All you can do is give them paracetamol and lots of rest.Mumps? Any advice on caring for a teenager with mumps. Thanks.?
My advice, stay away from me. lol. no im sorry sorry. ummm go to the doctor. I think it makes the sides of your neck swell right? I've heard eat soup, liquidy soup. check online for medical advice also. In the usa we get a shot for this as kids.Mumps? Any advice on caring for a teenager with mumps. Thanks.?
Lock the teenager away in a room with a potty and some weed. Then drink plenty of tequila and stay away.
Yeah, watch those testicles for swelling. Don't why mumps likes to move downstairs on the men.
If a male, make sure he stays in bed most of the time. Getting up and rushing about could result in infertility.
It's a viral infection. Tylenol, fluids, rest.
Lots of fluids and paracetamol every few hours...and of course some rest.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Im an 17 year old teenager that needs some advice on a Girl...that i got a Big Crush?
well to start of there is this girl i really like she is gorgeous but because of that i just get really nervous when im around her, thats what kinda scares me because im being temid around her, i feel like im pushing her away. She is so gorgeous that i would think she has alot of guys behind her. What troubles me is that i want to text her and call her, but i dont want to get annoying to her. But i also know that other guys are making a move on her and that stresses me out too, i dont know if i have anything to offer her. I Bet she hangs out with alot of other guys that she has more fun then with me. It really bothers me and i would feel so bad if another guy gets her. Because i know that i have a chance, because she said to her friend that im good looking. But its that im such a fool and boring guy when im around her!! anyone please help my description is im pretty tall 6'3'' i play baseball etc.
And heres a picture of me, for those that might be curious its not so great but its the most recent one.. http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c55/Robert2xx0/l_7dae5fab85da911d242e6892bfbb2a74.jpgIm an 17 year old teenager that needs some advice on a Girl...that i got a Big Crush?
Alright, first off get over her being gorgeous. Think of someone else that's even more gorgeous like an actress or something when you're around her and see if that makes you a little less nervous.
Look, if you're hanging around her then you have a chance just don't let it pass you by. Call her, don't txt because that's too informal and all around lame. When you do call see if she wants to meet up somewhere like a baskin robbins or a starbuck's or something and make sure you open the door for and buy her stuff. Little things are what the chicks dig.Im an 17 year old teenager that needs some advice on a Girl...that i got a Big Crush?
You seem like a nice guy just approach her and be a gentleman and ask if she would like to go on a date be yourself u got nothing to loose.
I think ur a cutie and obviously a sweetheart. Put the timid'ness behind ya and go get her! You have nothin to loose. Don't be so down on yourself. Your well deserving of any girl!
well im not going to read all that but ask her if you wanna hang out sometime, or go to a movie or something. bowling is fun too. lol
dude it is not imp wat other guys do wit her. just go 2 her n tel 3 simple words'I LUV U'
And heres a picture of me, for those that might be curious its not so great but its the most recent one.. http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c55/Robert2xx0/l_7dae5fab85da911d242e6892bfbb2a74.jpgIm an 17 year old teenager that needs some advice on a Girl...that i got a Big Crush?
Alright, first off get over her being gorgeous. Think of someone else that's even more gorgeous like an actress or something when you're around her and see if that makes you a little less nervous.
Look, if you're hanging around her then you have a chance just don't let it pass you by. Call her, don't txt because that's too informal and all around lame. When you do call see if she wants to meet up somewhere like a baskin robbins or a starbuck's or something and make sure you open the door for and buy her stuff. Little things are what the chicks dig.Im an 17 year old teenager that needs some advice on a Girl...that i got a Big Crush?
You seem like a nice guy just approach her and be a gentleman and ask if she would like to go on a date be yourself u got nothing to loose.
I think ur a cutie and obviously a sweetheart. Put the timid'ness behind ya and go get her! You have nothin to loose. Don't be so down on yourself. Your well deserving of any girl!
well im not going to read all that but ask her if you wanna hang out sometime, or go to a movie or something. bowling is fun too. lol
dude it is not imp wat other guys do wit her. just go 2 her n tel 3 simple words'I LUV U'
Ok Hijab question (A teenager in need, of advice)?
