So here's a short story,
6th %26amp; 7th grade wieghed 330 lbs
after 7th grade i decided i needed to loose ALOT of wieght.
Lost like 80lbs im at 260 now and 6 foot
Im still anti social and i sweat when im around alot of people or cute girls i dont know.
ANY TIPS FOR ME TO BE CONFIDENT AND TO MAKE THE SWEAT GO AWAY?Need Girl Advice (Teenager and Fat)?
GO TO THE GYM%26lt;%26lt;%26lt; seriously not only ull lose weight but also gain confidence, trust me i did that , let out all ur anger there and ull see how much u improve .............
talk to urself in front of the mirror and see ur body language, attend some confidence inproving classes , make urself noticed, and most important trust urself and not others ...
in addition
its good that u go to the gym , it will help u a lot nice to hear that from u keep up the good work..Need Girl Advice (Teenager and Fat)?
congratulation on losing so much weight!
stand up straight when you talk and speak and walk with confidence.
be proud of yourself for losing so much weight.
it seems that if you put your mind to do something, you can do it.
so just stand your ground %26amp; eventually your confidence will go up and the sweating will go down.
:)
You just need to be comfortable with yourself. You look different now..better I'm sure. One you like your apearance so will others. Just smile more and be open..it will work.
Just believe in yourself and wear lots of deodorant! Just be yourself. It's the key I promise!
booze and deodarant
Friday, January 8, 2010
Kissing advice - Teenager!?
Hey im 15 and my girlfriend is 16, weve been kissing for a few weeks now and its progressed to a little bit of nipping, but its kind of getting boring for me. Just a lot of repetitive motions and i need some suggestions to change it up so its not just the plain old parted lips kiss with sucking on the upper lip and ocassionally the lower.
Is it odd that i always have the upper and she always has my lower lip? Well she is the kind of girl who likes me to take the lead and more commanding role.Kissing advice - Teenager!?
If thats as far as you've gone, then slowly putting your tongue in her mouth would be the next step. Test it, if its her first time, she might not like it and think its gross. Especially if you dont know how to do it. So just test it and see if she touches your tongue with hers (when your inside her mouth). And don't get too excited about it, or it might be too fast for her, and again, gross to her. Definetly, grab the back of her neck, and her waist (no b00bs, azz, etc). I wouldnt go exploring other parts of her body with your lips until you've fully explored her mouth. lol
And you should be stressed...sounds like its your first time...so don't stress about being stressed XDKissing advice - Teenager!?
Tongue. kiss her neck and ear.
try biting the lip lightly ?
the only reason why its boring is your kissing just to kiss not because the moment is right just because your dating doesn't mean you have to kiss all the time.
but try to lightly hold the back of her head and pull her in then kiss her when you break apart nuzzle her nose with yours then give her a peck and then walk away make her want you more
Kiss and lick her sushi.
take the lead! since shes older shes prbly afraid to make too aggressive a move if you are as experienced as her or something. show her what your made of. im not saying devirginize her or anything just mix things up. try silently saying things when your kissing. like spelling your name or saying weird sentences. shes never going to know. then its not so repetitive.
good luckk xx
answer mine too??
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
i know what the other guy said. but he doesnt like his mom that much.. need another opinion. thanksss
u take lead huh? ok.
neck and ears bro
all i gotta say
but then again... in order to do this u need to be really attracted to her
Start slowly. Don't try to thrust your tongue in your partner's mouth right away. Simply press your lips against theirs. Close your eyes as you do so to heighten the intimacy and to avoid looking at the pores on your partner's nose. Imagine your eyes are being controlled by a dimmer switch.
Open your lips slightly. Once the kiss is accepted, try opening your lips slightly. If the other person follows suit, try slightly varying the openness of your lips (both more and less open) throughout the kiss. You may wish to explore the person's lips and tongue a bit with the tip of your tongue. There are no rules; just try to make your motions smooth.
Consider the French Kiss. As the kiss progresses, you may want to try French kissing, in which you insert your tongue deep into your partner's mouth and let it dance with your partner's tongue.
Try some necking. If things are going well, consider spicing it up a bit by moving your head down to kiss and lightly nibble your partner's neck. WARNING! Hickeys are likely if you haven't refined your skills in the art of necking.
Keep your arms busy. You seldom, maybe never, see a great kiss in which the participants just let their arms dangle at their sides. At the very least, embrace your partner and gently pull him or her to you. You can also run your hands through your partner's hair; or caress his or her back, sides, or other parts of the body. Wrapping your arms around your partner can also be a big TURN-ON!! Where you put your hands should be determined by the status of your relationship, your desires, and your partner's signals, whether spoken or communicated non-verbally.
Try them, buddy ;)
try french kissing... lick her tongue and then suck it.. tel her to do da same! U can give occasional lovebites too :P ..kiss her neck ..try new stuff :P..BEST OF LUCK..!!
put your hand up her top? if she is comfortable with it. lick her- kiss her neck, pull her close to you-
let me no if these help or not..
upper or lower.. its purely coincidental...
u will find out who takes the lead wen u start having s**
sex
i got my first kiss at age 23, but i think i figured out how to make out pretty well, we have a ';kissing battle'; and try to out kiss the other gradually. i usually win. Also, use the tongue lightly and see if she returns the favor.
by how u dscribed that idk if u guys r using tongue?well i say use tongue LOTS OF IT HEHE.making out and using tongue its so fun cuz u can do so many creative things.like i sucked on my bf tongue one time not on purpose but he still liked it lol and like idk i started to get bored wiht making out so i came up wiht creative things like kisssing his tghroat and he wud tlk to me when i kised the front of his throat and i cud feel it buzzing it was so cool lol and i like licked his neck nd suicked it it was so silly nd fun then i loved givin him lil kisses on the lips like 10 in a second like fast they r rly cute good luck u will think of stuff dont worry
lol just try new things out and see how it works out 4 you
grab the ***, just do it.
stick your tongue in and make it more passinate girls like tongue
well, if she wants to to take control then do it, experiment and play with your tongue inside her mouth, not all girls like that but it would change it up, but DO NOT stick your tongue deep in her mouth or into her cheeks, it feel really gross and unattractive, try to move your hands from her neck to her hips to change it up? good luck teenager
Don't know im younger that you. I dont know grab her asss our something. Make it fun. Hahahaha I dont know
Ok buddy. I'm a girl and i think all boys are cuties and i want to kiss them all! I think you need to try a little of each flavour. I know..some boys just dont cut it for this princess. Better watch out some peoples breathe stank like pussy , some people smell like tuna!
Boys with big lips are the best kisses (head for the trumpet/ trombone player..they kiss the best.)
Next time when you kiss your girl..and a little ZASS and smack that bitches *** and make her go.. ';ohhh';. then pick her up and throw her down...and ride on that booty like a rocket ship.
Well thats how i wanna do it.
XOXOXO
Karin!
use tongue but not too much. dont choke her with your tongue and use hands more. dont go further then you are both comfortable with by try exploring the body (doesnt have to be sexual)
stick ur frikin tounge in her mouth!! get it on!! advance to things more than just kissing....mmhmm you no wat i mean ;) lol
try new things lol
okay well im a 16 year old girl so i know a few things now if u wanna make her hair stand on in just nibble on her ear not to hard though and one time when you kiss you could try putting your tongue in i know it sounds gross but its not and you strt by kissing her on the lips than movign down with her necks chest tummy and so on if you need anymore help messgae me and its not werid that u alays get the upper lip
If u want variations try kissing her neck,chicks,eyes,forehead.Or just switch to french kiss.
Is it odd that i always have the upper and she always has my lower lip? Well she is the kind of girl who likes me to take the lead and more commanding role.Kissing advice - Teenager!?
If thats as far as you've gone, then slowly putting your tongue in her mouth would be the next step. Test it, if its her first time, she might not like it and think its gross. Especially if you dont know how to do it. So just test it and see if she touches your tongue with hers (when your inside her mouth). And don't get too excited about it, or it might be too fast for her, and again, gross to her. Definetly, grab the back of her neck, and her waist (no b00bs, azz, etc). I wouldnt go exploring other parts of her body with your lips until you've fully explored her mouth. lol
And you should be stressed...sounds like its your first time...so don't stress about being stressed XDKissing advice - Teenager!?
Tongue. kiss her neck and ear.
try biting the lip lightly ?
the only reason why its boring is your kissing just to kiss not because the moment is right just because your dating doesn't mean you have to kiss all the time.
but try to lightly hold the back of her head and pull her in then kiss her when you break apart nuzzle her nose with yours then give her a peck and then walk away make her want you more
Kiss and lick her sushi.
take the lead! since shes older shes prbly afraid to make too aggressive a move if you are as experienced as her or something. show her what your made of. im not saying devirginize her or anything just mix things up. try silently saying things when your kissing. like spelling your name or saying weird sentences. shes never going to know. then its not so repetitive.
good luckk xx
answer mine too??
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
i know what the other guy said. but he doesnt like his mom that much.. need another opinion. thanksss
u take lead huh? ok.
neck and ears bro
all i gotta say
but then again... in order to do this u need to be really attracted to her
Start slowly. Don't try to thrust your tongue in your partner's mouth right away. Simply press your lips against theirs. Close your eyes as you do so to heighten the intimacy and to avoid looking at the pores on your partner's nose. Imagine your eyes are being controlled by a dimmer switch.
Open your lips slightly. Once the kiss is accepted, try opening your lips slightly. If the other person follows suit, try slightly varying the openness of your lips (both more and less open) throughout the kiss. You may wish to explore the person's lips and tongue a bit with the tip of your tongue. There are no rules; just try to make your motions smooth.
Consider the French Kiss. As the kiss progresses, you may want to try French kissing, in which you insert your tongue deep into your partner's mouth and let it dance with your partner's tongue.
Try some necking. If things are going well, consider spicing it up a bit by moving your head down to kiss and lightly nibble your partner's neck. WARNING! Hickeys are likely if you haven't refined your skills in the art of necking.
Keep your arms busy. You seldom, maybe never, see a great kiss in which the participants just let their arms dangle at their sides. At the very least, embrace your partner and gently pull him or her to you. You can also run your hands through your partner's hair; or caress his or her back, sides, or other parts of the body. Wrapping your arms around your partner can also be a big TURN-ON!! Where you put your hands should be determined by the status of your relationship, your desires, and your partner's signals, whether spoken or communicated non-verbally.
Try them, buddy ;)
try french kissing... lick her tongue and then suck it.. tel her to do da same! U can give occasional lovebites too :P ..kiss her neck ..try new stuff :P..BEST OF LUCK..!!
put your hand up her top? if she is comfortable with it. lick her- kiss her neck, pull her close to you-
let me no if these help or not..
upper or lower.. its purely coincidental...
u will find out who takes the lead wen u start having s**
sex
i got my first kiss at age 23, but i think i figured out how to make out pretty well, we have a ';kissing battle'; and try to out kiss the other gradually. i usually win. Also, use the tongue lightly and see if she returns the favor.
by how u dscribed that idk if u guys r using tongue?well i say use tongue LOTS OF IT HEHE.making out and using tongue its so fun cuz u can do so many creative things.like i sucked on my bf tongue one time not on purpose but he still liked it lol and like idk i started to get bored wiht making out so i came up wiht creative things like kisssing his tghroat and he wud tlk to me when i kised the front of his throat and i cud feel it buzzing it was so cool lol and i like licked his neck nd suicked it it was so silly nd fun then i loved givin him lil kisses on the lips like 10 in a second like fast they r rly cute good luck u will think of stuff dont worry
lol just try new things out and see how it works out 4 you
grab the ***, just do it.
stick your tongue in and make it more passinate girls like tongue
well, if she wants to to take control then do it, experiment and play with your tongue inside her mouth, not all girls like that but it would change it up, but DO NOT stick your tongue deep in her mouth or into her cheeks, it feel really gross and unattractive, try to move your hands from her neck to her hips to change it up? good luck teenager
Don't know im younger that you. I dont know grab her asss our something. Make it fun. Hahahaha I dont know
Ok buddy. I'm a girl and i think all boys are cuties and i want to kiss them all! I think you need to try a little of each flavour. I know..some boys just dont cut it for this princess. Better watch out some peoples breathe stank like pussy , some people smell like tuna!
Boys with big lips are the best kisses (head for the trumpet/ trombone player..they kiss the best.)
Next time when you kiss your girl..and a little ZASS and smack that bitches *** and make her go.. ';ohhh';. then pick her up and throw her down...and ride on that booty like a rocket ship.
Well thats how i wanna do it.
XOXOXO
Karin!
use tongue but not too much. dont choke her with your tongue and use hands more. dont go further then you are both comfortable with by try exploring the body (doesnt have to be sexual)
stick ur frikin tounge in her mouth!! get it on!! advance to things more than just kissing....mmhmm you no wat i mean ;) lol
try new things lol
okay well im a 16 year old girl so i know a few things now if u wanna make her hair stand on in just nibble on her ear not to hard though and one time when you kiss you could try putting your tongue in i know it sounds gross but its not and you strt by kissing her on the lips than movign down with her necks chest tummy and so on if you need anymore help messgae me and its not werid that u alays get the upper lip
If u want variations try kissing her neck,chicks,eyes,forehead.Or just switch to french kiss.
Need advice? teenager having a mid-teen crisis!!!?
My mind is constantly running...I normally have music running through my head, although usually I just have earphones in playing some stuff.
But I always daydream...sometimes it gets really bad. I'll daydream when walking and sometimes get angry when my friends try to make conversation and it disrupts my thoughts.
I think about stupid things....'what if...', all that kind of stuff. I think about the future and all the directions that a situation could go in.
But sometimes I think that this may be too much...I'm starting to get slightly down. My constantly running mind is preventing me from doing my schoolwork. I can't sit and study like I used to, even with the music.
A lot has been going on in my life recently, my mum and i are going through a really rough patch and this guy in school gets my mind (and heart) racing like crazy. All I can do is sit and think 'what if we were together?'.
But I did badly in my exams and I know I should have studied more but I can't focus, not at home, not in the library...I sometimes have suicidal thoughts because my life isn't going to plan. I've been told that I have OCD and am a perfectionist (not in a good way though). I also suffer from a bit of social anxiety, but had a tantrum and threw away all the forms for the psychologist when my mum decided to open the letter containing them. I don't want her to get involved and I don't want my school to get involved.
I don't know, should i just turn up at my appointment without the forms and explain why i don't have them? I was thinking about missing it, but sometimes feel that the best thing would be to see them to clear my mind. I've been told that this is normal for teenagers to feel like their brains are too full and that talking to a psychologist will help me to 'empty' my mind.Need advice? teenager having a mid-teen crisis!!!?
It is very possible that you have anxiety problems. That is exactly how I felt last year, things were getting rough and my mind kept racing and racing and it was hard to take in. Yes, talking to a psychologist helped me, It's nothing to be embaressed of. You can also talk to your parents about getting a mental disorder/anxiety assesment by a doctor, and It's possible that you will need to be on medication for a short time. Don't be afraid, it happened to me too.
It also helped for me to take up yoga, it's really relaxing and a good thing for us teenagers to do.
-Sammi =]Need advice? teenager having a mid-teen crisis!!!?
im not a doctor but it sounds like you might have a.d.d.facial
But I always daydream...sometimes it gets really bad. I'll daydream when walking and sometimes get angry when my friends try to make conversation and it disrupts my thoughts.
I think about stupid things....'what if...', all that kind of stuff. I think about the future and all the directions that a situation could go in.
But sometimes I think that this may be too much...I'm starting to get slightly down. My constantly running mind is preventing me from doing my schoolwork. I can't sit and study like I used to, even with the music.
