Tough mom needs teenager advice....?

My daughter wants to go on a weekend camping trip with her boyfriend. She is 14 and he is almost 16. She has been dating him for a year, but they live 40 minutes apart so they only get to see each other about once a week. The camping trip is with his family. They apparantly will have 2 different tents, and she will be in one and he will be in another one. This issue has come up on numerous occasions and my husband and I have repeatedly said, ';No.'; because I do not feel it is appropriate. I have spoken to the boyfriend's mom also about my feelings about the two teenagers ';going away for a weekend';, and she assured me that the ';going away'; issue would not occur again. It is their one year anniversary, but I still do not feel it is appropriate..... is it?Tough mom needs teenager advice....?
Im torn. You've let her date a boy since she was 13 and now your worried about her going out of town with him and his parents....Tough mom needs teenager advice....?
As long as his parents are going with and they will make sure that they will be in two different tents, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Keep in mind that they are teenagers and if you don't give them a way to see each other, they will find a way to do it and chances are the parents won't be around when they do.


This happened to me two years ago and my parents told me I couldn't go so instead I told them I was going to a friend's house for the weekend and then went with him and his family anyways. I ended up staying in a tent with his mom-by CHOICE. I wouldn't want to be doing anything ';inappropriate'; when I'm on a trip with his family.


I would let your daughter go on the trip. This shows that you trust her, so chances are, she will feel more comfortable coming to you with issues in the future.
C'mon mom, stick to your guns. It's NO, definitely.
If his family is going to be there and supervise I don't see why you wouldn't allow them to go...





But that is my opinion..I wouldn't let them go off camping alone..but with his family if you think they are responsible people (who wouldn't be drunk and smoking dope while your kid sneaks around) I can't see a reason to say no..my mother let me stay at my boy friends house when I was 14, his parents were there and we never were sneaky (she told me if i did anything to get in trouble that would be the end of my relationship and I respected her warning my parents meant any threat they ever issued)





But its a judgment call on his parents -





Good luck
well she is 14. this means that she's going to feel at least slightly uncomfortable with the thought of something REALLY innapporpriate. chances are that they have made out before. it happens and its really not that bad. but if you trust that you've raised your daughter the right way, then i say sure she should go. if you aren't sure than talk to her. if she gets annoyed and tries to avoid the subject and looks slightly nervous, no. if you talk and she's ready to listen, yes. and if you talk and she says ';i know mom'; with sincerity, then yes. i am 14, and I know a lot about 14 year olds because of that fact. but you are the mother and in the end, you and husband have the final decision. and if you feel comfortable with talking to the boyfriend, you should. just make sure he doesnt tell your daughter he and you talked. she will probably rebel if she finds out. 14 year olds are very mature these days BUT they also are going through puberty and their hormones are doing things to them. take all these things into consideration but most importantly, its how responsible your daughter acts. and dont base this off of her age. responsibility has no age limit
nope. not at 14 anyway. if it was my kid it wouldn't happen til she was 18. unless there is a way you could go with and chaperone also? might be worth a night in the wild to take care of your kid and make her happy.
My oldest daughter is also 14. This is a very tough call. Since you have already said no stick to your guns.





I personally wouldn't allow my daughter to do it. But however it would depend on the child. Is she trustworthy? Is she responsible? If you do change your mind sit down with the young man and his family and request that certain guidelines be followed.





However asking a teenager that knows it all to follow a guideline is asking nothing short of a miracle.





Best of luck to you!! Hopefully I have helped a bit.
Ok I'm 17 but I'm pretty responsible and do you trust your daughter?If you do then you should let her go and have fun.I had a relationship like hers before and my mom trusted us and so we went out together all the time.We never did anything.So anyways,if you trust her then let her go.(I maybe pregnant now but that is by choice and I don't live at home and my mom supports it very much because me and the daddy are getting married.)Just trust her.Besides she needs to live life and not be sheltered all the time,it isn't good at all for her!!
i would say yes, but have a stern talk with your daughter about sex and the consequences of it. show her what giving birth looks like(google birth videos), tell her that a child costs on average $11,000 a year, and talk to the boyfriends mom about possibly another boy/brother/male cousin etc sharing a tent with the bf and another female sharing the tent with your daughter, it would help especially if they are a light sleeper. good luck, i hope all works out well.
sorry for her but she's too young for that
no its not. its OK for teens to be with each other just not a weekend. i would not let her.
First of all you r her mom whatever you say goes. There r alot of teenage pregnancies i would talk to his parents before allowing my daughter to go. good luck, and remember she may only be 14 but you need to let her Ive and learn.
no it is not.I got to sleep over my boyfreinds 16 and lied about sleeping in another room .His mom tried to get him to do the right thing but he did not listen.His mom also secretly got drunk alot too and left her being careless.This over night stuff will surely lead to bad things down road.Not a good idea.
dont let her go ..when shes pregnant ..has has to get an abortion..or adoption...ull regret it and she will wish u never let her go.
I understand you are questioning you're decision but you need to stick with your gut feeling. If she was a little older, the decision may be a little different but I would be cautious. I was a teenager once (and not too long ago) and they can be sneaky- with parents around or not. Hold your ground and don't let her go.
I think that it is perfectly all right to let her go camping with his family. Your daughter will hate you for saying ';no'; again and there really is no good reason for denying her wish except semblance of propriety. Have a heart!
No!