Well I have 4! 16, 14, 7, %26amp; 6! Be patient !If it were not for the Lord!!I dont know what I would do!! You are in my prayers! Be blessed!! I find that they just go through stuff it does get better!!With GOD all things are possible!!!Any advice for teenagers who are acting out?
First, you need to grow up an be a real parent. How can you let your kids drive you crazy? That makes you look like a lousy ';mom';. If I were you, I'd sit down with my kids an have a long conversation with them about their behavior.
Sounds like I was when I was at that age. Sad to say..Im a mother now myself... My parents did a lot of things to get me to see the light.. Try this.. Think of this.. Tell them this...
You son.. Who is only 13years old.. Tell him that if he doesnt go to school and stay in class, that you will walk him to and that you'll sit in his classes with him if he doesnt start to change... (having my mom in my class was so embarsing to me) Have the teacher send home everyday a note with his stats on it, as to how he did in class. Tell your son he has until the end of the school year to get his grades back up to at least B's.. Ground him from EVERYTHING. Take the computer from him, the tv, the phone, friends, ... Tell him that he will only watch what you will let him. And the times he can have the tv.. Make it good chancels to watch.. Tell him that he can earn things back one by one.. As soon as you get a note from his teacher showing that he has gone up a from F to D then he can have the tv back or computer, ect... The when he gets his D to a C then he can have somethin else back, ect.. You get the picture.. And about the fighting at school for him, tell him that when he has gone 2 weeks without a fight at school, then he can have a friend come over. He can not go places with the friends but they can come over, then when he goes another 2 weeks withut a fight, then youll let him leave the house for 3 hours at a time... Tell him that if you have to take time off work to get him from school, there will be more to his pushinment.. Like make him write sectences..';I will not fight anymore.. X100'; Tell him that his summer is going to be nothing but at the house if he doesnt pass this grade with at least a B, because you know that he was an ';A kid...
About your daughter... Shes 15yrs old.. Thats rape in some states.. Tell her that she cant have a bf, and if you find out that she does, you will take legal action. And if she wants to be able to be trusted again with a boy, then she needs to earn it.. That you are the adult, and you can make her life just as bad as she is doing to you.. call her school tell them that you want this boys mothers number.. If they wont give it to you, then tell them you want them to call her and tell her that a mother from school wants to talk to her.. Give them your number to give to her.. Unless you can get the number from your daughter, by waiting til shes off the phone with him, and hit redail... Yeah redail is great... Speak with his parents and tell them that you have told your daughter not to be hanging out with their son.. Make sure that you tell them that its cause your daughter has done a 360 and that you are trying to get her to turn around again. THats its nothin on their son, that you just want his parents to be known that she cant be calling their house, that that if she does, for them to tel her she cant call there. And to call you to let you know that she did... If this boy drives, and comes to pick her up, tell them that she cant go any place until you see a Drivers licen, and insureance.. This will one let you know where he lives, in case you cant get the phone number... Plus you know where and hows she with.. Take things from her as wel as you did to your son... Telling them both that they need to stop and think about htings, and how it is effecting their other sister and brother..
Tell them that if things dont start to change then their life wont be fun, cause you will have someone babysit them, and have the cost come out of their allowence.. !! If you leave the house, and they are left there alone, and dont want them to use the phone, take the phones with you, or un hook it from outside with out them knowing it. If they try to use the phone they wont be able to.. And when you come home and they tell you that the phone isnt working, you know that they tryed to call out.. Make sure to hook it back up before you go into the house.
As a teacher and a parent, I feel your pain. Unfortunately, there is no quick fix. I would recommend that you keep trying different approaches, knowing the personalities of your children, until you find something that they respond to. Will they respond to punishments, removal of privelidges, rewards for good behavior, money, etc? When you get through some of the typical things, go for some unusual things like taking them to a university to show them a glimpse of what the future could hold, go on a family bonding trip, etc. Above all, talk to them, communicate with them, love them, be kind to them, have their friends over at your house, but hold them accountable for the things that they do. While many of us write bad behavior off as ';typical'; teenage behavior, we must remember that it is not typical. There are many good teens that choose the right things and do the right things all through high school. The stakes are too high for them to be allowed to be ';typical.';
ok well im not a parent, just another teenage student. you sound like a really good parent, and that you have prolly sat down and talked with them. i used to flunk all my classes until my mom stopped being a mom and more like a friend. she really related to me. i've made really good grades since then. remind them how much you love them and that they shouldnt just throw it all away. thats what my mom told me, and it changed me. i also made really good friends with my high school counsler (shes young). you prolly know your kid's potentioal at school. my parents made a routine for me. normally i come home watch tv for an hour and a half, then its my computer time for a half hour(me and my sister are usually seperated) then its homework for the rest of the time/ until its done. then its free time and i can do what i please. i hope that helped, being from a 15 year old. hope it all works out for you!
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