A lot has been going on in my life recently, my mum and i are going through a really rough patch and this guy in school gets my mind (and heart) racing like crazy. All I can do is sit and think 'what if we were together?'.
But I did badly in my exams and I know I should have studied more but I can't focus, not at home, not in the library...I sometimes have suicidal thoughts because my life isn't going to plan. I've been told that I have OCD and am a perfectionist (not in a good way though). I also suffer from a bit of social anxiety, but had a tantrum and threw away all the forms for the psychologist when my mum decided to open the letter containing them. I don't want her to get involved and I don't want my school to get involved.
I don't know, should i just turn up at my appointment without the forms and explain why i don't have them? I was thinking about missing it, but sometimes feel that the best thing would be to see them to clear my mind. I've been told that this is normal for teenagers to feel like their brains are too full and that talking to a psychologist will help me to 'empty' my mind.Need advice? teenager having a mid-teen crisis!!!?
It is very possible that you have anxiety problems. That is exactly how I felt last year, things were getting rough and my mind kept racing and racing and it was hard to take in. Yes, talking to a psychologist helped me, It's nothing to be embaressed of. You can also talk to your parents about getting a mental disorder/anxiety assesment by a doctor, and It's possible that you will need to be on medication for a short time. Don't be afraid, it happened to me too.
It also helped for me to take up yoga, it's really relaxing and a good thing for us teenagers to do.
-Sammi =]Need advice? teenager having a mid-teen crisis!!!?
im not a doctor but it sounds like you might have a.d.d.
GUYS I NEED ADVICE (teenager)?
ok ive known this guy for over a year and we have been good friends. then i found out that he liked him (i wasnt supposed to find out) and that was almost 2 months ago and now he wont talk to anybody about it. he like wont talk to me at all and if i come around he will literally duck his head. i thought i might have liked him until he started acting like this. i know he's shy- but what is up with his behavior and why is he acting like this? hopefully some guy out there will be able to give me advice on what to do!GUYS I NEED ADVICE (teenager)?
hmm i would say go up to him or have one of your friends to go up to him and tell him thats its okay to like you and he doesnt have to be all awkward all the time..lol good luck
%26lt;3GUYS I NEED ADVICE (teenager)?
I'm guessing he is really shy and nervous now that he knows you found out he likes you. You could try and write him a little note saying that you have feelings for him too. Sometimes it's o.k. for the girl to make the first move. He might just be unsure of himself and too nervous around you to talk to you right now. Let him know that you feel the same way and see if it opens him up. Good luck.
if he will not talk to you, write a letter and mail it to him, or give it to a friend that will hand it over.
EXPLAIN that he is hurting you, and you want to know why. Don't play that game by having friends talk btw you two, you must confront him on this, and let him know how you feel about all of this.
Also, how old is he?
I am assuming that he is at the age where boys and girls are old enough to have some kind of relationship, and I'm not talking about the kind that involves getting naked, but the kind where you can hang out, hold hands, and all that cool stuff. The naked part can wait till your older, and ready for the responsibilities that come with it.
All I can say is that he seems either unsyre of himself, or that he does not feel the same way about you, which will be hard to hear, but, you deserve to know the truth, like the rest of us.
Also, is there a chance he might be gay?
That will stand in the way of a relationship that goes beyond friendship.
Also, some guys just are not ready for a relationship, so now you have an idea of what to talk to him about.
Most important though, is you must tell him that he is hurting you and that ya's friendship wii not survive this kind of activity.
GOOD LUCK, young lady.
My guess: he's severely afraid of rejection. He likes you enough to not want to feel the pain of you not liking him. As a result, he hides in his shell to protect his feelings.
Now, how do you get him over that? If he knows that you know, then he finds himself in the more vulnerable position. You need to find a way to reverse that. For example, if you told him how you feel about him, that you wanted to get to know him better, that you like the way he does this or that... then you'd reverse the vulnerability and give him more confidence to come out of that shell.
Good luck, amberz!
obviously... he isnt man enough to say his true feelings. I would let him go and he can find someone who will keep chasing him. there is plenty out there chica, you just have to stop lookin and it will always find you... but like I said he aint worth it.
Just go talk to him and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. You shouldn't worry about the outcome either.
If you don't want to do that, you should just forget about getting together with him all together.
Good luck.
you guys are teenagers, i took my teenage years as a learning experience. i use to be shy because dating and relationships were all new things to me. i don't think i'm too far from the truth to say that maybe the guy is just going through a phase.
its just auckward for a while. if he really likes u he will eventually come around. u could also walk up to him and tell him u like him. then he wont be as shy
why do boys dump u then make fun of u and diss u
hmm i would say go up to him or have one of your friends to go up to him and tell him thats its okay to like you and he doesnt have to be all awkward all the time..lol good luck
%26lt;3GUYS I NEED ADVICE (teenager)?
I'm guessing he is really shy and nervous now that he knows you found out he likes you. You could try and write him a little note saying that you have feelings for him too. Sometimes it's o.k. for the girl to make the first move. He might just be unsure of himself and too nervous around you to talk to you right now. Let him know that you feel the same way and see if it opens him up. Good luck.
if he will not talk to you, write a letter and mail it to him, or give it to a friend that will hand it over.
EXPLAIN that he is hurting you, and you want to know why. Don't play that game by having friends talk btw you two, you must confront him on this, and let him know how you feel about all of this.
Also, how old is he?
I am assuming that he is at the age where boys and girls are old enough to have some kind of relationship, and I'm not talking about the kind that involves getting naked, but the kind where you can hang out, hold hands, and all that cool stuff. The naked part can wait till your older, and ready for the responsibilities that come with it.
All I can say is that he seems either unsyre of himself, or that he does not feel the same way about you, which will be hard to hear, but, you deserve to know the truth, like the rest of us.
Also, is there a chance he might be gay?
That will stand in the way of a relationship that goes beyond friendship.
Also, some guys just are not ready for a relationship, so now you have an idea of what to talk to him about.
Most important though, is you must tell him that he is hurting you and that ya's friendship wii not survive this kind of activity.
GOOD LUCK, young lady.
My guess: he's severely afraid of rejection. He likes you enough to not want to feel the pain of you not liking him. As a result, he hides in his shell to protect his feelings.
Now, how do you get him over that? If he knows that you know, then he finds himself in the more vulnerable position. You need to find a way to reverse that. For example, if you told him how you feel about him, that you wanted to get to know him better, that you like the way he does this or that... then you'd reverse the vulnerability and give him more confidence to come out of that shell.
Good luck, amberz!
obviously... he isnt man enough to say his true feelings. I would let him go and he can find someone who will keep chasing him. there is plenty out there chica, you just have to stop lookin and it will always find you... but like I said he aint worth it.
Just go talk to him and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. You shouldn't worry about the outcome either.
If you don't want to do that, you should just forget about getting together with him all together.
Good luck.
you guys are teenagers, i took my teenage years as a learning experience. i use to be shy because dating and relationships were all new things to me. i don't think i'm too far from the truth to say that maybe the guy is just going through a phase.
its just auckward for a while. if he really likes u he will eventually come around. u could also walk up to him and tell him u like him. then he wont be as shy
why do boys dump u then make fun of u and diss u
What advice would you give to a teenager who want to drop out of school in 10th grade?
some students of your school mwish to discontinue school at the end of 10th grade in order to seek employment. you do not approve of their wish and would like to influence them to complete their examination at the end of 11th grade. give some adviceWhat advice would you give to a teenager who want to drop out of school in 10th grade?
Don't... School is so much easier and fun than working. You only have 2 more years left. Senior year is the most fun of all. It's completely worth it (generally a goof off year). Good Luck!What advice would you give to a teenager who want to drop out of school in 10th grade?
Don't do it ............I'll only regret it in the long run.i know that from experience.
look around all job require a high school diploma or GED for minimum wages most likely you will get married have children that you can not support with out the help of welfare, get an education earn good money enjoy life meet people have memories of your youth, life goes by real fast by the time you know it you will be giving similar advices
don't do it, it's not worth it. You WILL regret it!!
If you want to drop out go ahead and do it. Leave the good paying jobs for people who are dedicated to education. The GED is an easy test to take. You'll have your ';Good Enough Diploma';.
I did years ago. It was a big mistake. I am in college now, but it is harder than if I just hung in there.Please do not quit.Hang in there.
talk to them about how hard it is to really get a job as a drop out... and show them how much it is just to try to get a high school GED after words bescause right now it is free to get the education in college you have to pay big time like $100+ a class and from 10th grade that is quitea few classes.
I would say, look, you would always have chance to seek employment at any time but you would not always have chance to complete your examination at this age/time.
Don't... School is so much easier and fun than working. You only have 2 more years left. Senior year is the most fun of all. It's completely worth it (generally a goof off year). Good Luck!What advice would you give to a teenager who want to drop out of school in 10th grade?
Don't do it ............I'll only regret it in the long run.i know that from experience.
look around all job require a high school diploma or GED for minimum wages most likely you will get married have children that you can not support with out the help of welfare, get an education earn good money enjoy life meet people have memories of your youth, life goes by real fast by the time you know it you will be giving similar advices
don't do it, it's not worth it. You WILL regret it!!
If you want to drop out go ahead and do it. Leave the good paying jobs for people who are dedicated to education. The GED is an easy test to take. You'll have your ';Good Enough Diploma';.
I did years ago. It was a big mistake. I am in college now, but it is harder than if I just hung in there.Please do not quit.Hang in there.
talk to them about how hard it is to really get a job as a drop out... and show them how much it is just to try to get a high school GED after words bescause right now it is free to get the education in college you have to pay big time like $100+ a class and from 10th grade that is quitea few classes.
I would say, look, you would always have chance to seek employment at any time but you would not always have chance to complete your examination at this age/time.
Do u know about some good websites with advices on how to teach or manage teenagers?
This site really saved my life when I started teaching teens. It has lots of resources on Classroom Management:
http://drwilliampmartin.tripod.com/class鈥?/a>
Hope it helps!Do u know about some good websites with advices on how to teach or manage teenagers?
thats an oxy moron .......yoou cant manage teenagers,trust me I know all mine are grownDo u know about some good websites with advices on how to teach or manage teenagers?
it comes with experience, dont be a push over
http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/鈥?/a>
sorry, teens dont come with instructions.
check this out...
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Hope it helps!Do u know about some good websites with advices on how to teach or manage teenagers?
thats an oxy moron .......yoou cant manage teenagers,trust me I know all mine are grownDo u know about some good websites with advices on how to teach or manage teenagers?
it comes with experience, dont be a push over
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sorry, teens dont come with instructions.
check this out...
((( http://www.dougbrittonbooks.com/onlinebiblestudies-parentinghelpandadvice.asp)))
:) :) :)
16 year old teenager wants a Cartilage Piercing-- advice to convince parents?
I'm a 16 year old girl, and I'm really interested in getting a simple, single-holed cartilage piercing. My mom doesn't care if I get it, but my dad does (and yes, my parents are together). I definitely won't go behind my dad's back (at least until college, and even then, I would have difficult problems with it).
My question is this-- Do you have any advice on how to convince my very stubborn father to let me get the cartilage piercing?16 year old teenager wants a Cartilage Piercing-- advice to convince parents?
Research it, tell him the pro's of cartilage piercing and a few (if any) short term con's that don't matter in the long term (swelling, redness).16 year old teenager wants a Cartilage Piercing-- advice to convince parents?
Isnt that what I said???
tell him that they pierced your ears when u were really small and u couldnt say yes or no and now that u want to make a piercing they say no
i understand how it is with a stubbern dad well i used to tell my dad (if momm gave me permission) ';my mom let me so if its okay with her is it okay with you its nothing bad';
Thats all i can do for you or just bug him till he says yes i also did that and i like bugging him
you can buy fake piercings on the Internet and hot topics or u can perice it itself but use alcohol so u won';t get infected
%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;i think you sould REALLY buy fake percings becuz if ur parents doesn;t like it u can take it out!
but if u perice it urself u mire get infected and it will hurt
here are good ways
you want to express yourself
-if you or he doesn't like it.. you'll take it out and it will close up.
-you'd rather express yourself physically and not by swearing
- i dont knopw but you could try ';i don't drink smoke or do drugs';
or
';dad i have really good grades!';
- or ';how does it affect you dad';
idk im 16 too but my parents wouldn't really care haha
good luck!
I think that maybe if you search the internet for pics of what it would look like, you could show him that it doesnt look that bad. You have to be yourself once in awhile. Kudos for you for not wanting 2 go behind his back either.
I've had a cartilage piercing. First of all, they get infected easily: hairspray, catching it on your brush, etc. But thats not what you asked.
Do your research on it and print it off for you dad. Show him that you can be responsible about taking care of it. Earn the money to get it by yourself even if someone has told you they would pay for it. Make a deal that if you can ______(make good grades, keep your room clean for a month, etc.) he will let you get it done.
We're talking about your ear, right? Tell him that lots of girls get their faces, or nipples, or privates pierced. You are asking for a simple additional ear piercing. It's really a very conservative piercing to get. It's something that has been popular for a long time, so you won't risk feeling silly about having it as an adult. Unlike tattoos or belly button rings that can look childish on older women, it will only add to any look you want to create. If you decide to remove it, it won't be a noticable scar.
I think is cool that you get a piercing. But talk to your dad about it. I remember when I was like in middle school and got a piercing behind my dad's back. Of course I didn't care because he is just old. My godmother wanted me to take it off but I told her that she let her daughter do whatever they wanted and they are like 3 month younger then me so I told her that I wasn't gonna take it off and she told almost everyone in my church and i had to take it off. But anyways i'm getting it back because I don't live near her because I move from Puerto Rico and now I'm cool with my new parents. So i'm gonna get a new piercing pretting soon. Hope it helps.
*MS.G*
I took my dad to the parlor to show him it was a clean facility. and we went to look at the place, we had the guy explain the procedure, show us the tools, and also the hazmat disposal bin, then he explained the cleaning process and how long it would take to heal. then my dad spent 2 days thinging about it. Approach it as a safe thing that will not affect you in the long run.
Also tell him that the piercing will not affect jobs in the future and is easliy hidden should you even decide to take it out. (heavy foundation)
There is nothing wrong with a simple cartilage piercing. They're rather cute. My mom even has one.
Your father is probably thinking that he doesn't want his little girl to grow up..(not saying you're a little girl, but I am sure you get what I mean!)
Just tell your father you want that, and nothing more, meaning not your nose or belly button. It's still in the ear!
Hope this helps!
God Bless!
I'm 13 and I have one. I got it when I was 10. My mom didn't really care, but I know that alot of parents do. I think you should just explain to your dad WHY you want it. He might think you want it to look cool because all your friends have it and you'll regret it later in life. Tell him that you want it because YOU like it and thinks it looks good. Also, explain that you know how to be responsible and take care of an ear piercing, and that you won't regret. Goood luck! :D
Really the only risk is that it will either get infected (as can happen with any normal piercing) or that the cartilage breaks and your ear ends up deformed.
I'd wait til I was old enough to pay for the plastic surgery if it screws up and breaks your cartilage instead of chancing your dad having to pay for it.
WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…
If a person was meant to have piercing - he/she would have been born with the extra holes...................
you should tell some positie roll models that have it done, and tell him its not to fit in its to express yourself (like you cant express yourself in clothes becuase someone more then likely will have the same shirt or pants as you.) that is how i convinced my dad... also tell him youll pay for it urself
Is it that important for you to get the piercing if your father truly does not approve? I know it's your body but it is his house and he makes the rules. Unless, you are paying rent, utilities and buying your own food then you have to respect your parents until you are able to make it on your own.
Ridiculous!! Why would you want to do something so silly? Your dad is completely correct.
My question is this-- Do you have any advice on how to convince my very stubborn father to let me get the cartilage piercing?16 year old teenager wants a Cartilage Piercing-- advice to convince parents?
