Tough mom needs teenager advice...?

My daughter wants to go on a weekend camping trip with her boyfriend. She is 14 and he is almost 16. She has been dating him for a year, but they live 40 minutes apart so they only get to see each other about once a week. The camping trip is with his family. They apparantly will have 2 different tents, and she will be in one and he will be in another one. This issue has come up on numerous occasions and my husband and I have repeatedly said, ';No.'; because I do not feel it is appropriate. I have spoken to the boyfriend's mom also about my feelings about the two teenagers ';going away for a weekend';, and she assured me that the ';going away'; issue would not occur again. It is their one year anniversary, but I still do not feel it is appropriate..... is it?Tough mom needs teenager advice...?
Really I would say that it depends on your daughter, is she trustworthy and honest?? Personally I wouldn't let my 14 year old daughter go away for the weekend with her 16 year old boyfriend. If she is trustworthy and you feel like you can trust her and you can trust his parents to keep them under control then I would say you could consider it but if you can't answer yes to both of those questions then I say you should say no.Tough mom needs teenager advice...?
It is not appropriate for her to go and just keep putting your foot down...I cant believe she even asked, my mom would have put her foot in my bum if had...Keep up the good work mom.
No!!! I agree with you and your husband completely, I mean ask yourself are these parents going to be with these kids 24/7... I don't think so and if your like me I'm not ready to be a grandma, or would I want my kids to ruin their lives... She may get mad but she will get over it!!!!! Good Luck
I also have a 14 year old daughter and there is no way I would ever allow the trip. We were all teenagers once and know other things can and will happen if given a chance. Your daughter will probably never understand until she has a daughter of her own to look out for. The other mom most likely has good intentions, but it's risky.
It is normal that they want to celebrate their one year relationship. However, 14 is too young to be in a serious relationship. I know, I have been there, there isn't much you can do to stop it. However, going away for the weekend is nuts and his parents should not be encouraging it. They should be saying no as well as you. It is nuts!!!!





If it is possible, try to come up with something else that she ';has'; to do that weekend. Is there something that you think will be able to distract her? What about a trip with her best girl friend to somewhere special? Something that will make her forget somewhat that she is missing a weekend with him. But, I would never, ever, even think about allowing this. I have a son and when he was 16, if he asked to spend a weekend with a girl or thought he was okay to invite her on a family trip, I would have asked him if he had lost his mind.
I'm 14 years old and i would be in totall shock if my mom let me do that with an older guy. It'd be putting me in a bad situation. Anything could happen durning that time, let her know that she cant ';go away'; with him but they can do (other options) and tell her it is better then nothing. Koodos for being a good mom.
If you feel it's not appropriate, stick to your guns. Sure she will be upset but will get over it. I think 14 is too young to even understand the concept of a committed relationship.
this is tough. I would say that if U trusted the parents 2 make sure that the kids were being kids %26amp; not playing adult games after every1 fell asleep then U could let her go. if U thought this was not appropriate then she should not be ';dating'; yet either.
I'm the mother of a 17-year old girl, and I applaud your stand on this issue. No matter how much the boy's parents say they will keep them apart, kids will always find a way to get together if they want to badly enough. I think 14 is WAY too young to ';go away'; with her older boyfriend. If the kids want to celebrate their one-year anniversary, I'm sure you can help them come up with something more appropriate for her age. I know how hard it can be to stand up for what you feel is right when your child is begging and pleading, promising you the world if you will let her do something ';just this one time'; but you are SO right! It sounds like you and your husband are on the same page with this, so present a united front, but also give her some options for a different way to celebrate what to her is a very important occasion.