Ok i real;ly enjoy answering people questions about my religion and why i wear the hijab but what really gets me is when people ask me did your parents make you if you took it off would your mom be mad at you and the ones i hate the most are do you take a shower with your scarf on and and ARE YOU BALD
why wouold people ask these questions i understand there just asking but i mean ok its like im not ever allowed to take it off what should i do in tese situations i answer them no and stuff and i dont like ignoring people soo what should i doOk Hijab question (A teenager in need, of advice)?
Once you wear a hijab these questions would be asked. You need to smile and answer politely as best as you can and don't get upset as many of the questions (which sound as if people are attacking you or picking at you) might just be on account of their ignorance or concern (in a small number of cases) Mostly I think it is ignorance.
Arm yourself with plausible answers and answer these questions very politely with a smile. It works to your advantage. Don't ever get upset over it then they will find reason to tease you and belittle you in the future.Ok Hijab question (A teenager in need, of advice)?
It is weird to people when they see you with it. To most Westerners it seems as something that is somewhat backwards.
Covering your hair and excessively covering every part of your body is viewed as strange and even repressive.
Western culture is much more sexual and religion is not nearly as important. Covering your hair to show modesty is interpreted as a weird way to show modesty and an archaic method that is outdated.
That is why they ask you those weird questions.
I know it must be hard for you sis, but stay strong and patient
I would answer as you have been - politely
i know it's tempting to respond with a silly answer, to ignore them or be hostile..but Alhamdulillah you haven't been and if you want to dispel the lies about Islam and Muslims, i think we Muslims have to show good character and kindness to reflect our wonderful religion.. so Insha'Allah, just keep patient and keep explaining politely
the people that ask are just ignorant
think of it as your job to educate them =)
if their question seems to be of genuine curiosity. then go ahead and respond. but if they're just throwing the question out to be insulting. then simply ignore them. cuz you'll only get another insulting question.
Don't Feed The Trolls
dont answer the questions which insult the hijab, but if they ask u why u wear it then answer a proper answer which if u want find then ask another question here
If people ask a stupid question I say give em a stupid answer to show them how silly they are.
Q: Are you bald under there?
A: Why yes I am! I shine my head with coconut oil everyday before I put on my hijab!
well some people are brainless
yea people ask me a bunch of questions.
why do you wear it?
If you took it off what would your parents do?
do you sleep with it?
do you have to wear it next to your family?
aren't you hot wearing it?
are you bald?
are you going to take it off on prom?
etc....
well the only thing you can do is answer the question in a politely way. but if they just keep asking you and just trying to mess with you then you can tell them to SHUT UP! and if they want to learn more things on why we Muslim girls wear hijab they can go to the internet and research about it.
why wouold people ask these questions i understand there just asking but i mean ok its like im not ever allowed to take it off what should i do in tese situations i answer them no and stuff and i dont like ignoring people soo what should i doOk Hijab question (A teenager in need, of advice)?
Once you wear a hijab these questions would be asked. You need to smile and answer politely as best as you can and don't get upset as many of the questions (which sound as if people are attacking you or picking at you) might just be on account of their ignorance or concern (in a small number of cases) Mostly I think it is ignorance.
Arm yourself with plausible answers and answer these questions very politely with a smile. It works to your advantage. Don't ever get upset over it then they will find reason to tease you and belittle you in the future.Ok Hijab question (A teenager in need, of advice)?
It is weird to people when they see you with it. To most Westerners it seems as something that is somewhat backwards.
Covering your hair and excessively covering every part of your body is viewed as strange and even repressive.
Western culture is much more sexual and religion is not nearly as important. Covering your hair to show modesty is interpreted as a weird way to show modesty and an archaic method that is outdated.
That is why they ask you those weird questions.