Research it, tell him the pro's of cartilage piercing and a few (if any) short term con's that don't matter in the long term (swelling, redness).16 year old teenager wants a Cartilage Piercing-- advice to convince parents?
Isnt that what I said???
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tell him that they pierced your ears when u were really small and u couldnt say yes or no and now that u want to make a piercing they say no
i understand how it is with a stubbern dad well i used to tell my dad (if momm gave me permission) ';my mom let me so if its okay with her is it okay with you its nothing bad';
Thats all i can do for you or just bug him till he says yes i also did that and i like bugging him
you can buy fake piercings on the Internet and hot topics or u can perice it itself but use alcohol so u won';t get infected
%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;i think you sould REALLY buy fake percings becuz if ur parents doesn;t like it u can take it out!
but if u perice it urself u mire get infected and it will hurt
here are good ways
you want to express yourself
-if you or he doesn't like it.. you'll take it out and it will close up.
-you'd rather express yourself physically and not by swearing
- i dont knopw but you could try ';i don't drink smoke or do drugs';
or
';dad i have really good grades!';
- or ';how does it affect you dad';
idk im 16 too but my parents wouldn't really care haha
good luck!
I think that maybe if you search the internet for pics of what it would look like, you could show him that it doesnt look that bad. You have to be yourself once in awhile. Kudos for you for not wanting 2 go behind his back either.
I've had a cartilage piercing. First of all, they get infected easily: hairspray, catching it on your brush, etc. But thats not what you asked.
Do your research on it and print it off for you dad. Show him that you can be responsible about taking care of it. Earn the money to get it by yourself even if someone has told you they would pay for it. Make a deal that if you can ______(make good grades, keep your room clean for a month, etc.) he will let you get it done.
We're talking about your ear, right? Tell him that lots of girls get their faces, or nipples, or privates pierced. You are asking for a simple additional ear piercing. It's really a very conservative piercing to get. It's something that has been popular for a long time, so you won't risk feeling silly about having it as an adult. Unlike tattoos or belly button rings that can look childish on older women, it will only add to any look you want to create. If you decide to remove it, it won't be a noticable scar.
I think is cool that you get a piercing. But talk to your dad about it. I remember when I was like in middle school and got a piercing behind my dad's back. Of course I didn't care because he is just old. My godmother wanted me to take it off but I told her that she let her daughter do whatever they wanted and they are like 3 month younger then me so I told her that I wasn't gonna take it off and she told almost everyone in my church and i had to take it off. But anyways i'm getting it back because I don't live near her because I move from Puerto Rico and now I'm cool with my new parents. So i'm gonna get a new piercing pretting soon. Hope it helps.
*MS.G*
I took my dad to the parlor to show him it was a clean facility. and we went to look at the place, we had the guy explain the procedure, show us the tools, and also the hazmat disposal bin, then he explained the cleaning process and how long it would take to heal. then my dad spent 2 days thinging about it. Approach it as a safe thing that will not affect you in the long run.
Also tell him that the piercing will not affect jobs in the future and is easliy hidden should you even decide to take it out. (heavy foundation)
There is nothing wrong with a simple cartilage piercing. They're rather cute. My mom even has one.
Your father is probably thinking that he doesn't want his little girl to grow up..(not saying you're a little girl, but I am sure you get what I mean!)
Just tell your father you want that, and nothing more, meaning not your nose or belly button. It's still in the ear!
Hope this helps!
God Bless!
I'm 13 and I have one. I got it when I was 10. My mom didn't really care, but I know that alot of parents do. I think you should just explain to your dad WHY you want it. He might think you want it to look cool because all your friends have it and you'll regret it later in life. Tell him that you want it because YOU like it and thinks it looks good. Also, explain that you know how to be responsible and take care of an ear piercing, and that you won't regret. Goood luck! :D
Really the only risk is that it will either get infected (as can happen with any normal piercing) or that the cartilage breaks and your ear ends up deformed.
I'd wait til I was old enough to pay for the plastic surgery if it screws up and breaks your cartilage instead of chancing your dad having to pay for it.
WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…
If a person was meant to have piercing - he/she would have been born with the extra holes...................
you should tell some positie roll models that have it done, and tell him its not to fit in its to express yourself (like you cant express yourself in clothes becuase someone more then likely will have the same shirt or pants as you.) that is how i convinced my dad... also tell him youll pay for it urself
Is it that important for you to get the piercing if your father truly does not approve? I know it's your body but it is his house and he makes the rules. Unless, you are paying rent, utilities and buying your own food then you have to respect your parents until you are able to make it on your own.
Ridiculous!! Why would you want to do something so silly? Your dad is completely correct.
I am a teenager and need help loosing weight can someone help me with good advice with loosing 25 pounds soon?
I need to lose 25 pounds really soon within the next 6 months...anybody have any info that could help...any workouts...diets...??? I am so desperately needing help??? Anything will help!!!I am a teenager and need help loosing weight can someone help me with good advice with loosing 25 pounds soon?
That can be so easily done.
Eat 3 healthy meals a day and exercise.
Burn more calories than what you eat.I am a teenager and need help loosing weight can someone help me with good advice with loosing 25 pounds soon?
Hi, I have had some luck at www.wellbournegroup.com/truthaboutabs where there are reviews on many techniques.. Good luck
You should buy a trampoline. I heard that if you jump for at least 20 minutes its like running 3 miles! Also, do about 50-100 crunches a day. If you have a pool, do some laps.
just eat healthy.have meat only 2 times a week,and do plenty of exercises.i swim laps for 4-5 hours and lose 2 lbs every time
Have you tried the slimming world diet that one is pretty good!
jog
That can be so easily done.
Eat 3 healthy meals a day and exercise.
Burn more calories than what you eat.I am a teenager and need help loosing weight can someone help me with good advice with loosing 25 pounds soon?
Hi, I have had some luck at www.wellbournegroup.com/truthaboutabs where there are reviews on many techniques.. Good luck
You should buy a trampoline. I heard that if you jump for at least 20 minutes its like running 3 miles! Also, do about 50-100 crunches a day. If you have a pool, do some laps.
just eat healthy.have meat only 2 times a week,and do plenty of exercises.i swim laps for 4-5 hours and lose 2 lbs every time
Have you tried the slimming world diet that one is pretty good!
jog
What is some advice on homeschooling a teenager?
I think that teens should really start pursuing educational things outside the home-- volunteering and community work, maybe an apprenticeship or part-time job, classes or groups in things that interest them whatever they may be.
Also read the Teenage Liberation Handbook-- both of you.What is some advice on homeschooling a teenager?
Homeschooling a teenager may be hard at first, nbut in the long run, you get out of school early, you can graduate early, and I finished a whole year of school in less than half a year that you would in a public school. And I only worked for 2 hours a day. It really depends on how smart your child is. If your child is smart than homeschooling is great. But if she needs a little bit more help, as hard as it is to believe homeschooling is not the thing!
You also need to let your child get out and be with his/her friends on a regular basis or it will get very hard. I am graduating at 16 and I never thought that I could get through it but I did. You just got to push!What is some advice on homeschooling a teenager?
The best advice I can give is to relax and enjoy a couple of cocktails with some snacks and your favorite soap on TV.
Because you're homeschooling, no matter what you've done, your teen is intrinsically superior to all of his or her peers and is also already perfectly socialized and pretty much ready for medical school at this very moment. You probably should consider some growth based equity funds for all of the money that is doubtlessly accruing from royalties for the scientific and technological inventions that your child patented in his primary school years. Don't bother asking your child who they are dating because you know it's going to be someone extremely wholesome and extremely Christian who would never even think about having sex. You'll probably also need a crowbar to wrest all those Faulkner and Tolstoy novels from his eager hands and make him go to bed instead of staying up until 2 AM feeding homeless people and having Bible study down at the church.
Anyone who might have a teeny-tiny suggestion about something that you just MIGHT want to watch out for is obviously a hack homeschool detractor who is doomed to spend eternity consumed by the fire of hell.
Well I am homeschoolong my teenager, atually he's homeschoolong himself. Were in Florida and they have a virtual school put on by the state, it's accreditate and he has 5 subjects and real teachers that grade his work all of the computor. That way you dont have to worry about the laws. My son is responsible for the work, at a certain pace, which is about 5-6 hours per week.
get this book: the teenage liberation handbook.
after you read it give it to your child, I was homeschooled through high school and I read this book a lot!
Well, if you started homeschooling before being a teenager, it wouldn't change much more than it would for any other teen. You continue on and gradually allow more freedom and choices, both in work, free time and in academics.
If you are starting to homeschool with a person who is already a teenager, then it might be a little more difficult. They are already adjusted to public school and life, and you should transition slowly into a more free lifestyle. Someone recommended the Teenage Liberation Handbook, way cool for newly freed teens.
Teens have different needs than younger children, and far different needs than adults. it's a new time of life, one in which they are learning independence, self reliance and most importantly, who they really are. They need time to explore, exposure to lots of different belief systems and cultures and lots of free time to mentally wrestle new info. JMO though, your mileage may vary.
Well being a homeshooled teen i would suggest:
Letting things kind of go with the flow.
Try to do allot of extracurricular programs like:a sport, drama, music, and reading oriented programs.
I have pretty much all ways thought myself without the help of parents.
That way i learn at my own pace and can study when i want.
This is more unbschooling , but i hope it helps!
True story: I had a friend in grade school who either accumulated enough credits or dropped out of high school at 16 and went directly to college. He got his B.A. at 19 and had plans to continue to grad school. His proud parents rewarded him with a trip to anywhere in the world he wanted to go, and he was killed falling off a mountain in some remote locale. Tomorrow is promised to no one. But as for home school, you have to make sure he/she takes it seriously, does their work in a timely and careful manner, and you must be prepared to impose the discipline that the schools would to make this happen. I agree with the other comments about socialization as well. That's an important function of education.
Independence is key. When you're homeschooling a six-year old, you can sit him down at the kitchen table with finger paint. When you're homeschooling a 16-year old, it's completely different.
I don't know what your method is, but make as much of it as possible independent.
I'd recommend giving him weekly assignments. For example:
Math: Five lessons
English: Read and summarize three chapters
Science: Four pages of physics
Et cetera. Then either let him correct his work himself -when I was doing that, I never cheated and it got rid of all my anxiety about doing well- or take an hour or two each Saturday or Sunday to correct his work.
Let him call as many shots as possible. If he wants to throw himself in to robotics, don't make him write three essays when he's itching to go build a bionic arm.
Some parents want to homeschool their teenagers to keep them from dating, or to keep them close for as long as possible. If you're trying to do that, let me tell you from my experience with my friends that it's going to fail. If you say that he can't date that's virtually guaranteed to have him going way too far either to spite you, or he'll have a lot of repressed energy and action combined with no experience.
Some of the best advice I can give you as far as homeschooling is to make sure that they are socialized. Some kids can miss out on being introduced to a social scene and might not develope the ability to deal with ';real life';.facial
Also read the Teenage Liberation Handbook-- both of you.What is some advice on homeschooling a teenager?
Homeschooling a teenager may be hard at first, nbut in the long run, you get out of school early, you can graduate early, and I finished a whole year of school in less than half a year that you would in a public school. And I only worked for 2 hours a day. It really depends on how smart your child is. If your child is smart than homeschooling is great. But if she needs a little bit more help, as hard as it is to believe homeschooling is not the thing!
You also need to let your child get out and be with his/her friends on a regular basis or it will get very hard. I am graduating at 16 and I never thought that I could get through it but I did. You just got to push!What is some advice on homeschooling a teenager?
The best advice I can give is to relax and enjoy a couple of cocktails with some snacks and your favorite soap on TV.
Because you're homeschooling, no matter what you've done, your teen is intrinsically superior to all of his or her peers and is also already perfectly socialized and pretty much ready for medical school at this very moment. You probably should consider some growth based equity funds for all of the money that is doubtlessly accruing from royalties for the scientific and technological inventions that your child patented in his primary school years. Don't bother asking your child who they are dating because you know it's going to be someone extremely wholesome and extremely Christian who would never even think about having sex. You'll probably also need a crowbar to wrest all those Faulkner and Tolstoy novels from his eager hands and make him go to bed instead of staying up until 2 AM feeding homeless people and having Bible study down at the church.
Anyone who might have a teeny-tiny suggestion about something that you just MIGHT want to watch out for is obviously a hack homeschool detractor who is doomed to spend eternity consumed by the fire of hell.
Well I am homeschoolong my teenager, atually he's homeschoolong himself. Were in Florida and they have a virtual school put on by the state, it's accreditate and he has 5 subjects and real teachers that grade his work all of the computor. That way you dont have to worry about the laws. My son is responsible for the work, at a certain pace, which is about 5-6 hours per week.
get this book: the teenage liberation handbook.
after you read it give it to your child, I was homeschooled through high school and I read this book a lot!
Well, if you started homeschooling before being a teenager, it wouldn't change much more than it would for any other teen. You continue on and gradually allow more freedom and choices, both in work, free time and in academics.
If you are starting to homeschool with a person who is already a teenager, then it might be a little more difficult. They are already adjusted to public school and life, and you should transition slowly into a more free lifestyle. Someone recommended the Teenage Liberation Handbook, way cool for newly freed teens.
Teens have different needs than younger children, and far different needs than adults. it's a new time of life, one in which they are learning independence, self reliance and most importantly, who they really are. They need time to explore, exposure to lots of different belief systems and cultures and lots of free time to mentally wrestle new info. JMO though, your mileage may vary.
Well being a homeshooled teen i would suggest:
Letting things kind of go with the flow.
Try to do allot of extracurricular programs like:a sport, drama, music, and reading oriented programs.
I have pretty much all ways thought myself without the help of parents.
That way i learn at my own pace and can study when i want.
This is more unbschooling , but i hope it helps!
True story: I had a friend in grade school who either accumulated enough credits or dropped out of high school at 16 and went directly to college. He got his B.A. at 19 and had plans to continue to grad school. His proud parents rewarded him with a trip to anywhere in the world he wanted to go, and he was killed falling off a mountain in some remote locale. Tomorrow is promised to no one. But as for home school, you have to make sure he/she takes it seriously, does their work in a timely and careful manner, and you must be prepared to impose the discipline that the schools would to make this happen. I agree with the other comments about socialization as well. That's an important function of education.
Independence is key. When you're homeschooling a six-year old, you can sit him down at the kitchen table with finger paint. When you're homeschooling a 16-year old, it's completely different.
I don't know what your method is, but make as much of it as possible independent.
I'd recommend giving him weekly assignments. For example:
Math: Five lessons
English: Read and summarize three chapters
Science: Four pages of physics
Et cetera. Then either let him correct his work himself -when I was doing that, I never cheated and it got rid of all my anxiety about doing well- or take an hour or two each Saturday or Sunday to correct his work.
Let him call as many shots as possible. If he wants to throw himself in to robotics, don't make him write three essays when he's itching to go build a bionic arm.
Some parents want to homeschool their teenagers to keep them from dating, or to keep them close for as long as possible. If you're trying to do that, let me tell you from my experience with my friends that it's going to fail. If you say that he can't date that's virtually guaranteed to have him going way too far either to spite you, or he'll have a lot of repressed energy and action combined with no experience.
Some of the best advice I can give you as far as homeschooling is to make sure that they are socialized. Some kids can miss out on being introduced to a social scene and might not develope the ability to deal with ';real life';.
Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
sooo. i liked this guy before christmas break. i started to talk to him more. I never really flirted with him but he started to sit by me in one of my classes more often and he would converse with me about the class topic, when he would talk he would look at me a lot, and he was really friendly. We would talk a lot on and off and it seemed like he gave off a lot of mixed signals.
