Friday, January 8, 2010

Long Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?

So I'm having a little trouble and need some help. My girlfriend and I live 40 minutes away, our long distance relationship was going good and we've seen each other quite often. Here lately something has been eating at me. I've had a few girlfriends in my life around 7 but none of them have actually been serious relationships, but this one is and has been. We have been dating for a little while now and we just don't talk as much as we use to. Here recently she has gotton a job and has joined several programs in her school which cut more time. Right now we really aren't talking much because she's gotta pay her cell phone bill. We still talk on the house phone when we can. Yesterday we had a little argument and then someone got involved and just blew it way out of portion which made it worse. Well we made up and everything is good I suppose since she said she wasn't mad at me and to cheer up and it would be okay, but little things like all of that has just been eating at me and eating at me and I'm beginning to wonder if this could work? She is the first girl I've ever fallen in love with and I'm the first boy she has fallen in love with. We trust each other very much, but as I said thing has just been bothering me. This may be a little stupid, but as I said, can this work? Anyone have any advice?Long Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?
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then worry about your relationshipLong Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?
Girls are the devil.... The always say don't worry everything will be ok. From my experience the best thing you can do is trust that little voice inside your head and that little queasiness in your stomach... I would suggest you talk things out with her fully explain how you feel and what is eating you up inside that is the only way to know what is going on...
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Well long distance relationships never work.


I think you guys should take a break,


Because it's bothering you more and more and more,


which isn't good.


So you should wait until your older.


Because it doesn't look like you guys have time for each other at all.
i've always been told





Long distance relationships are for fools.





THat is what i'm told.








Ps. sry i didnt read da story i just read the first bold line and that was my advice.
long distance relationships will always bring hard ship and worry so maybe tell her you think it would be better to see other people but if it


is really serious then you may have to spend more time with each other
This is the first time I heard a 40-minute drive being referred to as a ';long distance relationship'; ;-)
it can totaly work





my best advice would be to take her out at least once a month... otherwise your not togeter enough... other than that, just have fun!
that's not a long distance relationship...
NO...your a teenager...have fun and dont get stuck with a long distance relationshio that wont work =D
idk , it a fifty fifty


mght work out or might not
Long distance things are difficult under any circumstances. For teens, they just never seem to survive. It's easy to be close to people who see everyday. But someone who's distant and disconnected from your school, your friends, you're hang-out-in-person-with social life is someone who's hard to stay close to.





It's different for people who've been married or together for years and years and have a strong foundation and relationship to fall back on.





Also, b/c you're both teenagers, you've got hormones raging. It's natural to want to give in to attraction and be open to new and exciting dating adventures. This puts a strain on most teenage relationships regardless of distance. High school sweethearts that get marry is normally a story for small town people who can stay together b/c there just aren't that many fish in the sea.





Now, I'm not saying you should give up or be discouraged. But realize that one of you is bound to get a crush on someone else, and the fact that your partner isn't around is going to make that tough. Then again as teenagers, there's a pretty good chance this relationship wouldn't last an incredibly long time anyway.





My advice: Just relax and enjoy what you have. If you're both really sharing these strong and powerful feelings for each other, then nothing' will tear you apart. Just remember, though, that you might not be as close as to each other as you both want to be.
ok. i thought i was starving for attention in relationships but man you just plain sound obsessive.





your calling it a problem solely cause you have less time together? um you think there is gonna be a relationship where you will be available for each other 24/7? someone will have to work.





if you trust each other there should be no worries. you still talk on the phone even if its just the house phone. your in a lot better situation the a lot of married couples even. just make sure you get the majority of each others free time. not all because u guys do need some space.





my advice? stop being obsessive, since you trust her you have nothing to worry about. i tell my girl as long as she is honest, faithful and gives me most of her free time there isnt an issue as long as she tells me where she is going in advance. because we all need breaks and time to spend with friends and such. relationship is built on the foundation of ';love, trust, and respect';
I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SITUATION. IT CAN WORK OUT IF YOU CHOSE TO. ITS OK TO LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLES OPNINONS BUT ITS HOW DEEP IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE WITH HER. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS LIKE. DO I STILL WANT TO DATE OTTHER PEOPLE. HOW MUCH DO I LOVE HER. HOW FAR ARE WE GOING. DOES SHE MAKE ME HAPPY. THINK OF AS MUCH QUESTIONS AND ANSWER THEN YOURSELF. 40 MILES IS NOT THAT FAR.. TRUST ME. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER MORE, SNEAK BY AND SEE HER. SUPRISE HER. AND REMEMBER YOU WILL NEVER FORGET YOUR FIRST LOVE.
Well I suggest that you stick with it until it doesn't work because there is no telling if things could all of the sudden get better or take a turn for the worst. If you got your self into this relationship then you just have to ride the roller coaster through the ups and downs. But in the end if it doesn't work out then hey at least your young and you will have learned a valuable lesson from it. Just feel it out and see if its worth your time.
It could work. But do you really want to put your self through something like this. I had a long distance relationship and it actually worked for 2 years. I am now in a relationship with someone I can see whenever i want and it's what i need in my life. I lived in New York while my now ex- boyfriend lived in south carolina....it just got too hard even though we were very much in love it was just too difficult to go without seeing eachother and feelings were eventually lost. I'm not saying that you can't make this work...it's just that relationships are meant to be spending time with eachother and having a physical connection, if you lack in physical contact then it is very difficult to continue a relationship. Just do what you feel is right, and ask yourself if its worth what youre feeling right now...


Good luck
That to me isnt a long distance relatioship.


im 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and we love each other loads. we live 50 mins away and i still get 2 c her at least 3 times a week.


u need a break. dnt tell her just driftoff a bit but not totally. after that she will realise how much u mean 2 her and there wont b amny arguments after that





it can only work if u believe it will.
Well


in my opinion


you DONT really love her as much as you think


or you DONT trust her


its on


or the other


because


if you really do care for her


little things wont bother you as long as you guys are still together


thats all you would really care about


so do yourself a favor


and tell her how you feel


because if it REALLY is love it shouldnt go down the drain for


little arguments


or assumptions








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dude its really up to you whether it works or not for like 6 months i dated my girl friend from another state it was frikin hard she became very frustrated and little things like you said would get blown out of proportion... in the end one of you ultimately will have to be the stronger one.. my gf tried to break up with me four times i was very depressed eventually i made the move and now i live closer to her and we're doing alot better. but i mean unless you see yourself goin super far with this girl you may want to let it go cause its alot addition time effort and emotion that your gonna put in this... but if you want to be with her and she wants it as well then of course you can do it 40 minutes is alot better than being a whole state away... but you have to make sure she wants the same thing most def. with long distance there's no time for bull. you have to ask her straight out how much do you want this? and she and you should know that its gonna be difficult and expect it....
Personally I went through the same thing and after 3 yrs. found out through his brother that he was cheating on me. He was always attentive to me and we always made time for each other, we would even talk on the phone all hours of the night, had GREAT communication and I could talk to him about EVERYTHING. We were planning on getting married and then one day, him and his brother had a BIG blow out and the brother confessed everything to me (in details). He said my boyfriends loves me so much and never got involved with any girl other than sex. (nice ha!!)


So although many long distance relationships do work out, you need to understand that you are not in her daily life and it is possible for her to meet someone that is able to be more actively involved. It also depends on age, if you're still in high school forget it, find a local girlfriend. If you see that she is trying, don't give up. Look for signals.





P.S. tell her to get METRO PCS (unlimited minutes) cheap monthly payments or switch to the same cell phone company for free minutes mobile to mobile.

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