I know it must be hard for you sis, but stay strong and patient
I would answer as you have been - politely
i know it's tempting to respond with a silly answer, to ignore them or be hostile..but Alhamdulillah you haven't been and if you want to dispel the lies about Islam and Muslims, i think we Muslims have to show good character and kindness to reflect our wonderful religion.. so Insha'Allah, just keep patient and keep explaining politely
the people that ask are just ignorant
think of it as your job to educate them =)
if their question seems to be of genuine curiosity. then go ahead and respond. but if they're just throwing the question out to be insulting. then simply ignore them. cuz you'll only get another insulting question.
Don't Feed The Trolls
dont answer the questions which insult the hijab, but if they ask u why u wear it then answer a proper answer which if u want find then ask another question here
If people ask a stupid question I say give em a stupid answer to show them how silly they are.
Q: Are you bald under there?
A: Why yes I am! I shine my head with coconut oil everyday before I put on my hijab!
well some people are brainless
yea people ask me a bunch of questions.
why do you wear it?
If you took it off what would your parents do?
do you sleep with it?
do you have to wear it next to your family?
aren't you hot wearing it?
are you bald?
are you going to take it off on prom?
etc....
well the only thing you can do is answer the question in a politely way. but if they just keep asking you and just trying to mess with you then you can tell them to SHUT UP! and if they want to learn more things on why we Muslim girls wear hijab they can go to the internet and research about it.
I Am An Overweight Teenager In Search of Advice?
I am 17 years old, 5'8', and weigh 210 lbs. I have this weird phobia about working out in front of people or going out into public places in general. And I am also selfconsious about being in my house with a gorgeous mother and her mini twin, my little sister. I also have been getting bullied for my size ever since I was 4 years old and I am getting really sick of it. I know dieting and working out are the best things, it's just I once I get into it, I break the curve of it about a week or two into it. I have tried the Atkins diet for two months and I lost 20 lbs. but I just ended up gaining back the weight I lost. My house isn't to diet friendly either. My little sister is literally the size of a stick and eats really fattening foods, which my mother, who looks like a Victoria Secrets model, does nothing about changing her ways and buys her whatever she would like. Any way, I would really appreciate all the help I could get. ^_^I Am An Overweight Teenager In Search of Advice?
First check out what diet helps lose weight based on your blood group and what diet is really good for your health .
Use Olive oil for cooking that would reduce cholestrol .
+ ----- HIGHLY BENEFICIAL, FOOD ACTS LIKE MEDICINE
O ----- NEUTRAL FOOD
X ----- AVOID, FOOD ACTS LIKE A POISON
-O is for Old.- Type O.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_o_die鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN'; Sweetcorn
Kidney beans
Cabbage
Brussel sprout
Cauliflower
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Sea food
Iodized salt
Liver
Red meat
Spinach
Broccoli
-A is for Agrarian.-__ Type A.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_a_die鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN'; Meat
Dairy foods
Kidney beans
Lima beans
Wheat
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Vegetable oils
Soya foods
Vegetables
Pineapple
-B is for Balance.-__ Type B.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_b_die鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN'; Lentils
Sweetcorn
Peanuts
Sesame seeds
Buckwheat
Wheat
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Green vege
Meat
Lamb Liver
Eggs
__ Type AB.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_diet_鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN';
Red meat
Kidney beans
Seeds
Sweetcorn
Buckwheat
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Tofu
Seafood
Green vege
Dairy products
Alkaline fruits
Pineapples
I Am An Overweight Teenager In Search of Advice?
One of the biggest mistakes that dieters make is keeping ';danger foods'; in their house. By not having easy access to junk food, it's harder to get a hold of it and binge on it after dieters deprive themselves for a while. This being said, it's imperative that you talk to your mother about this. Discuss your efforts to lose weight and feel healthy and more confident. If you talk to her in a rational and calm manner, she should listen and cut out the junk from the house. Plus your twiggy sis is probably enjoying her high child metabolism, so warn her about getting her used to all the fattening food. When she gets older, her bad eating habits will take a toll on her.