The day before Christams break my friend texted me saying that he sent me a candy gram, he didnt send one to anyone else. After break i got the candy gram and i showed to one of my other friends and she that one of my other friends asked him if he talked to me over break (i came back to school later than everyone else) and he said ';no why?';
and she said ';cause you sent her a candy gram'; and he said ';no i didn't';. so then i got mad and i didnt really talk to him for the past two days. but then the other day i walked by him and he was staring at me so i stared back and he was with two of his friends (one of them being my ex...) and while we where staring at each other while i was walking by they starting to laugh a lot.
i'm confizzled.... :p
help?Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
you should try talking to him. hes probly just scared you wont like him back.Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
well.... its possible. i like a complete mixed signal guy, and he doesnt show if he even likes you... which sux... but i think you need to get to know him better to really find out if he does or possibly doesnt. in this kind of situation, i think you should ask around, thats what i did to find out the guy i liked liked me back after a year of mixed signals. just trust me on this, being a guy magnent, not to brag, but when i have talked to guys before we asked each other stuff on and off and i asked him why guys send mixed signals, and he said '; because some guys dont like showing that we like a girl, and we would rather confuse other people along with it. '; it is a good explanation and i have followed that ever since.... TRUST ME ON THAT ADVICE IT WORKS FOR EVERYONE!!!
Grow some balls and ask him those questions.
Take 1 piece of candy in your mouth, call him over and have him taste it
wow. the gram thing was probably just a prank. ignore him for awhile and see if he likes it.
ok, when this guy didn't want to admitt that he sent you a candy gram it just means he's a jerk. if you ever went out with him, this is a sign that he might be embaressed of you. i would just stay away from the guy. if his friends laughed, there could be a possibility that the guy was playing a trick on you and making you think he liked you and obviously his friends were in on it. so either way, the guy's a jerk and i would just avoid him and move on.
if you like him enough just confront him and ask him if he likes you? if he likes you enough it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks
sounds like your lover and ex are messing with you.
I would keep my cool till he talks to you.
You got played.
I think he likes you, and the laughing part i bet was just his friends making fun of him..cuz when im with my friends and we see a person he likes we would naturally laugh at him and tease him...
This if far from love advice but
Do you like him? If no - who cares, move on!
If yes, confront him, tell him how you are feeling.
guys are confusing. i get what you mean. theres this one i freakin love at my school whos relly nice to me when me and him are alone but when hes with his friends they laugh at me and he kinda goes along with it. maybe this guy likes you but doesnt want to ask you out because he thinks his friends will make fun of him, thats whats happening with the guy i like.
ummm, i think that the guy does like you.
but the candy gram;
either he really sent it and then got all embarrassed because that's how boys are.
oorr,
your ex is jealous.
i dont no why you would be mad at him though.
:O oh what a bummer
sorrry honey but i think i know what is going on
the guy you like probably fuond out that you like him and told ur ex
then they decided to play around with you
and in the end your just a joke
sorry dear :[ but i think its what it is
The day before Christams break my friend texted me saying that he sent me a candy gram, he didnt send one to anyone else. After break i got the candy gram and i showed to one of my other friends and she that one of my other friends asked him if he talked to me over break (i came back to school later than everyone else) and he said ';no why?';
and she said ';cause you sent her a candy gram'; and he said ';no i didn't';. so then i got mad and i didnt really talk to him for the past two days. but then the other day i walked by him and he was staring at me so i stared back and he was with two of his friends (one of them being my ex...) and while we where staring at each other while i was walking by they starting to laugh a lot.
i'm confizzled.... :p
help?Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
you should try talking to him. hes probly just scared you wont like him back.Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
well.... its possible. i like a complete mixed signal guy, and he doesnt show if he even likes you... which sux... but i think you need to get to know him better to really find out if he does or possibly doesnt. in this kind of situation, i think you should ask around, thats what i did to find out the guy i liked liked me back after a year of mixed signals. just trust me on this, being a guy magnent, not to brag, but when i have talked to guys before we asked each other stuff on and off and i asked him why guys send mixed signals, and he said '; because some guys dont like showing that we like a girl, and we would rather confuse other people along with it. '; it is a good explanation and i have followed that ever since.... TRUST ME ON THAT ADVICE IT WORKS FOR EVERYONE!!!
Grow some balls and ask him those questions.
Take 1 piece of candy in your mouth, call him over and have him taste it
wow. the gram thing was probably just a prank. ignore him for awhile and see if he likes it.
ok, when this guy didn't want to admitt that he sent you a candy gram it just means he's a jerk. if you ever went out with him, this is a sign that he might be embaressed of you. i would just stay away from the guy. if his friends laughed, there could be a possibility that the guy was playing a trick on you and making you think he liked you and obviously his friends were in on it. so either way, the guy's a jerk and i would just avoid him and move on.
if you like him enough just confront him and ask him if he likes you? if he likes you enough it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks
sounds like your lover and ex are messing with you.
I would keep my cool till he talks to you.
You got played.
I think he likes you, and the laughing part i bet was just his friends making fun of him..cuz when im with my friends and we see a person he likes we would naturally laugh at him and tease him...
This if far from love advice but
Do you like him? If no - who cares, move on!
If yes, confront him, tell him how you are feeling.
guys are confusing. i get what you mean. theres this one i freakin love at my school whos relly nice to me when me and him are alone but when hes with his friends they laugh at me and he kinda goes along with it. maybe this guy likes you but doesnt want to ask you out because he thinks his friends will make fun of him, thats whats happening with the guy i like.
ummm, i think that the guy does like you.
but the candy gram;
either he really sent it and then got all embarrassed because that's how boys are.
oorr,
your ex is jealous.
i dont no why you would be mad at him though.
:O oh what a bummer
sorrry honey but i think i know what is going on
the guy you like probably fuond out that you like him and told ur ex
then they decided to play around with you
and in the end your just a joke
sorry dear :[ but i think its what it is
Any advice to a teenager from an adult?
Thanks.Any advice to a teenager from an adult?
Enjoy it while it lasts, because you're only young once.
For the same reason, spend it wisely.Any advice to a teenager from an adult?
work hard at everything you ever do nothing is ever free,be good,school is really important ,your parents are probably right,be yourself ,dont give in to peer pressure,wait for marriage or at least as long as you can
Don't ever fall prey to peer pressure. It will lead you to do stupid things. Keep away from drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol, and the rest of your life you will thank yourself.
Do as much learning as you can away from school. Remember, it never hurts to learn too much. Be smart. Don't do drugs or break the law. Be courtious of others. Help those less fortunate than you, and even if you're poor or homeless, spend time helping the community. If you are good to others, if you work hard and don't take hand-outs, if you help the elderly and the young children, the community will reward you in time. That's the way of the world. But you have to be patient. If you lost patience and start wanting and demanding, you won't be rewarded. And always, always learn as much as you can whenever you can. School only teaches you so much. There's so much more to the world.
What a very nice start for young person like you, you will succed because you seek advice.
You had only one life and one chance, to do the things you have to do, only one opportunity, so reach for your dreams and make it come true
Seek a job that you will enjoy doing for the rest of your life, if you do, its just like not working at all.
If you a had goal in life, like any endevour, the secret of success is reading , practice and perserverance
Enjoy life and be happy with little things.
Do all the things you want to do, as long it is not against your values and the law of the land.
depends on what really matters to you...
but all the advices above are very, very important.
however, pursue the things that make you happy!
No matter what he advice you will not follow it you will have to experience things on your own pace. What an adult tells you not to do you will try atleast once. So the only advice is make choices that you can live with and look your self in a mirror and not feel guilty.
stay in school go to college and don't have kids too young stay away from drugs
1. Listen to your parents
2. Stay in school, education is equal to success
3. Avoid peer pressure
4. Avoid alcohol, illegal drugs
5. Choose your friends wisely
6. Do not invest you precious time in boys, find a book to read
instead
7. Always give thanks for what you have, some people don't have
any
8. Pray always, and your dreams (aims) will come through
Bahave and dont do anything stupid.
1. If you knew how long you're going to live, you'd take better care of yourself !
2. Don't eat the yellow snow.
3. There's more to life than shopping.
save it for marriage
Formal education is a waste of time.
What ever you are thinking about doing, I will know because I have already done that.
The parents always use that one even if they never did any of that stuff.
Listen to what older people have to say and learn from their mistakes.
If you watch football on TV, you'll notice that coaches always say that the key to winning the game is to avoid turnovers and penalties, i.e. not making mistakes. The same is true about life in general.
So how do you avoid making mistakes? To avoid making mistakes you either need to have great judgment, learn from others, or make your own mistakes and learn the hard way.
Having great judgment is a blessing, but experience is usually the foundation for problem solving skills and judgment in general.
If you don't have experience, then you either learn from others or learn the hard way.
Learning the hard way is inefficient. And some mistakes are so destructive that irreparable harm may result.
So the most efficient way of avoiding mistakes is to learn from people with experience, usually older people. But you still need to examine their advice and decide for yourself if you should follow the advice.
I could go through and try to detail advice in this answer for you, but honestly, there is so much to learn and so much growth that happens during these years (really between 12 and 30! i’m still going through some of this development myself) my best suggestion would be to find some good mentors - powerful women you want to be like, or can look up to and learn from... you might find a few in real life, which would be great, otherwise read biographies on some women you'd really like to be like or who you respect a lot. you might want to pick women in a few different categories, i.e. business, politics, spirituality, etc... this doesn't need to be limited to women, but i think it makes it a little easier to connect when you are looking at your own sex.
I will give you a couple points of advice that are important to me to get you started, but everyone will have something different to offer and the closer they are to your situation the more useful there advice may be…
1) You can’t ever completely know yourself, but try to spend some time on this because it is very important. When I say know yourself, I don’t mean what you like to eat, who you have a crush on, etc… I mean to be honest with yourself about how you react in different situations, what your strategy is for making yourself happy, how do you “really” treat others, etc..
2) Watch closely other people’s mistakes and try to learn from them - as well as you own – if you can learn from other people’s mistakes it is a great advantage and saves you the time making them yourself.
3) Try to stay close with your parents and family, even though this may seem hard at times, they will be a part of you life forever and it’s important to keep these relationships as healthy as possible – if you don’t this will come back to haunt you later in life when you are starting relationships, or a family of your own.
4) Always remember to respect yourself. Other people may come and go throughout your life, but you are going to be stuck with you – and your choices – for and long, long time.
5) Treat others the way you would want them to treat you, be grateful for what you have – there are a lot of people who have less and always remember to “give back” to the world.
6) the last bit of advice i have is to listen to the song ';sunscreen'; by baz luhrmann and do your best to follow the advice - it pretty much covers all the important stuff - here's a link to the song:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fus…
here are the lyrics :)
'Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97: Wear sunscreen:
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blind side you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't know.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Learn from other people. Make your own judgements, and believe just anything or just anyone. Get an after school job, and concentrate on everything that you do! Study before tv.
life comes at you fast so take each day as a gift
save herself for marriage
rebel, thats what i did
trust me you dont realy know what your doing. honest
Don't try to grow up too fast. Enjoy beeing young and care (bill) free.
If you're under 18, then get the hell off this site!
You might not believe that your parents are there for you but Be it a fight with friends, a rough time dealing with school and the peeps in your class or the big problems like bullying, sibling rivalry, self-esteem problems, depression and suicide they are there for you.
Believe in yourself
Be who you are ( it is better to be hated for who you are than to be liked for who your not)
Someone who doesn't know himself can never really know anyone else
Someone who doesn't love himself can never really love anyone else
live life to its fullest and enjoy it you never know when your day may come.
listen to your parents
what kind of advice ? regarding what?...
Wait until you're a little older before you ';put out';, keep your grades high (it costs a shitload of money to re-do high school courses in college), stay in touch with your friends, enjoy being young, take long walks by yourself, be good to your family, don't get a job until you have to, and if you already have one - save as much money as possible, don't procrastinate, don't use bad language (as little as possible), get to know your grandparents, be nice to animals, listen to your music loud - one day you'll find yourself turning it down....,don't rush growing up, and love yourself for who you are.
Behave, get good grades, listen to your parents and wait for sex until marriage...
Believe in yourself. Follow your heart. Honor your mother and father, but don't let them control your future. Find a religion that best suits your needs. Get a good education.
Yes, I have lots of advice. I'm a guidance counselor.
Study your butt off, get scholarships to go to college, pursue the career of your dreams, and never lose your determination.
have fun while it lasts
Enjoy it while it lasts, because you're only young once.
For the same reason, spend it wisely.Any advice to a teenager from an adult?
work hard at everything you ever do nothing is ever free,be good,school is really important ,your parents are probably right,be yourself ,dont give in to peer pressure,wait for marriage or at least as long as you can
Don't ever fall prey to peer pressure. It will lead you to do stupid things. Keep away from drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol, and the rest of your life you will thank yourself.
Do as much learning as you can away from school. Remember, it never hurts to learn too much. Be smart. Don't do drugs or break the law. Be courtious of others. Help those less fortunate than you, and even if you're poor or homeless, spend time helping the community. If you are good to others, if you work hard and don't take hand-outs, if you help the elderly and the young children, the community will reward you in time. That's the way of the world. But you have to be patient. If you lost patience and start wanting and demanding, you won't be rewarded. And always, always learn as much as you can whenever you can. School only teaches you so much. There's so much more to the world.
What a very nice start for young person like you, you will succed because you seek advice.
You had only one life and one chance, to do the things you have to do, only one opportunity, so reach for your dreams and make it come true
Seek a job that you will enjoy doing for the rest of your life, if you do, its just like not working at all.
If you a had goal in life, like any endevour, the secret of success is reading , practice and perserverance
Enjoy life and be happy with little things.
Do all the things you want to do, as long it is not against your values and the law of the land.
depends on what really matters to you...
but all the advices above are very, very important.
however, pursue the things that make you happy!
No matter what he advice you will not follow it you will have to experience things on your own pace. What an adult tells you not to do you will try atleast once. So the only advice is make choices that you can live with and look your self in a mirror and not feel guilty.
stay in school go to college and don't have kids too young stay away from drugs
1. Listen to your parents
2. Stay in school, education is equal to success
3. Avoid peer pressure
4. Avoid alcohol, illegal drugs
5. Choose your friends wisely
6. Do not invest you precious time in boys, find a book to read
instead
7. Always give thanks for what you have, some people don't have
any
8. Pray always, and your dreams (aims) will come through
Bahave and dont do anything stupid.
1. If you knew how long you're going to live, you'd take better care of yourself !
2. Don't eat the yellow snow.
3. There's more to life than shopping.
save it for marriage
Formal education is a waste of time.
What ever you are thinking about doing, I will know because I have already done that.
The parents always use that one even if they never did any of that stuff.
Listen to what older people have to say and learn from their mistakes.
If you watch football on TV, you'll notice that coaches always say that the key to winning the game is to avoid turnovers and penalties, i.e. not making mistakes. The same is true about life in general.
So how do you avoid making mistakes? To avoid making mistakes you either need to have great judgment, learn from others, or make your own mistakes and learn the hard way.
Having great judgment is a blessing, but experience is usually the foundation for problem solving skills and judgment in general.
If you don't have experience, then you either learn from others or learn the hard way.
Learning the hard way is inefficient. And some mistakes are so destructive that irreparable harm may result.
So the most efficient way of avoiding mistakes is to learn from people with experience, usually older people. But you still need to examine their advice and decide for yourself if you should follow the advice.
I could go through and try to detail advice in this answer for you, but honestly, there is so much to learn and so much growth that happens during these years (really between 12 and 30! i’m still going through some of this development myself) my best suggestion would be to find some good mentors - powerful women you want to be like, or can look up to and learn from... you might find a few in real life, which would be great, otherwise read biographies on some women you'd really like to be like or who you respect a lot. you might want to pick women in a few different categories, i.e. business, politics, spirituality, etc... this doesn't need to be limited to women, but i think it makes it a little easier to connect when you are looking at your own sex.
