Teenager Advice?

I have a 15 year old daughter and my ex-husband is going from one relationship to the next and then another one and this time he found a 29 year old, he's 46. A May-December romance, if that's what he wants fine, but my daughter keeps comparing me to her and it really hurts my feelings. Everything I try to do with her she tells me she will do that with her father's new girlfriend. I'm only 41, I'm not over the hill yet. I'm like a big kid and love to have fun but she compares me to this girl all the time and I don't know what to do? I literally can't even speak to my daughter because she won't even give me the courteousness to answer me. This is the 5th time I have been through this with different woman he has exposed her too and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm losing my daughter. On Mother's Day she didn't even say Happy Mother's Day to me and she told me she didn't even give it much thought in reference to me, but they celebrated it with her Dad's new girlfriend....Teenager Advice?
awwww :( that's so sad.


well you guys should talk. heart to heart


tell her it hurts you that you're being compared.


its hard to compete with riches and material things especially teenagers loooove things. they can be easily bought.





i just wish you the best.


and happy mothers day :)Teenager Advice?
Your daughter's age and the girlfriend is closer..... may mean something to her. I would suggest that you remain the stable person in her life because he goes through women. Let her know in subtle ways that you will be there for her, no matter what.
I feel for you! I guess when all is said and done, you can only tell her you love her and what you prefer for her. She is 15 and teenagers can think they can do what they want, I guess.


Can you get counselling for you?


Good luck, dear.
Welcome to motherhood of a teenager. Just try to be supportive and be the best mother you can. Your daughter will grow up some day.
Way too much too read, so I'll guess most of your rant and answer with -





';Salad Fingers Rocks';
i feel for u..


ur daughter is just too immature now.





just be stable and hope this will become fine.
Give it time. Perhaps you daughter IS a 15 yr old and your ex's girlfriend is STILL 15 and never grew up, thaqt's y they get along.





And it's like all things, the grilfriend will soon find your ex to be too slow for her, rught now it's probably new to her. I once dated an older man, thought it was great at first, but soon the age difference creeps in I felt like a nurse more then a girlfriend. Besides he wasn't hat great a lover either.





Hope it works out for you





Lil 1
Your 15 yr old is acting like a 8 year old. I would stop trying to please her in those ways of hanging out as a teenage mom/GF w/ a bmw.... as you already said, they come and go.. Just be there for your daughter and guide her w/ good morals and in the long run she will see YOU are the one who was there thru thick and thin and not only to shower her w/ gifts. Teenagers don't respect there parents like we did growing up. jBut in the long run...the proper guidance and real love is what will overall be the most important part of her life. Good luck !
Ok, for starters, you are so not old! 41 is young, and the fact that your ex-hubby is with some young 29 year old is because hes a lil pervert going through a mid life crisis. And your daughter is only clinging ot her because she is only 14 years older than her, and it is easier to make a friend with someone so young. Also, she may admire her fashion sense, and maybe your fashion sense isn't as modern as it can be. To fix that, try being active in the things your daughter likes. Start to take care of yourself, and be confident. There is nothing more a girl can admire than confidence. Hope I HELPD!


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I am sorry that you're going thru this. I am only 19 but I feel like in some ways I did this exact thing to my mother when I was about 14 or 15. It wasn't with my Dad's new wife or girlfriend though because I never liked any of them. But this is just a phase you have to understand that. I'm sure right now she's really concerned about being popular and ';cool'; and all that. So it's almost like she wants to believe in some way that this woman is her mom or someone like a mother to her because she's younger and does ';cool'; things with her like taking her shopping or whatever(not that u dont). She may just feel more comfortable around her because shes a lil bit closer to her age. Maybe there's things she feels uncomfortable talking about with u. That has nothing to do with age by the way. Since this woman isn't her real mom she probably feels like she wont judge her. Trust me though, she does really love u and she knows you're her only real mom. Just try sitting her down and maybe talking to her about your feelings. She may not even know that u care about what she does or is doing. As for the Mother's day thing, I'm sorry, that you'll just have to move past and hopefully next year is better for u!





PS: Happy Mother's Day!
tell your teen to sleep with your ex and then you join in.

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