After you get this situation straightened out, go shopping with your mom for healthy food. Stock up on whole wheat bread, wholesome snacks, veggies, fruits, and lean cuts of meat. I know salads sound incredibly diet cliche, but it's true, salads are one of the keys to weight loss. Trust me, I've found that salads are not only an easy way to get your servings of veggies, but their quite filling if you make them right. Add grilled chicken and beans to it, and top it with a spray dressing (oily ones have far more calories and I've found that the spray ones taste better too).
Don't skip breakfast! Or any meals for that matter. Eating consistently will boost your metabolism and keep you from overeating the rest of the day. For breakfast I love having whole wheat cereal with fruit or a piece of whole grain toast topped with low fat cottage cheese and blueberries. Here's another tip: if you like cereal, learn to like soy milk or almond milk! Both of these options carry less fat, sugar, and calories than cow's milk. And they usually have just as much nutrients like calcium as regular milk. Plus non dairy milk is yummy.
If you get hungry between meals, have a light snack. I like fruit because the natural sugars keep my energy level up and they usually have a low glycemic load, so you won't have to worry about burning out or worsening cravings. Light yogurts and low-fat string cheese are other good options. An apple spread with a wedge of Laughing Cow Light Cheese is great.
And plus don't turn to a fad diet. They usually end up backfiring, and most people end up gaining back the weight, and more weight than before. You can't follow a fad diet forever, so when you're working toward your weight goal, think ';I want to change my eating habits for good, not diet.'; The key is balance and depriving yourself too much only worsens cravings for that food group or item. When you lose the weight or on the right track, and you come across a big craving, just satisfy it. If you eat healthily 90% of the time, a cookie won't put on the weight back, don't worry :)
Other tips:
If you hit a sugar craving, try chomping on a piece of sugarless gum.
I like drinking a cup of green tea after lunch. It gives me a good, but not too heavy burst of caffeine for energy. Also, it's packed with antioxidants and many studies suggest that it has fat burning and metabolism boosting properties.
Keep a food journal. Write down what you eat and what time you ate it at. You might also want to write down your feeling and emotions when you start losing motivation.
Take a multivitamin everyday!
I know exactly where your coming from! I too was always overweight when I was growing up..I never got attention from anyone it was always my sister whose a year younger then me..she's pretty thin and shows it off she loves attention and she always gets it..(people say she can be a model) but anyways I was in high school about 11th grade when one day I just decided to change! I was tired of being the fat girl or whatever else people said! To be honest one reason for my change was a boy I had known since middle school that I was in love with said he worked out etc..so I started working out in my room I would literally lock the door and tell no one to bother me til I came out..I started doing squats, crunches and using dumbbells that I had had forever..I got exercising moves off the internet and from magazines..when I was working out id watch tv and the time would pass by so fast it distracted me...my sisters and I loved to walk around the block so I walked a lot then too. I think that's how I lost so much weight simply walking...I didn't weigh myself ever the whole time I was doing it..I didn't really think about anything as far as long term I was just living in the now moment..I had this ugly picture of me I taped to the wall and everytime I wanted to give up id just stare at it and talk to myself...I ate as I normally did I just cut back on how much and drank diet soda and water..eventually I did it in only a few months I went from a size 16 to a 7 and 5! Let me tell you shopping was fun again! I loved the new me I had more energy I started getting noticed more from guys and other people..my senior year everyone was saying my sister and I looked like twins! And I was wearing her clothes! BUT after graduation I got pregnant and gained 50lbs! Im back to where I was in the beginning I plan to lose 50lbs by next summer! I've been dieting and exercising for almost 5 weeks now..and I see and feel a difference..I can wear a medium in shirts instead of large and extra large my legs are thinning out and my hips aren't so big lol..my stomach there's not a whole lotta difference there but there is some...I still feel I wanna give up sometimes but I don't I keep telling myself im doing it for me and my daughter! And for motivation I put up in the basement my old clothes and my ';skinny'; photos..I wanna get that girl back and I will and im completely motivated and ready to do this...the trick is to eat less and burn more so just cut back on portion size and foods you know aren't healthy, drink lots of water I don't even drink diet soda I have tea occassionally...find some place where you have privacy and start off with small exercises and work your way up..or take a long walk you don't even have to run or power walk...walk around the path at the park or a few times around the block or your area..if your in your room jog in place..don't over do it you just have to be consistent in it do 20 min 1 week then 30 the next and keep going up and mix up your exercises honestly walking is my thing I do it for at least 30 min to an hour a day..just believe in yourself and have faith and don't think of it as a diet that always screws us up..just consciously watch what you eat..you can do it I've done it once and im doing it again..if you want don't tell anyone your working out..you'll have the pleasure of seeing the looks on their faces when you succeed! Besides people can get u down my cousin and I are like sisters she hasn't lost anything and she doesn't say anything when I tell her what I've accomplished and I try to motivate her saying she can do it too....losing weight is possible! Its not easy and it doesn't happen over night...but it can be achieved don't rush it give it time and eventually you'll see a new you in the mirror! If you want to talk or you have questions, anything email me.Good luck!