I will give you a couple points of advice that are important to me to get you started, but everyone will have something different to offer and the closer they are to your situation the more useful there advice may be…
1) You can’t ever completely know yourself, but try to spend some time on this because it is very important. When I say know yourself, I don’t mean what you like to eat, who you have a crush on, etc… I mean to be honest with yourself about how you react in different situations, what your strategy is for making yourself happy, how do you “really” treat others, etc..
2) Watch closely other people’s mistakes and try to learn from them - as well as you own – if you can learn from other people’s mistakes it is a great advantage and saves you the time making them yourself.
3) Try to stay close with your parents and family, even though this may seem hard at times, they will be a part of you life forever and it’s important to keep these relationships as healthy as possible – if you don’t this will come back to haunt you later in life when you are starting relationships, or a family of your own.
4) Always remember to respect yourself. Other people may come and go throughout your life, but you are going to be stuck with you – and your choices – for and long, long time.
5) Treat others the way you would want them to treat you, be grateful for what you have – there are a lot of people who have less and always remember to “give back” to the world.
6) the last bit of advice i have is to listen to the song ';sunscreen'; by baz luhrmann and do your best to follow the advice - it pretty much covers all the important stuff - here's a link to the song:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fus…
here are the lyrics :)
'Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97: Wear sunscreen:
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blind side you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't know.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Learn from other people. Make your own judgements, and believe just anything or just anyone. Get an after school job, and concentrate on everything that you do! Study before tv.
life comes at you fast so take each day as a gift
save herself for marriage
rebel, thats what i did
trust me you dont realy know what your doing. honest
Don't try to grow up too fast. Enjoy beeing young and care (bill) free.
If you're under 18, then get the hell off this site!
You might not believe that your parents are there for you but Be it a fight with friends, a rough time dealing with school and the peeps in your class or the big problems like bullying, sibling rivalry, self-esteem problems, depression and suicide they are there for you.
Believe in yourself
Be who you are ( it is better to be hated for who you are than to be liked for who your not)
Someone who doesn't know himself can never really know anyone else
Someone who doesn't love himself can never really love anyone else
live life to its fullest and enjoy it you never know when your day may come.
listen to your parents
what kind of advice ? regarding what?...
Wait until you're a little older before you ';put out';, keep your grades high (it costs a shitload of money to re-do high school courses in college), stay in touch with your friends, enjoy being young, take long walks by yourself, be good to your family, don't get a job until you have to, and if you already have one - save as much money as possible, don't procrastinate, don't use bad language (as little as possible), get to know your grandparents, be nice to animals, listen to your music loud - one day you'll find yourself turning it down....,don't rush growing up, and love yourself for who you are.
Behave, get good grades, listen to your parents and wait for sex until marriage...
Believe in yourself. Follow your heart. Honor your mother and father, but don't let them control your future. Find a religion that best suits your needs. Get a good education.
Yes, I have lots of advice. I'm a guidance counselor.
Study your butt off, get scholarships to go to college, pursue the career of your dreams, and never lose your determination.
have fun while it lasts
Teenager's advice... pleasee. i been trying to ask this question lol?
If your parents are divorce or together, what parent would you live with if they got Divorce or what parent you wanted to live with? which parent lets you get your way mostly.? Do you get along with your parents?Teenager's advice... pleasee. i been trying to ask this question lol?
the parent who lets you get away with more may sound like the better choice, but having structure and discipline is better in the long run. they don't let you have your way because they are looking at what is better for you in the long run.
likely you won't get to choose what parent gets you, your parents will decide that.Teenager's advice... pleasee. i been trying to ask this question lol?
My mom because she's cool and funny. But my dad because we got more in common like sports. So idk.
I guess my mom
my parents are divoriced, i live with my mom, but i would prefer to live with my dad because he lets me get away with almost everything.
Most of the time in a divorce, the kids have no choice...they have to live with whatever parents is chosen to have full-custody...this is usually the case...or it is whatever parent will take the house and live near the child's school...
With joint-custody one parent may still have to pay child support OR RARELY parents split custody and no child support is paid...that is extremely rare...
My mom. I could support her. But Dad let's me get my way but that's not always good. I get along with them. But no, they're not divorced and nowhere near it.
my dad
well since im a girl i get along mostly with my mom better. she let me do more things fir as long as i can remember
i live with my mom and thats who i would prefer to live with she cares more about me. its like my dad doesnt even care about me.
my parents r ent divorced but a lot of my friends' r. they live wit one parent n go ovr 2 da other's hous n sleepovr 4 a few days. good luck!
id go back and forth i guess. my parents are about equal, i get my way more with grandparents lol, if i could live with them that would be perfect. my parents are both equal, its hard to get my way all the time, my dad probably would never let me go on a date, my mom would probably make me wait til im older. my parents both would probably make me wait til im like 17 lol.
its just how u look at it. which one do u need more, which one gives the best advice. for girls and their problems they should live with their mom, for guys i think theyd be happier with their dad.
You cant base any decsion off of this info. None of these people know your parents. Ask a neutral party that knows your parents.
the parent who lets you get away with more may sound like the better choice, but having structure and discipline is better in the long run. they don't let you have your way because they are looking at what is better for you in the long run.
likely you won't get to choose what parent gets you, your parents will decide that.Teenager's advice... pleasee. i been trying to ask this question lol?
My mom because she's cool and funny. But my dad because we got more in common like sports. So idk.
I guess my mom
my parents are divoriced, i live with my mom, but i would prefer to live with my dad because he lets me get away with almost everything.
Most of the time in a divorce, the kids have no choice...they have to live with whatever parents is chosen to have full-custody...this is usually the case...or it is whatever parent will take the house and live near the child's school...
With joint-custody one parent may still have to pay child support OR RARELY parents split custody and no child support is paid...that is extremely rare...
My mom. I could support her. But Dad let's me get my way but that's not always good. I get along with them. But no, they're not divorced and nowhere near it.
my dad
well since im a girl i get along mostly with my mom better. she let me do more things fir as long as i can remember
i live with my mom and thats who i would prefer to live with she cares more about me. its like my dad doesnt even care about me.
my parents r ent divorced but a lot of my friends' r. they live wit one parent n go ovr 2 da other's hous n sleepovr 4 a few days. good luck!
id go back and forth i guess. my parents are about equal, i get my way more with grandparents lol, if i could live with them that would be perfect. my parents are both equal, its hard to get my way all the time, my dad probably would never let me go on a date, my mom would probably make me wait til im older. my parents both would probably make me wait til im like 17 lol.
its just how u look at it. which one do u need more, which one gives the best advice. for girls and their problems they should live with their mom, for guys i think theyd be happier with their dad.
You cant base any decsion off of this info. None of these people know your parents. Ask a neutral party that knows your parents.
Teenager financial advice..?
Im 15 and I am looking to do more with my money than buying things and putting it in a 0.4% savings account. I don't have a steady income but over this year I made a little under 1000 dollars. any ideas?Teenager financial advice..?
Uh, corporate bonds for a 15 year old? Don't think so... Wait until you learn more about the function of capital/equity/debt markets before you start venturing down that road. There's plenty of time. Individual corporate debt investments are not guaranteed even if the Fed is engaged in quantitative easing.
It's good that you're starting early. Stick with the savings account or cd for now to build up your capital. It sounds boring but this year alone, there are many equity and fixed income investors that have lost 40% - 100% of their investments. You're already ahead of those folks.
In the meantime, go to the library and start reading about investments to learn more about personal finances. If you have an aptitude for the subject matter, try investing on your own. If the topic bores you, find a good financial advisor to manage your investments.Teenager financial advice..?
you could put it into long term investments.. You could open a roth ira or a low expense fee mutual fund... I know this sounds terrible with current market conditions but as always the market will recover.. Right now you would be buying the mutual fund shares out low and in the long term gain. Also a lot of people are very negative about the economy and yes of course it's bad, but there is no reason to be so negative.. So, that's my advice to you put it into a low operating cost investment for the long term.. good luck
Yes, very good time to buy some investment grade corporate bonds on the secondary market.
Some examples a 4.6% Simon Property due 06/15/10 priced at $890 giving you a Yield-to-Maturity of over 12.9%
or look at Sallie Mae bonds, or Protective Life or American Express, all are available with short maturities and YTM greater than 10%
Buy gold mining stocks. With all this money printing going on inflation will be outrageous driving gold to insane levels, mining stocks do better than the actual asset. Of course you need your parents assistance to set up an account.
Uh, corporate bonds for a 15 year old? Don't think so... Wait until you learn more about the function of capital/equity/debt markets before you start venturing down that road. There's plenty of time. Individual corporate debt investments are not guaranteed even if the Fed is engaged in quantitative easing.
It's good that you're starting early. Stick with the savings account or cd for now to build up your capital. It sounds boring but this year alone, there are many equity and fixed income investors that have lost 40% - 100% of their investments. You're already ahead of those folks.
In the meantime, go to the library and start reading about investments to learn more about personal finances. If you have an aptitude for the subject matter, try investing on your own. If the topic bores you, find a good financial advisor to manage your investments.Teenager financial advice..?
you could put it into long term investments.. You could open a roth ira or a low expense fee mutual fund... I know this sounds terrible with current market conditions but as always the market will recover.. Right now you would be buying the mutual fund shares out low and in the long term gain. Also a lot of people are very negative about the economy and yes of course it's bad, but there is no reason to be so negative.. So, that's my advice to you put it into a low operating cost investment for the long term.. good luck
Yes, very good time to buy some investment grade corporate bonds on the secondary market.
Some examples a 4.6% Simon Property due 06/15/10 priced at $890 giving you a Yield-to-Maturity of over 12.9%
or look at Sallie Mae bonds, or Protective Life or American Express, all are available with short maturities and YTM greater than 10%
Buy gold mining stocks. With all this money printing going on inflation will be outrageous driving gold to insane levels, mining stocks do better than the actual asset. Of course you need your parents assistance to set up an account.
I'm a teenager trying to get a job and I have a few issues. i could use some advice?
I'm 17 and I'm an honor roll student going to university next year. however, I don't know how to make my resume stand out because where i live, the decent jobs are hard to get because of the competition. Also, I have confidence and anxiety issues. I'm very hesitant to go job hunting because of my nerves and anxiety. i need help with overcoming these problems.I'm a teenager trying to get a job and I have a few issues. i could use some advice?
Just remember this job will not make or break you the more you want something the harder it will be to do it, just pretend its on a list and you need to get through it. It does get easierI'm a teenager trying to get a job and I have a few issues. i could use some advice?
I'm the same in that area.
I get anxiety and feelings that im not that good enough.
Or scared to get a job. I fear what people say.
But one thing u have to remember.
This is your life! and if u dont want to go to certain places, to look for work or whatever than dont!
Go to places that make u feel good, always no matter what do things that make u feel special and loved.
If you believe it hard enough, it will always be true to u.
I always say to myself that im here for a purpose and i wont let anyone interfear with my life, its up to me what goes on in my life.
Dont forget it!
I mean you going to University, thats really special!
You should be proud!
Don't be afraid to start at the bottom. If you don't have any experience, in fact, you may need to. I started working for my current employer at 15 as a Food Service Associate. I am now a salaried HR manager. You just have to work your way up.
You will need to overcome the anxiety and nerve problems by either seeking help with them (doctor or counselor) or by forcing yourself out to job hunt. In time it will become easier and more natural for you.
Good luck to you!
i agree with the person who answered first! get an online job or getting a few jobs in your community like mowing yards, helping older citizens in you community, babysitting, etc. then when you're ready to get a new job then add all of those to your resume.
Hope I Helped!!!
atleast i hope i helped- i'm only 13.
Hey! work online
This is absolutely free! You even get a $2.00 signing bonus! You can do games, surveys, or trial offers for money. Trust me, it works. I've been paid to my paypal and received checks many times already. Use this link to get your signing bonus. http://tinyurl.com/b2zehk or http://www.cashle.com/index.php?ref=jeffcollier24 Try it. Sign up and ask me for Proof of payments if you want. =)
Just remember this job will not make or break you the more you want something the harder it will be to do it, just pretend its on a list and you need to get through it. It does get easierI'm a teenager trying to get a job and I have a few issues. i could use some advice?
I'm the same in that area.
I get anxiety and feelings that im not that good enough.
Or scared to get a job. I fear what people say.
But one thing u have to remember.
This is your life! and if u dont want to go to certain places, to look for work or whatever than dont!
Go to places that make u feel good, always no matter what do things that make u feel special and loved.
If you believe it hard enough, it will always be true to u.
I always say to myself that im here for a purpose and i wont let anyone interfear with my life, its up to me what goes on in my life.
Dont forget it!
I mean you going to University, thats really special!
You should be proud!
Don't be afraid to start at the bottom. If you don't have any experience, in fact, you may need to. I started working for my current employer at 15 as a Food Service Associate. I am now a salaried HR manager. You just have to work your way up.
You will need to overcome the anxiety and nerve problems by either seeking help with them (doctor or counselor) or by forcing yourself out to job hunt. In time it will become easier and more natural for you.
Good luck to you!
i agree with the person who answered first! get an online job or getting a few jobs in your community like mowing yards, helping older citizens in you community, babysitting, etc. then when you're ready to get a new job then add all of those to your resume.
Hope I Helped!!!
atleast i hope i helped- i'm only 13.
Hey! work online
This is absolutely free! You even get a $2.00 signing bonus! You can do games, surveys, or trial offers for money. Trust me, it works. I've been paid to my paypal and received checks many times already. Use this link to get your signing bonus. http://tinyurl.com/b2zehk or http://www.cashle.com/index.php?ref=jeffcollier24 Try it. Sign up and ask me for Proof of payments if you want. =)
Advice on speaking to a wayward teenager?
Its my niece, she is 15 going on 25. Lately she has been ignoring her mum and going out without permission. On occasions she has gone to gigs and is coming back home at 3am etc. Once one of her friends called her and gave a message to one of her siblings, asking my niece to ';not forget the vodka';.
Just to give you an overall picture, she is mature for her age, she looks older than 15 because of her height and shape. She has a good heart, but she is quite a moaner and always thinks she is being hard-done by. She has an older sister at university, and i suspect she wants to enjoy the same freedoms as her sis.
Her mum seems to have given up disciplining her. Of course i will speak to her mum before going ahead to get mums permission but i know she wants my help cos she asked for help with this before
I want my niece to confide in me, but i dont want her to think that i am condoning her behaviour.
How do i approach this?
(we are of Nigerian origin, not sure if helps)!!Advice on speaking to a wayward teenager?
i have 3 teenage daughters and i sympathise totally.
I always find that if things are changing in their lives and they seem to be finding things a bit difficult or they seem to be going off the rails a great tip is to take them out for a girly 1 on 1 shopping trip. yes it does involve sending money but hey you can stop off in Starbucks to have a coffee and a chat.
i find that because I'm doing something with them that i would usually do with my own girlfriends, they feel mature. talk about things you know that will connect with your niece such as drinking or gigs, find that subject and then when she opens up just sit back and listen to her. you'll be surprised to things that are issues in her life. she maybe 15 but in today's society that is like being 20 something. let her know that you will listen to her unconditionally. don't criticise her or use the No You can't !words. let her trust you. and trust me she'll be telling you this, that and the other in no time.the key now is to guide her gently with sound honest advice give her the chance to see where she is hurting herself and mum. Give her real life scenarios, by using the news papers such as The South London Press or your local paper. We are Black too, and too often the stories in these papers relate to us. good luck, I hope this is of some helpAdvice on speaking to a wayward teenager?
