Teenager Danger!!! Need advice w/ my child?

I am living w/ my boyfirend of 7 yrs. I have an 18 yr old son who has a recent history of partying, possibly drugging, is homeless, a drop out, and unemployed. Son asked if he could come back home, but he's come and left (of his own accord w/o my blessing) 3x. He's wrecked his car, blown through all his money($7000 in '08) and constantly breaks the rules of the house (having people over while he's supposed to be in school, sneaking out, not coming home at night, not answering when I call on the cell I pay for....). Boyfriend doesn't want him to come back but offered to help me ';put him up'; for a few months.


Should l leave my boyfriend and move my son in w/ me or should I let him ';take his knocks and grow up';?Teenager Danger!!! Need advice w/ my child?
There are a few option here:


Option One: Keep going like you have been and letting him take advantage of you with no repercussions whatsoever.





Option Two: Change the locks and tell him you aren't supporting his irresponsibility anymore and he can figure out what to do himself.





Option Three: Sit him down and lay out a rental agreement in front of him. Tell him it's school or paying rent or the door. If he chooses school he needs to keep good grades, help out around the house and adhere to the rules of the rental agreement (no parties, no loud music after 10pm, if he breaks it-he pays for it). If he chooses rent, he has to find a job, keep it, help out around the house, adhere to your rules, pay for his own groceries and cell phone, etc. Have him pay rent on the first of each month, if he's late he's assessed fees.





Whatever you do, you really shouldn't keep supporting his bad choices, he needs to learn that the real world requires responsibility and actually working. ';Putting him up'; isn't letting him ';take his knocks and grow up'; as you put it; just that he can keep taking advantage of you.Teenager Danger!!! Need advice w/ my child?
i feel sorry for you....parents love their kids so much...they are not able to see when they turn into a irresponsible brat.





let him take his knocks and grow up....you have been duped 3 times, dont make it a 4th....and believe me - nothing has changed.





nothing changes - parents who are soft are constantly abused by kids.


i am also one.
I say your son is 18 and needs help.Hell no I wouldnt leave my man for a child that obviously does not care about his life.I say get a strong backbone and show him some tough love.He is 18 and old enough to take care of himself..MAMA GOT TO HAVE A LIFE TOO..Good luck and god bless
Let him face the real world we all gotta grow up sometime don't let him keep thinking he can go running back to you everytime he needs help!