I can picture just what you're talking about. My best friend was in the same boat...surrounded by ';beautiful people'; while she fought the battle every day--sometimes successful and sometimes not.
My best suggestion is that you spend the next year eating healthy. There's no reason to do anything super drastic and complicated. The year is going to pass by regardless, right? The only difference is what you do with the year and how you look and feel once it's over. One reason that you're having such a tough time being consistently good is because diets are hard to stick to. So, forget diets for now, and just focus on eating healthy. This page can help:
http://www.easy-weightloss-tips.com/eat-鈥?/a>
Keep a food and exercise log. Research shows that people who keep these logs stay on their diets longer and lose twice as much weight as those who don't use them. It really helps you be aware of what you're eating. You can print them out for free on the page above.
So, do that at first. Make healthier choices. Make a new change each week (but keep the ones from the week before). For example, week one give up fast food. Week 2, give up fast food and snacking after dinner. Week 3, do those two things plus drink lots of water. Week 4, give up fried foods. Week 5, add 30 minutes of walking each day. Week 6, start eating half-portions. You get the idea...
Never weigh more than once a week. Weigh the same day each week at the same approx. time, wearing the same thing. Ideally, it would be first thing in the morning before getting dressed--no more than once a week. Your body has too many natural fluctuations to weigh every day--it will get too frustrating.
If you need some motivational inspiration, the same site has about 4-5 pages of motivational ideas. Basically, you need to wake up each day and remind yourself why you want this so badly. It needs to be always in the forefront of your mind so that you don't rationalize being bad on a whim. I lost 85 pounds five years ago on Weight Watchers and I can tell you that during that year that it took to get the weight off, I had to give myself pep talks constantly. You have to always think before you eat! You have to actually give yourself the time to rationalize the right decision instead of taking the easy way out...
When you're ready, the biggest component to fast weight loss is going to be your workout. You will want to make sure you do a good 30 minute cardio workout every day for weight loss (3 times a week is sufficient to maintain health). Activities that use the large leg muscles burn the most calories. These activities also tone the lower body quite effectively. Think in terms of power walking, jogging, biking, skating, swimming laps, jumping rope, dancing, racquetball, and jumping jacks. To make sure that you're burning fat, you need to be sweating and huffing and puffing. In addition, do some good stretches and some strength training. This page has some great target exercises that you can do at home, without special equipment:
http://www.easy-weightloss-tips.com/targ鈥?/a>
Since you won't be on a ';formal'; diet, you won't feel deprived and be tempted to go off the diet! If you slip and eat something ';bad'; then just get right back on the healthy eating wagon the next meal. Make more and more changes as you feel stronger and more in control. Those changes will add up to big drops on the scale! Good luck!
First check out what diet helps lose weight based on your blood group and what diet is really good for your health .
Use Olive oil for cooking that would reduce cholestrol .
