What would you do?need teenager advice?

My husband and I went out of town for the weekend about a month ago and my ex (kids dad) was supposed to come and stay with the kids. I found out after I got home that he didn't come and stay. He told the kids they were old enough to be alone and then he told them to lie and tell me he came and stayed. Today my son(16) told me my daughter(17) came home drunk with her boyfriend (19)and his friend(19). I am totally shocked. I thought she was a good girl she never ever gives me trouble about curfew etc. She always tells me where is and who she is with and I have never had reason to doubt her(I check up occasionally also) My question is what do I do now. Should I ban her from seeing her boyfriend(they have dated 1 1/2 years) Should I ground her? I am at a loss because this is a shock to me. I never expected this from her of all people. I know that her boyfriend drinks even though he is not old enough but I always though it was when she wasn't there. Her curfew on the weekend is midnight and when she comes home she always comes in and kisses me goodnight so I know she isn't drinking or I would smell it. ADVICE please!!!What would you do?need teenager advice?
Personally, I would ground her the next month. When she gets out of school, she comes straight home. No phone, no tv. She has to do dishes every night after dinner and I'd give her another task, whether it's kitty litter, walking dog, vacuuming, etc.





She needs to know that behaviour will not be accepted. I would also re-just her curfew after the month passes. If she use to be home at 11, I would make it 9 from now on.





What would you do?need teenager advice?
She should definetly be called out on it and have some kind of consequense but she is 17 there is no way you will be able to keep her from him and you do not want her to sneak around. Maybe take driving privlages away for awhile or something like that. She is so close to being out on her own that you do not want to push her away but you deserve respect and she needs to respect your home.
teens do stupid stuff to try out things, this was probably her first time bc she realized that it was the perfect opportunity to try it... i wouldn' t ban her from seeing her bf, but you should definitely ground her and explain to her that her decision was wrong... don't be too harsh because we all make mistakes and we are all curious at times... i hope things work out okay :O)
Everyone makes mistakes.





I dont think you should totally lose trust for her.





Just ground her %26amp; take her cell phone away. tell her your disapointed in her which will probably effect her. dont rat out that her brother told just say you found out. Dont make her break up with him just dont let her see him out side of school until her groundings over.





Try to forgive
you need to talk to her about it but try not to be too harsh...tell her if it happens again she wont be able to see her boyfriend anymore...make sure she understands the risks of drinking and be clear about what will happen if you find out she drinks again.
i agree with that guy. besides im 13 and i stay home alone 16 and 17 is too old to have someone watch over TEENAGERS!! i would hate to have a mom that does that. just ground her bad. teach her a lesson and dont get a ';baby sitter'; next time.
Whether you like it or not, your daughter is going to drink. Grounding her is just going to push her away. As much as you dislike it, she is going to do what she wants. Just make sure she knows how much is too much.
i dont know why, but it seems like your son's lying.








if hes not, then you just need to have a SERIOUS talk to your daughter.








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Get to her now b4 she goes away to college. She's wrong for that but idk what to tell you because im only 18 but i hope it works out for you all
do not ban her from her bf. she will rebel and do it anyways





happened to all 3 of my neighbors daughters








just talk to her about what you know
Smack your son upside the head for being a tattle-tale.
first of all they are old enough not to have a baby sitter i was staying at home alone at 16.


drinking at that age isnt that big of a deal im sure she wouldnt be doing it every night..banning her from seeing her boyfriend will make her hate you and rebel against you.and you will more then likely loos her..im 18 and if my mum did that to me i dont no what i would do.... just sit her down and tell her that you dont have a problem with her having a few drinks but to keep it as a weekend thing and only a few im sure if you be the big person about this she will feel more grown up and have more freedom.
I am sorry to say but as a 14 year old I realize that you are upset and surprised but as normal teenager some of my friends drink and do some other stuff and it is normal. instead of going straight to punishing her, you sound like your pretty close to your daughter, just talk to her and explain why you dont want her to do that and dontt ban her from her boyfriend because all that will do is cause her to hate you. try to find a different way to punish her. it is a way diffrent world out there then i think it used to be haha.
I'm putting myself in her situation a young teenage girl w no adult to answer to for the weekend! I would have partied too that doesn't make her a bad kid at all the hardest part is just admitting that our babies are growing up and we have to start letting go. I do think thought that I would talk to her and let her know that I know what she did and that I'm not proud of her, and that if she wants to continue to be trusted she needs to be trustworthy when she's being watched and when she isn't
well you cant take it to the extreme the one time she messes up , she's only human it was probably just a careless mistake . dont lock her down and ground her because she will end showing even worse behavior , so just take it easy and probably change her curfew to 10 instead of 12 just to show her you are displeased and that is not accceptable . you should probably talk to her boyfriend about geeting your daughter invovled in what he does . good luck .
ban her from seeing her boyfriend. She shouldn't be dating or hanging around with guys like that. Ground her and take away her things (cell phone, TV, comp, gameboy, etc)
tell the 16 year old to stop being such a ******* goodie goodie