months on a trot, it was a nightmare for me, for as a child and preteen, she used to be a very understanding, kind and sweet personality - I've never expected THAT from her!


Though through all of her moods, I've swallowed my pride completely, and did everything to be good to her despite anything.


She talked to me only after 4 weeks!!! But it was something! Like an explosion or an earthquake! We chatted all night long, she explained her feelings, she said sorry, and that she saw, that she is hurting me, though she said, she just couldn't do anything about it, she just couldn't stop!


So, please, don't think these moods are entirely under control of your teen.


He understands that he is NOT A CHILD anymore. But he doesn't know HOW to be an ADULT!


Like most of the teens he has a very CRITICAL mind. Any imperfection in anyone (including parents and including even HIMSELF!) irritates him ott! And he understands, that being so easily irritable is also an imperfection - so it makes him even MORE IRRITABLE!


He is YOUR child, and you are the only one to get a key to this closed door!


The only mistake I should warn you about - don't treat him 100% like an adult. At first he'd like it, then he would think that he became a burden on you, and you don't want to acknowledge him as your child anymore (it may also have a very diverse effect on your younger kids or on any younger relatives).


Most of the parents forget, that they should change too. They should revise their ';childhood'; parenting methods, and RAPIDLY develop the new, more mature ones.


Hope you will soon find a way with your son!


Best of luck!!!


PS. Hope you excuse for a lengthy answer - it was really a sore topic for me not long ago!Does anyone have any advice for dealing with moody teenagers?
No, definitlely don't laugh. That was retarded. Anyways, I'm going through the same thing. Except im the one thats moody! And my boyfriend kind of got tired of it to so he reserched it. It could be genitic. Something i never knew! He most likely has bipolor! Which is not a good thing to have. There are a couple things that could help them out a little. Its like a vitmian called ';St. Johns wort '; Could also be because hes hitting puberty. Here this might help a little more!





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So there not going through an easy time either! So you should really take that into mind when its happening. And im positive that laughing is just going ot piss him off more and not even help the problem.


Look into it! There's a whole bunch of stuff on the net that could help you!


hope i helped :)
Talk to him


Discipline him


Give him a big hug full of love


Ask him if something is wrong


Be patient - he's your son, you shouldn't be sick and tired of him





It's probably just a phase. He's 13. He'll grow out of it.





I'm 15, have a happy life, but even I have phases of moodiness for no reason.





Edit: Oh and by the way, I would just get hurt and resentful if my parents packed me off to boot camp without even asking me if I had problems.
I run into moody guys from time to time. Situations vary but usually I make the attempt first to find out whats on their mind. If that brings some sort of result and the solution isn't something ridiculous (like...I want my gf back), then I see what can be done.





If they don't want to communicate then I try to keep them active (since I teach hockey and it's usually in this scenario that I get the moody kid this isn't really all that hard). Usually gettin him active will work off the moodyness.





If nothing works then I tell the kid that its time to throw in the towel for the day. I tell him to join us again when he can improve his attitude.





I also have been known to get hard with a kid from time to time. Usually not for moodyness tho. But it is sometimes effective to a teen guy to intimidate with size. I can do a really good ';mean'; face too. I really try to avoid this tho since I don't want kids to fear me.





For u maybe just keep trying varying combos of these tactics until u find something that makes him respond. And there isn't anything wrong with discipline either. If he is draggin everyone else down then u need to separate him from the rest. My dad would probably have spanked his bum if he carried on too long with this stuff.
Most teen are like this. teens have a lot of pressure on them. example: school, peer pressure, home life and his adhd





I mean i was a nasty 13 year old as I had bullies on my case, teachers, both foster and biological parents on my case and i had social workers and youth workers on my back. It was agony to deal with everything, it felt like i had the world on my shoulders and some kids/teens feel like this.





i use to get grounded lots because of it and it made me resent life and mope about even more but it did stop me from bothering my folks as i spent most of my time alone either outside, out with my mates or in my room.





i guess patience is the key.
A moody teenager? WHO WOULD HAVE THOUGHT?!





He doesn't have ADHD either, even though doctors say he does. What you think is ADHD is just a kid being a kid, back in the day a good parent would smack their kids and tell them to calm down, but now they just medicate them instead. It's not the kid that's an annoying little blob, its his ADHD.





All the hundreds of people who think you have it, stop taking medication and own up to your own defects.
ha ha!!!! that question let alone the details made me laugh.....in about 5 years he won't be moody




















p.s. all teenagers are ';moody'; towards there young siblings and parents











it might be cause you are overprotective....that reeeaaly gets me mad at my dad...just treat him like he is your friend(one that you REALLY care about';








at least for a while


then he'll calm down or miss you acting like his ';mommy';








trust me....my dad finally loosened up and i don't get an attitude with him as much
I know this sounds stupid but go back to the younger days and take his stuff away. Say if your gonna behave like a child, i'll treat you like a child. Take away the stuff he likes the most and he'll soon learn that if he behaves badly he'll get what he doesn't want. Also laugh through his temper. He knows it gets to you and if you laugh, he'll think you find him funny and he won't like it, so he'll stop. Hope this helps (:
Don't cook / wash for him let him fend for himself for a while. take away TV games etc; Then he might see how well off he is. There was a time when a good clip round the ear would have sufficed, those days should come back instead of this medication for something that doesn't exist. They find excuses for every behaviour these days. People grew up Ok before so why not now.
Just Leave Him To It.


These Moods Are Not Going To Last Forever, They May Get Worse But You Can Have Faith In Knowing There Is Light At The End Of The Tunnel.





I Know What Im Talking About I Used To Be Very Moody And It Irritated Me If Somebody Tried To Step In And Deal With My Business.








Good Luck.








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Love him!





Imagine that he got killed today in a terible accident.





Then be glad he's alive! Be glad he's your son, and ';kill him'; with kindness... and love.
laugh laugh laugh even if he gets angry just laugh at him then he will go to his room and leave you alone.
If he asks to do something then let him, it might help with the moodiness
good luck with that! i`m onto my third moody teenager and i still havent worked that one out!
have him clean the bathrooms.
Send them to their grandparents house for a couple of weeks. That will sort them out
talk him into joining the army/navy/sea. cadets.every child should go through one of these it will knock self discipline into them.and you will find they will find the world a less boring place.even people with special needs are treated with gentle persuasion,and help.
Yeah kick him out to play, Moody kids tend to hang around the house all day and and get bored then that makes em feel worse so they take it out on you. It's a hormone thing. Try and keep out of thier way as much as poss.