+ ----- HIGHLY BENEFICIAL, FOOD ACTS LIKE MEDICINE
O ----- NEUTRAL FOOD
X ----- AVOID, FOOD ACTS LIKE A POISON
-O is for Old.- Type O.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_o_die鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN'; Sweetcorn
Kidney beans
Cabbage
Brussel sprout
Cauliflower
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Sea food
Iodized salt
Liver
Red meat
Spinach
Broccoli
-A is for Agrarian.-__ Type A.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_a_die鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN'; Meat
Dairy foods
Kidney beans
Lima beans
Wheat
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Vegetable oils
Soya foods
Vegetables
Pineapple
-B is for Balance.-__ Type B.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_b_die鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN'; Lentils
Sweetcorn
Peanuts
Sesame seeds
Buckwheat
Wheat
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Green vege
Meat
Lamb Liver
Eggs
__ Type AB.
http://diskovery.co.in/blood_group_diet_鈥?/a>
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT GAIN';
Red meat
Kidney beans
Seeds
Sweetcorn
Buckwheat
';FOODS ENCOURAGE WEIGHT LOSS'; Liv 52
Tofu
Seafood
Green vege
Dairy products
Alkaline fruits
Pineapples
I Am An Overweight Teenager In Search of Advice?
One of the biggest mistakes that dieters make is keeping ';danger foods'; in their house. By not having easy access to junk food, it's harder to get a hold of it and binge on it after dieters deprive themselves for a while. This being said, it's imperative that you talk to your mother about this. Discuss your efforts to lose weight and feel healthy and more confident. If you talk to her in a rational and calm manner, she should listen and cut out the junk from the house. Plus your twiggy sis is probably enjoying her high child metabolism, so warn her about getting her used to all the fattening food. When she gets older, her bad eating habits will take a toll on her.
After you get this situation straightened out, go shopping with your mom for healthy food. Stock up on whole wheat bread, wholesome snacks, veggies, fruits, and lean cuts of meat. I know salads sound incredibly diet cliche, but it's true, salads are one of the keys to weight loss. Trust me, I've found that salads are not only an easy way to get your servings of veggies, but their quite filling if you make them right. Add grilled chicken and beans to it, and top it with a spray dressing (oily ones have far more calories and I've found that the spray ones taste better too).
Don't skip breakfast! Or any meals for that matter. Eating consistently will boost your metabolism and keep you from overeating the rest of the day. For breakfast I love having whole wheat cereal with fruit or a piece of whole grain toast topped with low fat cottage cheese and blueberries. Here's another tip: if you like cereal, learn to like soy milk or almond milk! Both of these options carry less fat, sugar, and calories than cow's milk. And they usually have just as much nutrients like calcium as regular milk. Plus non dairy milk is yummy.
If you get hungry between meals, have a light snack. I like fruit because the natural sugars keep my energy level up and they usually have a low glycemic load, so you won't have to worry about burning out or worsening cravings. Light yogurts and low-fat string cheese are other good options. An apple spread with a wedge of Laughing Cow Light Cheese is great.
And plus don't turn to a fad diet. They usually end up backfiring, and most people end up gaining back the weight, and more weight than before. You can't follow a fad diet forever, so when you're working toward your weight goal, think ';I want to change my eating habits for good, not diet.'; The key is balance and depriving yourself too much only worsens cravings for that food group or item. When you lose the weight or on the right track, and you come across a big craving, just satisfy it. If you eat healthily 90% of the time, a cookie won't put on the weight back, don't worry :)
Other tips:
If you hit a sugar craving, try chomping on a piece of sugarless gum.
I like drinking a cup of green tea after lunch. It gives me a good, but not too heavy burst of caffeine for energy. Also, it's packed with antioxidants and many studies suggest that it has fat burning and metabolism boosting properties.
Keep a food journal. Write down what you eat and what time you ate it at. You might also want to write down your feeling and emotions when you start losing motivation.
Take a multivitamin everyday!
