Advice from teenagers please... my daughter is going to be 16 soon?

and she has been telling her friends and her grandparents that her parents are not really bothered about her birthday and never really have been. My daughter's grandma died 5 years ago today. When she passed away for my daughter's birthday that year we just had a quiet day at home because it was only two days after her death. But since then we have made sure that she gets whatever she wants for her birthday and we are all happy too. This year we are giving her 拢200 and her aunts etc are giving her money too, we are going out for dinner and in the evening talking her to the pub for a drink . So why does she tell her friends that she isnt doing much for her birthday? maybe we are not doing enough i dont know i havent compared it to anyone else. So please tell me what you think.Advice from teenagers please... my daughter is going to be 16 soon?
I think she just told her friend she isn't doing much because she wants to let them know that she isn't having a party. If they thought she was having a birthday party without them then they might get their feelings hurt.Advice from teenagers please... my daughter is going to be 16 soon?
she tells her friends that because you may be giving her alot, but yall arent doing alot. your just giving her money and eating. alot is when you pay for a hotel n throw a party there for a night and then her n her friends spend the night at the hotel. well thats what i did for my birthday... it was fun. haha but getting money and eating isnt doing alot.. its just...giving her stuff... idk see what i mean?
She might be doing this because she wants more attention from her friends. So if they think she doesnt do anything/get anything on her birthday her friends might do something for her. I doubt its you or anyone else in her family. I would be lucky to have a party like that rofl. My last birthday (19th) I was with my bf in canada, got a urinary tract infection, payed 50 bucks for antibiotics at the clinic in his town and my parents said THAT was my present. So in other words I got nothing.





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I don't think she means it, maybe it's just a teenager thing. Either that or she doesn't want to talk about it.


I would be very lucky to have as much as 拢200 for my birthday!


(also, I agree with the two answers above me)
Maybe you should ask her best friend because none of us know her and maybe u could invite a few of her friends to dinner so it would be extra fun for her and she cant complain about not being able to do anything.
maybe she thinks that since last yr u didnt do anything u werent gonna this year either maybe last yr she wanted to do somethin n u wuldnt get up and around to it since her gramma died! did she wanna do somethin last year? if she didnt then i dnt kno y...srry
she probably feels bad still and feels the pain. . . she probably also doesnt want 2 do anything for her birthday because it will just bring back memories
its coz your just giving her money. you should giver her someting personal that you know she will like as well as the money. And you should let her have a party (probubly sleepover) and dont make 2 many rules
Maybe she wants to do something else as well. Ask her if she wants to go anywhere else. Like cinemas or bowling or something.
I'm an old teen but I still can't tell you what she wants just ask her she can tell you what she wants. Just guessing she might not want to go out with her parents.
she will want a big party with her mates like a house party
I think that she is just saying that because she feels like it might not be enough but it deff is. I never got anything as good as 200 dollars she should be very happy and grateful for getting that. she is a young teenager they don't know what they want and they just say stuff like that i know this sounds bad but it might be she just wants people to feel bad for her (get attention). I know i grew up with nothing and when my birthday came around i hated it because i never got anything just a cake and i use to tell everyone i hate my birthday and i never get anything e.t.c i don't think you should let it get to you to much i know it does bother you because it's your little girl and you want her to be happy i fully understand. But from what you have said your a very giving and loving parent and she should be happy with what she is getting. There are people out there who don't get anything for there birthday. I hope this helped she will grow out of it and stop saying stuff like that. i don't think you should look into it to much. Hope she has a great birthday and you have a good time also. hope i could help a little.
I understand this is quite a sensitive subject and can be difficult, but don't you think that's a bit much? I'm 16. Admittedly my birthday wasn't great - I got a book that didn't come in time for Christmas. But 拢200? Really? I wouldn't. Sounds quite spoiled, and I know you're trying to make up for her feeling like that, but she shouldn't be so self-centered, not to be offensive. =/ Ask her if she wants to do anything with friends as well as going for the meal/ to the pub. If you she doesn't usually have people sleep round, maybe let her have a few friends round for the night. Have her choose some things like ice cream and films or something, or get it without her, depending on her attitude. They could go to the meal/pub too? Maybe go out for the day with her friends to a theme park or something. Even a concert [again I don't know her, so I can't really be specific].





Don't make her a spoiled brat, but make it a day/night/birthday to remember fondly.