Teenager question advice?

If your teenager age 14/15 gets invited to go to someones house (a newer friend), would you make a call to the mother or ask for the mother to contact you to speak with her or do you just allow the teen to go without any conversation with the other child's parent?





My twins are turning 15 in a couple weeks and recently a kid that they have never really hung around with has been asking them to meet him and some other kids to play with their airsoft guns. Last weekend they invited my twins to meet them at this place at a certain time and so I brought my boys there and no one was there. They called later and said they were there but they got there really late. Then yesterday the kid asked my boys to go to his house to do airsoft this evening. I feel like I want to speak to the mom first and make sure this is the plan and she is okay with it before I just bring my boys there especially since they will be using airsoft guns and I want to make sure they are okay with this. Is this normal or am I being an overbearing mother? I totally trust my boys but I don't know this other boy very well. I know the mother a little as the younger sister is in my younger sons class.





So when your teen is invited somewhere, do you call to check in with the parent about it first especially when your child has never been to their home before? I told my son I wanted to speak to the boys mother before I brought them over and he says he's fine with that but I don't want to embarrass them either.Teenager question advice?
I am a checker and a caller.


Some consider it overbearing. My children consider it normal, because that's all that they have ever known. In fact, my oldest encountered parents who didn't call and check in her social circle, and found it rather odd when parents didn't.Teenager question advice?
For us this was the point that we stopped a lot of that. Since we were dropping off or picking up, we made it a point to say hi to them and have a little conversation at the time.
I'm a checker too and I don't allow my son over to anyone's house if the parent's aren't home. I would also call if I felt like the activity was at all controversial.
My brother is 14 years old and my mum always ring the parents first, but she doesn't trust my brother...
i feel tht u shud talk the real thing out wid d mum of the othr child... its nt harmful, rather, it can b beneficial in case ur twins are being misled!


take care!
Whether it embarasses them or not, talk to the other parents. The biggest problem is not knowing what's going on, who's around, etc. That's when teens get into the most trouble. Don't let yours be the kids that are on the news and in jail for doing stupid stuff because you did nothing to prevent it. Stay involved. Know what they're doing. Good luck. I'm scared of that age. I remember how my brothers and I were though and don't want to end up in the position my mom was put in when we were out doing stupid stuff.
As I'm not a mother of teenagers, I was once a teenager myself. I think it's perfectly reasonable to want to contact their mother. My mother always had to know the parents of my friends when I went to stay with them. It may be embarrassing, but now that I'm older I'm very thankful that my mother cared enough about what I was doing due to the fact that it made me aware that there are people and places that I shouldn't associate with. Plus, it helped make me the person I am today.





PS You should definatley contact the mother if your children have special needs, or medical conditions, etc.


Also to get contact information.
Personally,speaking from a mothers stand point.I don't feel that this over bearing at all.If it were me instead of making a phone call,I would want to meet the mother in person instead of making a phone call.There is nothing wrong in taking precautions and checking out the people and there environment,I have a son too but now he's 21,when ever he would get calls to hang out with someone that I didn't have any knowledge of,I would go over and meet the parents before I made the decision that it was all right to let him go.It's just being a good mother and looking out for their safety and well being.Just my thoughts!
Over where I live, parents dont call and talk to other parents.


And unless its a sleepover or something, parents dont usually ask alot of details.


It's usually something like, ';Im going to hang out with some friends';


';Where are you going?';


';Idk probably Daves house..';


';Okay well be back by curfew';





I have no idea how i'll be as a parent of a teen though.





Oh I agree. Im surprised no one gave me a thumbsdown i was actually wondering if they would.


I know it;s a mistake alot of parents make. But like i said im still not sure how I will parent a teen.
Ring ring ring !


i wouldnt let my kids go anywhere without making sure everything is organised, i know that when i went to my friends when i was younger we used to say all sorts to get out, even sometimes swop by saying we were at each others. i know you wouldnt want to embarrass them but maybe do it on the low by just asking what time to pick them up. then have a little chat at the same time :) nothing wrong with that, maybe for next time invite them to stay yours for the day xx all the best
I would call and speak to the mother especially since airsofts are going to be used and the fact that last time you took them no one was around and your boys had been INVITED, the other boys should have at least called your sons to tell them they were running late and to come a little later (I'm sure those boys have cell phones and could have given a courtesy call), other than those reasons I probably wouldn't call the mom since your boys seem to have good heads on their shoulders and are wise in their decision making, they are almost 15 and should have some leeway in choosing their friends, if they are like my son (he's 15 1/2) they are careful about who their friends are and the company they keep, so I wouldn't worry overly much...but this time, for the reasons I stated I would make the call and find out a few details before sending them over.