Tricky. You are right to ask your sister first, because discipline HAS to come from her, not you. If you try and do it, you could be undermining what is left of her authority.
It seems you are lucky enough to have your niece's confidence.
Since she has asked you for help before, you could ask her how things are going, and use that as a start point. Ask her where she thinks this will end. Where does she want o be this time next year, and will doing what she is doing get her there?
You will do no harm in telling her that you do not condone her behaviour, as long you don't shout at her. She is probably desperate for guidance.
What about your sister? What support does she have? Why has she given up and what has happened to cause this young lady to come of the rails? She could ring Parentline, 0808 800 2222
or look on their website at www.parentlineplus.org.uk for tips on coping with teenagers.
Get her a cell phone that has gps. Then you can track her whereabouts on line for about 20 bucks a month. If she is going places she shouldn't be, then you can take the 'evidence' to her mom. If she doesn't have anything to hide then she won't mind being tracked. It's a good way for teens to earn their parents trust, and to become more trust worthy.
well.. I can tell you my opinion. No one that I know confides in someone who considers them 'wayward'. If people feel critisized, they won't open up to you. I tend to be rather non judgmental. My opinion is that no one is lost or way ward. Everyone is on a journey. She is making these choices and will learn her lessons. She will ok... she is learning about life. If you approach her with that attitude, she will be more likely to open up. You don't have to condone or agree with her behavior... but you don't have to critisize it because you dont' understand it. Does that make sense? Sometimes non judgment isn't easy.. but if you can manage that, then she will have someone 'safe' to confide it while she goes through this time in her life
First I am gonna tell you I love working with children especially teenage boys and girls. My opinion on this is that with young ladies you need to be on their side. It is not necessarily agreeing with their behavior but showing them that you have been there before and try to relate. Also, you have to appear to be approachable and not judgemental, youth do not respond well to people who are judging them or labelling them based on what you see as ';wayward'; behavior. She is young and will do many rebellious things but she still needs guidance. Confront and express to her your concern in her behavior but at the same time lend her your listening ear and compassionate heart.
Well
Good news ...
You mentioned gigs
Thats often a good sign if it means shes into the likes of
Skatepunk, emo, nu metal, heavey metal, indie, britpop, thrash, goth, punk etc... ie rock music
As those scenes tend to be mostly drug free other then a little dope maybe.
But far more so the underlying values and culture is not preditory or dominanting and degrading of girls and gays like say hip hop, garage, house etc.
Most in varous rock music scenes are not into fighting, dont think its cool to be hard and bully others or pick vicoious fights over nothing or form gangs etc.
Nore are super expensive clothes concious.
And whlst they drink.
Most are more interested in the band, dancing, crowd surfing (carried over the crowd), stage diving...jumping off stage into the crowd (the smart ones make sure said crowd ready to catch) or moshing/slam dancing which looks aggressive and violent but is not really at all and very rare anyone gets hurt.
ie bouncing into each other and throwing each other around to wild music. (lots of fun and good for stress relief) Bit like everyone piling onto a bouncy castle and going potty.
But you fall over and say five people around you pick you up.
The older look after the younger, the stronger look after the weaker and the more experienced look after the less experienced rockers.
And many gorw up to be creative types, or social types like teachers and youth workers and those would be the wild ones with the wild coloured hair and tattoos.
however whats also commin with 15 year olds in general is trying to drink too much as discovered alcohol without the older ones to look up to to say hay kid take it easy...
Not cool to be falling over, vometing and off to casuklty to get stomach pumped.
Plus kids that young should not be drinking certianly not a bottle of odka as it effects them much stronger.
As people get older they often in the rock scen learn their limits and take it easier.
Unlike chav types into house and garage, RnB, normal' music who are the ones who alwasy drink too much and get into fights.
Your rocker lot tend to be the chilled out hippy types in festivals like Gladstonebury.
Now of course if we are talking Gangster rap/grime etc gigs then none of that applies as you are dealing with a club full or crack dealing mugger types, or certainly far more likly to come accross that type who would kick you to death for looking at them in a way they dont like.
Ricker types dont care about spilt drinks and even if a fight did occur (rare) it would be realtively mild, no gangs, kicking on the ground or weapons etc.
More likely so in so was too timing so in so, punch up, the odd bruise and thats the end of it.
*****************
Solutions...
Well how old are you?
What your niece needs is not the parent here.
But a reble mentor roll model which would need to be not to old.
More cool can pull the girls/guys, maybe has a car, first to stage dive, party animal type who also does not get agro and looks after the younger lot. Whos probably has a wild hair cut and oldies disapprove of but is not really nasty or bad.
A example of which could be seen in the old sit come Happy days ... ie the Fonz.
Other characters in films inc Han Solo star wars, Max (Jessica Alba) in Dark Angel etc.
Now this aint the 50s so we would be looking at someone far more up to date and in your case female.
But you get the general idea.
Someone to give make up tips that will horrify parents, (ie dye hair bright neon pink into dread locks etc.
Who maybe has a tattoo.
Who has a boyfriend or is good at using her sexuality on guys or having fun with guys.
Who is popular, can dance, good at clubbing and would be the one to lead operation sneak into galdstonebury.
(ie a little naughty.
But therefore be taken seriously if says hey take it easy with the booze kid that aint cool you getting sick... You want to be cool lets see some moves that show up the boys on the dance floor.
Not a t totaller christian but somone who could show here how to feel grown up and be cool without needing to get **** faced, and tell herto stop being a ***** to her parents.
Someon uni age or slightly above (leader of the pack) would be good for this.
Now you could possibly be this if you were say in twenties pref early, and the one who always went clubbing and to gigs etc.
This is the kind who the girls can make her hero, and someone to confide in as they would understand what shes going though in her eays unlike her parent who never dated, never went to parties or had any feelings according to her.
Someone also who will be able to be assertive enough to stop her trying to over big herself .
ie shes still only 15.
We used to bring 15 year old cousins, somones sister, half sister from abroad when we went out (less nightclub age is 18)
but in the clubs we went to half were 16-18.
Full on rocktypes
and the clubs were safe... (only saw one fight in 15 years and that was when a guy acting a tit was dumb enough to grab the but of the fiestiest tomboy type in the place half his size who gave him a good thumping, we pulled her off him , but he propbably only had a balck eye next morning, few bruises and the embarrasmanet on getting slapped to the floor by a girl hal his size.)
Our rules would be you can come but pepsi only and no wandering off, if you meet a guy and want to make out. Fine but were we can keep an eye on you incase the guy is a dk head.
THINK YOU CANT STOP A STEAM TRAIN CHARGING AT YOU, BUT YOU CAN SWITCH THE POINTS AND DIRECT IT TO A SAFE TRACK TO STOP A CRASH.
Thats the suggestion.
See the qualifications above.
Someone who can welcome and guide her into grown up going out but slow her down and help her do it undercontrol and responsibly.
and that includes no downing bottles of vodka, or satying up 3am every school night.
AS (NOW HERS THE THOUGHT TO GET IN HER HEAD)
IF SHE GETS PISSED TO 3AM EVERY NIGHT.
SHE WONT GET INTO UNI LIKE HER SISTER
WHERE THE AMAZING PARTIES ARE
IF SHE WANTS THE BEST UNI PARTIES.
SHE NEEDS TO STUDY.
ALSO NO STUDY, NO GOOD JOB THEN WONT BE ABLE TO AFFORD TO GO OUT AND PARTY.
wONT HAVE THE FREEDOM TO AFFORD TO BE ABLE TOGO TRAVEL AROUND THE WORLD OR AFFORD NICE WHEELS TO GO TO FEASTIVALS.
the funky colursed hair and sexy clothes is normal and not the problem...
But you want her to confide in you you need to make yourself apear cool in her eyes, having got up to all the nuaghty stuff.
(Good stories about who you and her mum used to party would help) to get credibility.
That way you have the cool point power to keep her off drugs.
Ie if you skydive, swim with sharks, have a nice customised car, look cool, get into the cool clubs and gigs, even better your in a band...
You dont need drugs to be cool. or fight etc.
Get the general idea what Im getting at?
She will push boundaries to try and feel grown up and get accepted
Much like in tribal times a teen guy waouls want to take on a lion to get his first kill and initated into manhood to be accepted as a young warrior .
Well this is like a modern version and your need to femalise it.
Most of what I have suggested is more bloky but you understand?
And it helps for mum to be in on it and pretending to disapprove.
But its the bigger picture you are looking at long term, it will take time and may appear undermining at first till you (or whoever you get to do this as you may not have the qualifications) you then get her back accpeting mum aint so bad after all as not trying to stop you having a life but trying to help you.
IF YOU DONT DO THIS... OR GET SOMEONE WHO CAN.
SOMEONE ELSE WILL TAKE THIS ROLE ONLY IT WON'T WONT BE THE POSITIVE VERSION I DESCRIBED.
GANG MEMBERS OR SIMILAR TYPES, OR GIRLS WHO WILL GET HER DEEP INTO DRUGS, GETTING WASTED, OR JOYRIDING AND END UP DEAD.
As often kids end up gangs looking for theis tcool top hero person to help them into adulthood and acceptabnce only its the wrong group and a nasty one they get accepted into.
Note my description would describe a typical youth outreach worker. You cant do this if a nurd, squeeky clean and goodie too shes in a suit etc.
It should be her mum who is doing the disciplining, but in a close family like yours,the next best adult, like yourself, can do it, of course with her mother's permission.
Teenagers need limits, and they need someone to be firm about setting them. Sure, they moan and kick up and all that sort of whiny stuff, but one day, (a long time off!) she will recognise what you tried to do for her.
Just yesterday, I reprimanded my 6 year old grandson for kicking his father, my son, on the shins. My son is an easy-going ,laid -back sort of dad, but I don't believe your children have the right to kick you, no matter how young they are.
I said ';don't you dare kick your daddy like that, not as long as I'm alive!';
He was so astonished, because I am a loving grandmother, and have NEVER told him off before, that he stopped immediately and burst into tears., eventually saying ';sorry, nanna';. I told him his dad needed an apology too.
So you see, you can do it too.
Good luck.
Oh I really feel for you,its horrible you think where has my daughter gone,they love to push boundaries at this age,a lot of it is peer pressure.However I do understand how some parents feel like giving up,she will come out of it,your sister could ring Parent line Plus,they really listen and make you aware of your choices as parent,they are also on the net.Good luck
You need to let your niece know that she can talk to you and trust you. Then you need to find out why she is involved in this behavior. Is she trying to get someones attention or does she not care and just wants to have fun?facial
Just to give you an overall picture, she is mature for her age, she looks older than 15 because of her height and shape. She has a good heart, but she is quite a moaner and always thinks she is being hard-done by. She has an older sister at university, and i suspect she wants to enjoy the same freedoms as her sis.
Her mum seems to have given up disciplining her. Of course i will speak to her mum before going ahead to get mums permission but i know she wants my help cos she asked for help with this before
I want my niece to confide in me, but i dont want her to think that i am condoning her behaviour.
How do i approach this?
(we are of Nigerian origin, not sure if helps)!!Advice on speaking to a wayward teenager?
i have 3 teenage daughters and i sympathise totally.
I always find that if things are changing in their lives and they seem to be finding things a bit difficult or they seem to be going off the rails a great tip is to take them out for a girly 1 on 1 shopping trip. yes it does involve sending money but hey you can stop off in Starbucks to have a coffee and a chat.
i find that because I'm doing something with them that i would usually do with my own girlfriends, they feel mature. talk about things you know that will connect with your niece such as drinking or gigs, find that subject and then when she opens up just sit back and listen to her. you'll be surprised to things that are issues in her life. she maybe 15 but in today's society that is like being 20 something. let her know that you will listen to her unconditionally. don't criticise her or use the No You can't !words. let her trust you. and trust me she'll be telling you this, that and the other in no time.the key now is to guide her gently with sound honest advice give her the chance to see where she is hurting herself and mum. Give her real life scenarios, by using the news papers such as The South London Press or your local paper. We are Black too, and too often the stories in these papers relate to us. good luck, I hope this is of some helpAdvice on speaking to a wayward teenager?
Tricky. You are right to ask your sister first, because discipline HAS to come from her, not you. If you try and do it, you could be undermining what is left of her authority.
It seems you are lucky enough to have your niece's confidence.
Since she has asked you for help before, you could ask her how things are going, and use that as a start point. Ask her where she thinks this will end. Where does she want o be this time next year, and will doing what she is doing get her there?
You will do no harm in telling her that you do not condone her behaviour, as long you don't shout at her. She is probably desperate for guidance.
What about your sister? What support does she have? Why has she given up and what has happened to cause this young lady to come of the rails? She could ring Parentline, 0808 800 2222
or look on their website at www.parentlineplus.org.uk for tips on coping with teenagers.
Get her a cell phone that has gps. Then you can track her whereabouts on line for about 20 bucks a month. If she is going places she shouldn't be, then you can take the 'evidence' to her mom. If she doesn't have anything to hide then she won't mind being tracked. It's a good way for teens to earn their parents trust, and to become more trust worthy.
well.. I can tell you my opinion. No one that I know confides in someone who considers them 'wayward'. If people feel critisized, they won't open up to you. I tend to be rather non judgmental. My opinion is that no one is lost or way ward. Everyone is on a journey. She is making these choices and will learn her lessons. She will ok... she is learning about life. If you approach her with that attitude, she will be more likely to open up. You don't have to condone or agree with her behavior... but you don't have to critisize it because you dont' understand it. Does that make sense? Sometimes non judgment isn't easy.. but if you can manage that, then she will have someone 'safe' to confide it while she goes through this time in her life
First I am gonna tell you I love working with children especially teenage boys and girls. My opinion on this is that with young ladies you need to be on their side. It is not necessarily agreeing with their behavior but showing them that you have been there before and try to relate. Also, you have to appear to be approachable and not judgemental, youth do not respond well to people who are judging them or labelling them based on what you see as ';wayward'; behavior. She is young and will do many rebellious things but she still needs guidance. Confront and express to her your concern in her behavior but at the same time lend her your listening ear and compassionate heart.
Well
Good news ...
You mentioned gigs
Thats often a good sign if it means shes into the likes of
Skatepunk, emo, nu metal, heavey metal, indie, britpop, thrash, goth, punk etc... ie rock music
As those scenes tend to be mostly drug free other then a little dope maybe.
But far more so the underlying values and culture is not preditory or dominanting and degrading of girls and gays like say hip hop, garage, house etc.
Most in varous rock music scenes are not into fighting, dont think its cool to be hard and bully others or pick vicoious fights over nothing or form gangs etc.
Nore are super expensive clothes concious.
And whlst they drink.
Most are more interested in the band, dancing, crowd surfing (carried over the crowd), stage diving...jumping off stage into the crowd (the smart ones make sure said crowd ready to catch) or moshing/slam dancing which looks aggressive and violent but is not really at all and very rare anyone gets hurt.
ie bouncing into each other and throwing each other around to wild music. (lots of fun and good for stress relief) Bit like everyone piling onto a bouncy castle and going potty.
But you fall over and say five people around you pick you up.
The older look after the younger, the stronger look after the weaker and the more experienced look after the less experienced rockers.
And many gorw up to be creative types, or social types like teachers and youth workers and those would be the wild ones with the wild coloured hair and tattoos.
however whats also commin with 15 year olds in general is trying to drink too much as discovered alcohol without the older ones to look up to to say hay kid take it easy...
Not cool to be falling over, vometing and off to casuklty to get stomach pumped.
Plus kids that young should not be drinking certianly not a bottle of odka as it effects them much stronger.
As people get older they often in the rock scen learn their limits and take it easier.
Unlike chav types into house and garage, RnB, normal' music who are the ones who alwasy drink too much and get into fights.
Your rocker lot tend to be the chilled out hippy types in festivals like Gladstonebury.
Now of course if we are talking Gangster rap/grime etc gigs then none of that applies as you are dealing with a club full or crack dealing mugger types, or certainly far more likly to come accross that type who would kick you to death for looking at them in a way they dont like.
Ricker types dont care about spilt drinks and even if a fight did occur (rare) it would be realtively mild, no gangs, kicking on the ground or weapons etc.
More likely so in so was too timing so in so, punch up, the odd bruise and thats the end of it.
*****************
Solutions...
Well how old are you?
What your niece needs is not the parent here.
But a reble mentor roll model which would need to be not to old.
More cool can pull the girls/guys, maybe has a car, first to stage dive, party animal type who also does not get agro and looks after the younger lot. Whos probably has a wild hair cut and oldies disapprove of but is not really nasty or bad.
A example of which could be seen in the old sit come Happy days ... ie the Fonz.
Other characters in films inc Han Solo star wars, Max (Jessica Alba) in Dark Angel etc.
Now this aint the 50s so we would be looking at someone far more up to date and in your case female.
But you get the general idea.
Someone to give make up tips that will horrify parents, (ie dye hair bright neon pink into dread locks etc.
Who maybe has a tattoo.
Who has a boyfriend or is good at using her sexuality on guys or having fun with guys.
Who is popular, can dance, good at clubbing and would be the one to lead operation sneak into galdstonebury.
(ie a little naughty.
But therefore be taken seriously if says hey take it easy with the booze kid that aint cool you getting sick... You want to be cool lets see some moves that show up the boys on the dance floor.
Not a t totaller christian but somone who could show here how to feel grown up and be cool without needing to get **** faced, and tell herto stop being a ***** to her parents.
Someon uni age or slightly above (leader of the pack) would be good for this.
Now you could possibly be this if you were say in twenties pref early, and the one who always went clubbing and to gigs etc.
This is the kind who the girls can make her hero, and someone to confide in as they would understand what shes going though in her eays unlike her parent who never dated, never went to parties or had any feelings according to her.
Someone also who will be able to be assertive enough to stop her trying to over big herself .
ie shes still only 15.
We used to bring 15 year old cousins, somones sister, half sister from abroad when we went out (less nightclub age is 18)
but in the clubs we went to half were 16-18.
Full on rocktypes
and the clubs were safe... (only saw one fight in 15 years and that was when a guy acting a tit was dumb enough to grab the but of the fiestiest tomboy type in the place half his size who gave him a good thumping, we pulled her off him , but he propbably only had a balck eye next morning, few bruises and the embarrasmanet on getting slapped to the floor by a girl hal his size.)
Our rules would be you can come but pepsi only and no wandering off, if you meet a guy and want to make out. Fine but were we can keep an eye on you incase the guy is a dk head.
THINK YOU CANT STOP A STEAM TRAIN CHARGING AT YOU, BUT YOU CAN SWITCH THE POINTS AND DIRECT IT TO A SAFE TRACK TO STOP A CRASH.
Thats the suggestion.
See the qualifications above.
Someone who can welcome and guide her into grown up going out but slow her down and help her do it undercontrol and responsibly.
and that includes no downing bottles of vodka, or satying up 3am every school night.
AS (NOW HERS THE THOUGHT TO GET IN HER HEAD)
IF SHE GETS PISSED TO 3AM EVERY NIGHT.
SHE WONT GET INTO UNI LIKE HER SISTER
WHERE THE AMAZING PARTIES ARE
IF SHE WANTS THE BEST UNI PARTIES.
SHE NEEDS TO STUDY.
ALSO NO STUDY, NO GOOD JOB THEN WONT BE ABLE TO AFFORD TO GO OUT AND PARTY.
wONT HAVE THE FREEDOM TO AFFORD TO BE ABLE TOGO TRAVEL AROUND THE WORLD OR AFFORD NICE WHEELS TO GO TO FEASTIVALS.
the funky colursed hair and sexy clothes is normal and not the problem...
But you want her to confide in you you need to make yourself apear cool in her eyes, having got up to all the nuaghty stuff.
(Good stories about who you and her mum used to party would help) to get credibility.
That way you have the cool point power to keep her off drugs.
Ie if you skydive, swim with sharks, have a nice customised car, look cool, get into the cool clubs and gigs, even better your in a band...
You dont need drugs to be cool. or fight etc.
Get the general idea what Im getting at?
She will push boundaries to try and feel grown up and get accepted
Much like in tribal times a teen guy waouls want to take on a lion to get his first kill and initated into manhood to be accepted as a young warrior .
Well this is like a modern version and your need to femalise it.
Most of what I have suggested is more bloky but you understand?
And it helps for mum to be in on it and pretending to disapprove.
But its the bigger picture you are looking at long term, it will take time and may appear undermining at first till you (or whoever you get to do this as you may not have the qualifications) you then get her back accpeting mum aint so bad after all as not trying to stop you having a life but trying to help you.
IF YOU DONT DO THIS... OR GET SOMEONE WHO CAN.
SOMEONE ELSE WILL TAKE THIS ROLE ONLY IT WON'T WONT BE THE POSITIVE VERSION I DESCRIBED.
GANG MEMBERS OR SIMILAR TYPES, OR GIRLS WHO WILL GET HER DEEP INTO DRUGS, GETTING WASTED, OR JOYRIDING AND END UP DEAD.
As often kids end up gangs looking for theis tcool top hero person to help them into adulthood and acceptabnce only its the wrong group and a nasty one they get accepted into.
Note my description would describe a typical youth outreach worker. You cant do this if a nurd, squeeky clean and goodie too shes in a suit etc.
It should be her mum who is doing the disciplining, but in a close family like yours,the next best adult, like yourself, can do it, of course with her mother's permission.
Teenagers need limits, and they need someone to be firm about setting them. Sure, they moan and kick up and all that sort of whiny stuff, but one day, (a long time off!) she will recognise what you tried to do for her.
Just yesterday, I reprimanded my 6 year old grandson for kicking his father, my son, on the shins. My son is an easy-going ,laid -back sort of dad, but I don't believe your children have the right to kick you, no matter how young they are.
I said ';don't you dare kick your daddy like that, not as long as I'm alive!';
He was so astonished, because I am a loving grandmother, and have NEVER told him off before, that he stopped immediately and burst into tears., eventually saying ';sorry, nanna';. I told him his dad needed an apology too.
So you see, you can do it too.
Good luck.
Oh I really feel for you,its horrible you think where has my daughter gone,they love to push boundaries at this age,a lot of it is peer pressure.However I do understand how some parents feel like giving up,she will come out of it,your sister could ring Parent line Plus,they really listen and make you aware of your choices as parent,they are also on the net.Good luck
You need to let your niece know that she can talk to you and trust you. Then you need to find out why she is involved in this behavior. Is she trying to get someones attention or does she not care and just wants to have fun?
Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
sooo. i liked this guy before christmas break. i started to talk to him more. I never really flirted with him but he started to sit by me in one of my classes more often and he would converse with me about the class topic, when he would talk he would look at me a lot, and he was really friendly. We would talk a lot on and off and it seemed like he gave off a lot of mixed signals.
The day before Christams break my friend texted me saying that he sent me a candy gram, he didnt send one to anyone else. After break i got the candy gram and i showed to one of my other friends and she that one of my other friends asked him if he talked to me over break (i came back to school later than everyone else) and he said ';no why?';
and she said ';cause you sent her a candy gram'; and he said ';no i didn't';. so then i got mad and i didnt really talk to him for the past two days. but then the other day i walked by him and he was staring at me so i stared back and he was with two of his friends (one of them being my ex...) and while we where staring at each other while i was walking by they starting to laugh a lot.
i'm confizzled.... :p
help?Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
i think this guy might like you. you just may be giving off signals that you don't like him. you should talk to him and start flirting. this guy is probably confused 2.Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
Some guys can just be idiots and have S** with you then the next day claim the don't even know you I'm not saying this happened ';] he may just want to be Friends with benifits Or he may just think your going to be his booty call I say skrew him and move on I know it may be tough trust me you'll find someone better its going to be hard
The day before Christams break my friend texted me saying that he sent me a candy gram, he didnt send one to anyone else. After break i got the candy gram and i showed to one of my other friends and she that one of my other friends asked him if he talked to me over break (i came back to school later than everyone else) and he said ';no why?';
and she said ';cause you sent her a candy gram'; and he said ';no i didn't';. so then i got mad and i didnt really talk to him for the past two days. but then the other day i walked by him and he was staring at me so i stared back and he was with two of his friends (one of them being my ex...) and while we where staring at each other while i was walking by they starting to laugh a lot.
i'm confizzled.... :p
help?Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
i think this guy might like you. you just may be giving off signals that you don't like him. you should talk to him and start flirting. this guy is probably confused 2.Confusion about guy (love advice...teenager)?
Some guys can just be idiots and have S** with you then the next day claim the don't even know you I'm not saying this happened ';] he may just want to be Friends with benifits Or he may just think your going to be his booty call I say skrew him and move on I know it may be tough trust me you'll find someone better its going to be hard
I need some major advice,teenager problems.LOL!?
I feel like my life is falling to pieces. I hate school so much, but at the same time I don't know if I could leave,not that I really have that option. But nonetheless I hate being there so much! Basically it just sucks, I've always had this problem with school though. We actually decided to pull me out a few years ago because it was really getting bad. But my parents are there for me like that anymore. I can't really talk to them about it either. Then I also have boy troubles. I'm going out with this guy, hes great(at times)lol. And theres this other guy(my ex-boyfriend) who was my first love.So cliche ,but true. I thought about it last night and decided I should be with my ex, I thought about all the times we had together and was like I miss it and want it back. But I started talking to my current bf about breaking up and it didn't feel right and I started crying. I am so completely confused. It just feels like everythings going awry. I'm not happy and I'm getting really down on myself.My question is basically I'm looking for any advice because I know either way I go someone is going to get hurt and I could make the wrong decision. I can't really talk to any of my friends about it. So anything you could throw my way would be very appreciated.Thanks!!I need some major advice,teenager problems.LOL!?
Wow, sounds like you are in a difficult situation.
I can relate to hating school. It isn't something I'd ever want to go through again. I highly recommend reading ';The Teenage Liberation Handbook'; by Grace Llewelyn. Lot of great ideas for teens to get on with their lives and leave highschool behind.
When you get to this point of having ex's in your life, you always have some comparison to your current boyfriend. You'll measure every guy against him from now on. It's not necessarily a bad thing, because you don't want someone not as good as the one you left.
Think really hard about why you broke up with your ex. Sometimes we look back and forget the bad stuff, and only remember the good. You want to make sure that if you do end your current relationship, you won't be regretful.
Sometimes life is just really confusing. There are tough decisions to make, and there are no guarentees in life. People do get hurt, it can't always be avoided; all you can do is try to make it as painless as possible.
Best of luck to you :D
Wow, sounds like you are in a difficult situation.
I can relate to hating school. It isn't something I'd ever want to go through again. I highly recommend reading ';The Teenage Liberation Handbook'; by Grace Llewelyn. Lot of great ideas for teens to get on with their lives and leave highschool behind.
When you get to this point of having ex's in your life, you always have some comparison to your current boyfriend. You'll measure every guy against him from now on. It's not necessarily a bad thing, because you don't want someone not as good as the one you left.
Think really hard about why you broke up with your ex. Sometimes we look back and forget the bad stuff, and only remember the good. You want to make sure that if you do end your current relationship, you won't be regretful.
Sometimes life is just really confusing. There are tough decisions to make, and there are no guarentees in life. People do get hurt, it can't always be avoided; all you can do is try to make it as painless as possible.
Best of luck to you :D
I have problems ? advice ? ... teenager and mom stuff.?
I'm almost always constantly getting into these arguments with my mom. Sometimes i just think i hate her ! We're always arguing about, practically everything ! Like, with my homework... she'll ask why i didn't do something and i'll try to explain to her why and she just ignores almost everything i say and believes what she wants. [i dont wanna get to detailed] ... ... anyways, sometimes i just end up cutting my hand on purpose. ( not wrists, i'm not commiting suicide). Theres other times i get so mad that i throw things around in my room and scream. Like, this one time, i threw a hair brush at the wall so hard it put a hole in it =// i know i have anger issues, but those aren't so bad anymore, as in, no more throwing things and screaming i hate my life....just like, yelling and arguing with her all the time. I WANT IT TO STOP. I've already tried explaining to her how i feel. It didn't work. ~ Any advice ? it would be much appreciated.I have problems ? advice ? ... teenager and mom stuff.?
that sounds horrible! im so sorry :O
please dont cut urself on purpose. That is DEFINITELY not the way to solve your problems.... dont be afraid to scream sometimes tho. When i get really upset i just scream and scream into my pillow and eventually i feel a lot better.
If you dont have a very good relationship with your mom, you should try to talk to her about things that you guys dont fight about. Maybe spend some time with her having fun. That way, your relationship will build and hopefully she will eventually listen to your feelings. Try not to provoke her. Be polite, thank her. She will appreciate it. Trust me
Good luck =D and just hang in there. It will all work outI have problems ? advice ? ... teenager and mom stuff.?
please dont do silly thing like cutting yourself,it is you who are in pain
not your mom,she is not afraid of her daughter in hurt,she do not feel the pain.i kow how u feel at that time to prove yourself and she just ignore .some people are like that they always liketo they are right,maniputation.queen of everything.i suggest u go to library to study than at home.try to search for good friends to talk to u .try to be independant.not tell her so much.if u have elder siblings or father,talk to them.
Just walk away. Go to your room and listen to music or read or write . . . anything that makes you feel better. If she starts to scream at you just leave before it can really get started. Maybe go to a friends house or something.
I have the same prob. just not to that extent.
omg! you poor child.. That would be aweful. Me and my mom used to not get along that great either, and honestly i wish i could tell you it got better but it didnt until i got a job,car,and a boyfriend actually made it worse. And ill never forget the day i confessed i was having sex. But the point is you see things your way and she sees things another. And me being a mom now years later,(expecting baby #2 in aug) it kinda helps me realize why we were always arguing. She was just trying to either protect you or make you see something in a adult manner. But someday it will be better i promise, just hang in there.
that sounds horrible! im so sorry :O
please dont cut urself on purpose. That is DEFINITELY not the way to solve your problems.... dont be afraid to scream sometimes tho. When i get really upset i just scream and scream into my pillow and eventually i feel a lot better.
If you dont have a very good relationship with your mom, you should try to talk to her about things that you guys dont fight about. Maybe spend some time with her having fun. That way, your relationship will build and hopefully she will eventually listen to your feelings. Try not to provoke her. Be polite, thank her. She will appreciate it. Trust me
Good luck =D and just hang in there. It will all work outI have problems ? advice ? ... teenager and mom stuff.?
please dont do silly thing like cutting yourself,it is you who are in pain
not your mom,she is not afraid of her daughter in hurt,she do not feel the pain.i kow how u feel at that time to prove yourself and she just ignore .some people are like that they always liketo they are right,maniputation.queen of everything.i suggest u go to library to study than at home.try to search for good friends to talk to u .try to be independant.not tell her so much.if u have elder siblings or father,talk to them.
Just walk away. Go to your room and listen to music or read or write . . . anything that makes you feel better. If she starts to scream at you just leave before it can really get started. Maybe go to a friends house or something.
I have the same prob. just not to that extent.
omg! you poor child.. That would be aweful. Me and my mom used to not get along that great either, and honestly i wish i could tell you it got better but it didnt until i got a job,car,and a boyfriend actually made it worse. And ill never forget the day i confessed i was having sex. But the point is you see things your way and she sees things another. And me being a mom now years later,(expecting baby #2 in aug) it kinda helps me realize why we were always arguing. She was just trying to either protect you or make you see something in a adult manner. But someday it will be better i promise, just hang in there.
Long Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?
So I'm having a little trouble and need some help. My girlfriend and I live 40 minutes away, our long distance relationship was going good and we've seen each other quite often. Here lately something has been eating at me. I've had a few girlfriends in my life around 7 but none of them have actually been serious relationships, but this one is and has been. We have been dating for a little while now and we just don't talk as much as we use to. Here recently she has gotton a job and has joined several programs in her school which cut more time. Right now we really aren't talking much because she's gotta pay her cell phone bill. We still talk on the house phone when we can. Yesterday we had a little argument and then someone got involved and just blew it way out of portion which made it worse. Well we made up and everything is good I suppose since she said she wasn't mad at me and to cheer up and it would be okay, but little things like all of that has just been eating at me and eating at me and I'm beginning to wonder if this could work? She is the first girl I've ever fallen in love with and I'm the first boy she has fallen in love with. We trust each other very much, but as I said thing has just been bothering me. This may be a little stupid, but as I said, can this work? Anyone have any advice?Long Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?
you should learn punctuation and what a paragraph is first.
then worry about your relationshipLong Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?
Girls are the devil.... The always say don't worry everything will be ok. From my experience the best thing you can do is trust that little voice inside your head and that little queasiness in your stomach... I would suggest you talk things out with her fully explain how you feel and what is eating you up inside that is the only way to know what is going on...
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Well long distance relationships never work.
I think you guys should take a break,
Because it's bothering you more and more and more,
which isn't good.
So you should wait until your older.
Because it doesn't look like you guys have time for each other at all.
i've always been told
Long distance relationships are for fools.
THat is what i'm told.
Ps. sry i didnt read da story i just read the first bold line and that was my advice.
long distance relationships will always bring hard ship and worry so maybe tell her you think it would be better to see other people but if it
is really serious then you may have to spend more time with each other
This is the first time I heard a 40-minute drive being referred to as a ';long distance relationship'; ;-)
it can totaly work
my best advice would be to take her out at least once a month... otherwise your not togeter enough... other than that, just have fun!
that's not a long distance relationship...
NO...your a teenager...have fun and dont get stuck with a long distance relationshio that wont work =D
idk , it a fifty fifty
mght work out or might not
Long distance things are difficult under any circumstances. For teens, they just never seem to survive. It's easy to be close to people who see everyday. But someone who's distant and disconnected from your school, your friends, you're hang-out-in-person-with social life is someone who's hard to stay close to.
It's different for people who've been married or together for years and years and have a strong foundation and relationship to fall back on.
Also, b/c you're both teenagers, you've got hormones raging. It's natural to want to give in to attraction and be open to new and exciting dating adventures. This puts a strain on most teenage relationships regardless of distance. High school sweethearts that get marry is normally a story for small town people who can stay together b/c there just aren't that many fish in the sea.
Now, I'm not saying you should give up or be discouraged. But realize that one of you is bound to get a crush on someone else, and the fact that your partner isn't around is going to make that tough. Then again as teenagers, there's a pretty good chance this relationship wouldn't last an incredibly long time anyway.
My advice: Just relax and enjoy what you have. If you're both really sharing these strong and powerful feelings for each other, then nothing' will tear you apart. Just remember, though, that you might not be as close as to each other as you both want to be.
ok. i thought i was starving for attention in relationships but man you just plain sound obsessive.
your calling it a problem solely cause you have less time together? um you think there is gonna be a relationship where you will be available for each other 24/7? someone will have to work.
if you trust each other there should be no worries. you still talk on the phone even if its just the house phone. your in a lot better situation the a lot of married couples even. just make sure you get the majority of each others free time. not all because u guys do need some space.
my advice? stop being obsessive, since you trust her you have nothing to worry about. i tell my girl as long as she is honest, faithful and gives me most of her free time there isnt an issue as long as she tells me where she is going in advance. because we all need breaks and time to spend with friends and such. relationship is built on the foundation of ';love, trust, and respect';
I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SITUATION. IT CAN WORK OUT IF YOU CHOSE TO. ITS OK TO LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLES OPNINONS BUT ITS HOW DEEP IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE WITH HER. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS LIKE. DO I STILL WANT TO DATE OTTHER PEOPLE. HOW MUCH DO I LOVE HER. HOW FAR ARE WE GOING. DOES SHE MAKE ME HAPPY. THINK OF AS MUCH QUESTIONS AND ANSWER THEN YOURSELF. 40 MILES IS NOT THAT FAR.. TRUST ME. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER MORE, SNEAK BY AND SEE HER. SUPRISE HER. AND REMEMBER YOU WILL NEVER FORGET YOUR FIRST LOVE.
Well I suggest that you stick with it until it doesn't work because there is no telling if things could all of the sudden get better or take a turn for the worst. If you got your self into this relationship then you just have to ride the roller coaster through the ups and downs. But in the end if it doesn't work out then hey at least your young and you will have learned a valuable lesson from it. Just feel it out and see if its worth your time.
It could work. But do you really want to put your self through something like this. I had a long distance relationship and it actually worked for 2 years. I am now in a relationship with someone I can see whenever i want and it's what i need in my life. I lived in New York while my now ex- boyfriend lived in south carolina....it just got too hard even though we were very much in love it was just too difficult to go without seeing eachother and feelings were eventually lost. I'm not saying that you can't make this work...it's just that relationships are meant to be spending time with eachother and having a physical connection, if you lack in physical contact then it is very difficult to continue a relationship. Just do what you feel is right, and ask yourself if its worth what youre feeling right now...
Good luck
That to me isnt a long distance relatioship.
im 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and we love each other loads. we live 50 mins away and i still get 2 c her at least 3 times a week.
u need a break. dnt tell her just driftoff a bit but not totally. after that she will realise how much u mean 2 her and there wont b amny arguments after that
it can only work if u believe it will.
Well
in my opinion
you DONT really love her as much as you think
or you DONT trust her
its on
or the other
because
if you really do care for her
little things wont bother you as long as you guys are still together
thats all you would really care about
so do yourself a favor
and tell her how you feel
because if it REALLY is love it shouldnt go down the drain for
little arguments
or assumptions
%26lt;33
dude its really up to you whether it works or not for like 6 months i dated my girl friend from another state it was frikin hard she became very frustrated and little things like you said would get blown out of proportion... in the end one of you ultimately will have to be the stronger one.. my gf tried to break up with me four times i was very depressed eventually i made the move and now i live closer to her and we're doing alot better. but i mean unless you see yourself goin super far with this girl you may want to let it go cause its alot addition time effort and emotion that your gonna put in this... but if you want to be with her and she wants it as well then of course you can do it 40 minutes is alot better than being a whole state away... but you have to make sure she wants the same thing most def. with long distance there's no time for bull. you have to ask her straight out how much do you want this? and she and you should know that its gonna be difficult and expect it....
Personally I went through the same thing and after 3 yrs. found out through his brother that he was cheating on me. He was always attentive to me and we always made time for each other, we would even talk on the phone all hours of the night, had GREAT communication and I could talk to him about EVERYTHING. We were planning on getting married and then one day, him and his brother had a BIG blow out and the brother confessed everything to me (in details). He said my boyfriends loves me so much and never got involved with any girl other than sex. (nice ha!!)
So although many long distance relationships do work out, you need to understand that you are not in her daily life and it is possible for her to meet someone that is able to be more actively involved. It also depends on age, if you're still in high school forget it, find a local girlfriend. If you see that she is trying, don't give up. Look for signals.
P.S. tell her to get METRO PCS (unlimited minutes) cheap monthly payments or switch to the same cell phone company for free minutes mobile to mobile.
you should learn punctuation and what a paragraph is first.
then worry about your relationshipLong Distance Relationship Advice? (teenager)?
Girls are the devil.... The always say don't worry everything will be ok. From my experience the best thing you can do is trust that little voice inside your head and that little queasiness in your stomach... I would suggest you talk things out with her fully explain how you feel and what is eating you up inside that is the only way to know what is going on...
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Well long distance relationships never work.
I think you guys should take a break,
Because it's bothering you more and more and more,
which isn't good.
So you should wait until your older.
Because it doesn't look like you guys have time for each other at all.
i've always been told
Long distance relationships are for fools.
THat is what i'm told.
Ps. sry i didnt read da story i just read the first bold line and that was my advice.
long distance relationships will always bring hard ship and worry so maybe tell her you think it would be better to see other people but if it
is really serious then you may have to spend more time with each other
This is the first time I heard a 40-minute drive being referred to as a ';long distance relationship'; ;-)
it can totaly work
my best advice would be to take her out at least once a month... otherwise your not togeter enough... other than that, just have fun!
that's not a long distance relationship...
NO...your a teenager...have fun and dont get stuck with a long distance relationshio that wont work =D
idk , it a fifty fifty
mght work out or might not
Long distance things are difficult under any circumstances. For teens, they just never seem to survive. It's easy to be close to people who see everyday. But someone who's distant and disconnected from your school, your friends, you're hang-out-in-person-with social life is someone who's hard to stay close to.
It's different for people who've been married or together for years and years and have a strong foundation and relationship to fall back on.
Also, b/c you're both teenagers, you've got hormones raging. It's natural to want to give in to attraction and be open to new and exciting dating adventures. This puts a strain on most teenage relationships regardless of distance. High school sweethearts that get marry is normally a story for small town people who can stay together b/c there just aren't that many fish in the sea.
Now, I'm not saying you should give up or be discouraged. But realize that one of you is bound to get a crush on someone else, and the fact that your partner isn't around is going to make that tough. Then again as teenagers, there's a pretty good chance this relationship wouldn't last an incredibly long time anyway.
My advice: Just relax and enjoy what you have. If you're both really sharing these strong and powerful feelings for each other, then nothing' will tear you apart. Just remember, though, that you might not be as close as to each other as you both want to be.
ok. i thought i was starving for attention in relationships but man you just plain sound obsessive.
your calling it a problem solely cause you have less time together? um you think there is gonna be a relationship where you will be available for each other 24/7? someone will have to work.
if you trust each other there should be no worries. you still talk on the phone even if its just the house phone. your in a lot better situation the a lot of married couples even. just make sure you get the majority of each others free time. not all because u guys do need some space.
my advice? stop being obsessive, since you trust her you have nothing to worry about. i tell my girl as long as she is honest, faithful and gives me most of her free time there isnt an issue as long as she tells me where she is going in advance. because we all need breaks and time to spend with friends and such. relationship is built on the foundation of ';love, trust, and respect';
I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SITUATION. IT CAN WORK OUT IF YOU CHOSE TO. ITS OK TO LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLES OPNINONS BUT ITS HOW DEEP IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE WITH HER. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS LIKE. DO I STILL WANT TO DATE OTTHER PEOPLE. HOW MUCH DO I LOVE HER. HOW FAR ARE WE GOING. DOES SHE MAKE ME HAPPY. THINK OF AS MUCH QUESTIONS AND ANSWER THEN YOURSELF. 40 MILES IS NOT THAT FAR.. TRUST ME. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER MORE, SNEAK BY AND SEE HER. SUPRISE HER. AND REMEMBER YOU WILL NEVER FORGET YOUR FIRST LOVE.
Well I suggest that you stick with it until it doesn't work because there is no telling if things could all of the sudden get better or take a turn for the worst. If you got your self into this relationship then you just have to ride the roller coaster through the ups and downs. But in the end if it doesn't work out then hey at least your young and you will have learned a valuable lesson from it. Just feel it out and see if its worth your time.
It could work. But do you really want to put your self through something like this. I had a long distance relationship and it actually worked for 2 years. I am now in a relationship with someone I can see whenever i want and it's what i need in my life. I lived in New York while my now ex- boyfriend lived in south carolina....it just got too hard even though we were very much in love it was just too difficult to go without seeing eachother and feelings were eventually lost. I'm not saying that you can't make this work...it's just that relationships are meant to be spending time with eachother and having a physical connection, if you lack in physical contact then it is very difficult to continue a relationship. Just do what you feel is right, and ask yourself if its worth what youre feeling right now...
Good luck
That to me isnt a long distance relatioship.
im 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and we love each other loads. we live 50 mins away and i still get 2 c her at least 3 times a week.
u need a break. dnt tell her just driftoff a bit but not totally. after that she will realise how much u mean 2 her and there wont b amny arguments after that
it can only work if u believe it will.
Well
in my opinion
you DONT really love her as much as you think
or you DONT trust her
its on
or the other
because
if you really do care for her
little things wont bother you as long as you guys are still together
thats all you would really care about
so do yourself a favor
and tell her how you feel
because if it REALLY is love it shouldnt go down the drain for
little arguments
or assumptions
%26lt;33
dude its really up to you whether it works or not for like 6 months i dated my girl friend from another state it was frikin hard she became very frustrated and little things like you said would get blown out of proportion... in the end one of you ultimately will have to be the stronger one.. my gf tried to break up with me four times i was very depressed eventually i made the move and now i live closer to her and we're doing alot better. but i mean unless you see yourself goin super far with this girl you may want to let it go cause its alot addition time effort and emotion that your gonna put in this... but if you want to be with her and she wants it as well then of course you can do it 40 minutes is alot better than being a whole state away... but you have to make sure she wants the same thing most def. with long distance there's no time for bull. you have to ask her straight out how much do you want this? and she and you should know that its gonna be difficult and expect it....
Personally I went through the same thing and after 3 yrs. found out through his brother that he was cheating on me. He was always attentive to me and we always made time for each other, we would even talk on the phone all hours of the night, had GREAT communication and I could talk to him about EVERYTHING. We were planning on getting married and then one day, him and his brother had a BIG blow out and the brother confessed everything to me (in details). He said my boyfriends loves me so much and never got involved with any girl other than sex. (nice ha!!)
So although many long distance relationships do work out, you need to understand that you are not in her daily life and it is possible for her to meet someone that is able to be more actively involved. It also depends on age, if you're still in high school forget it, find a local girlfriend. If you see that she is trying, don't give up. Look for signals.
P.S. tell her to get METRO PCS (unlimited minutes) cheap monthly payments or switch to the same cell phone company for free minutes mobile to mobile.
Speed training advice wanted for footballing teenager?
my son has just recently gone back to playing football after a 2yr break,is there any type of training he can do at home to increase his speed as he as lost a lot of it due to his time off,the training he is getting with his team do not work on speed as most of them are older guys who play just for fun mainly,sensible answers please.Speed training advice wanted for footballing teenager?
Two ideal activities for speed... Running with a tire dragging behind busrting into sprinting, if you don't have the space or a suitable item to drag.... hill running, same idea, run down the hill turn around and power sprint up it as hard and fast as possible. Do this 4-5 nights a week you'll be faster than lightning (assuming a good overall fitness). Hope this helps.Speed training advice wanted for footballing teenager?
Just run. You could also use a treadmill or excercize bike.
shuttle runs are the best
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say the spots are cones you run to the first one and back then the second one and back and so on until you do them all and are back to where you started time it and try to beat it the next to time you do it, it helped me alot.
Two ideal activities for speed... Running with a tire dragging behind busrting into sprinting, if you don't have the space or a suitable item to drag.... hill running, same idea, run down the hill turn around and power sprint up it as hard and fast as possible. Do this 4-5 nights a week you'll be faster than lightning (assuming a good overall fitness). Hope this helps.Speed training advice wanted for footballing teenager?
Just run. You could also use a treadmill or excercize bike.
shuttle runs are the best
. . . . .
say the spots are cones you run to the first one and back then the second one and back and so on until you do them all and are back to where you started time it and try to beat it the next to time you do it, it helped me alot.
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