I know exactly where your coming from! I too was always overweight when I was growing up..I never got attention from anyone it was always my sister whose a year younger then me..she's pretty thin and shows it off she loves attention and she always gets it..(people say she can be a model) but anyways I was in high school about 11th grade when one day I just decided to change! I was tired of being the fat girl or whatever else people said! To be honest one reason for my change was a boy I had known since middle school that I was in love with said he worked out etc..so I started working out in my room I would literally lock the door and tell no one to bother me til I came out..I started doing squats, crunches and using dumbbells that I had had forever..I got exercising moves off the internet and from magazines..when I was working out id watch tv and the time would pass by so fast it distracted me...my sisters and I loved to walk around the block so I walked a lot then too. I think that's how I lost so much weight simply walking...I didn't weigh myself ever the whole time I was doing it..I didn't really think about anything as far as long term I was just living in the now moment..I had this ugly picture of me I taped to the wall and everytime I wanted to give up id just stare at it and talk to myself...I ate as I normally did I just cut back on how much and drank diet soda and water..eventually I did it in only a few months I went from a size 16 to a 7 and 5! Let me tell you shopping was fun again! I loved the new me I had more energy I started getting noticed more from guys and other people..my senior year everyone was saying my sister and I looked like twins! And I was wearing her clothes! BUT after graduation I got pregnant and gained 50lbs! Im back to where I was in the beginning I plan to lose 50lbs by next summer! I've been dieting and exercising for almost 5 weeks now..and I see and feel a difference..I can wear a medium in shirts instead of large and extra large my legs are thinning out and my hips aren't so big lol..my stomach there's not a whole lotta difference there but there is some...I still feel I wanna give up sometimes but I don't I keep telling myself im doing it for me and my daughter! And for motivation I put up in the basement my old clothes and my ';skinny'; photos..I wanna get that girl back and I will and im completely motivated and ready to do this...the trick is to eat less and burn more so just cut back on portion size and foods you know aren't healthy, drink lots of water I don't even drink diet soda I have tea occassionally...find some place where you have privacy and start off with small exercises and work your way up..or take a long walk you don't even have to run or power walk...walk around the path at the park or a few times around the block or your area..if your in your room jog in place..don't over do it you just have to be consistent in it do 20 min 1 week then 30 the next and keep going up and mix up your exercises honestly walking is my thing I do it for at least 30 min to an hour a day..just believe in yourself and have faith and don't think of it as a diet that always screws us up..just consciously watch what you eat..you can do it I've done it once and im doing it again..if you want don't tell anyone your working out..you'll have the pleasure of seeing the looks on their faces when you succeed! Besides people can get u down my cousin and I are like sisters she hasn't lost anything and she doesn't say anything when I tell her what I've accomplished and I try to motivate her saying she can do it too....losing weight is possible! Its not easy and it doesn't happen over night...but it can be achieved don't rush it give it time and eventually you'll see a new you in the mirror! If you want to talk or you have questions, anything email me.Good luck!
I can picture just what you're talking about. My best friend was in the same boat...surrounded by ';beautiful people'; while she fought the battle every day--sometimes successful and sometimes not.
My best suggestion is that you spend the next year eating healthy. There's no reason to do anything super drastic and complicated. The year is going to pass by regardless, right? The only difference is what you do with the year and how you look and feel once it's over. One reason that you're having such a tough time being consistently good is because diets are hard to stick to. So, forget diets for now, and just focus on eating healthy. This page can help:
http://www.easy-weightloss-tips.com/eat-鈥?/a>
Keep a food and exercise log. Research shows that people who keep these logs stay on their diets longer and lose twice as much weight as those who don't use them. It really helps you be aware of what you're eating. You can print them out for free on the page above.
So, do that at first. Make healthier choices. Make a new change each week (but keep the ones from the week before). For example, week one give up fast food. Week 2, give up fast food and snacking after dinner. Week 3, do those two things plus drink lots of water. Week 4, give up fried foods. Week 5, add 30 minutes of walking each day. Week 6, start eating half-portions. You get the idea...
Never weigh more than once a week. Weigh the same day each week at the same approx. time, wearing the same thing. Ideally, it would be first thing in the morning before getting dressed--no more than once a week. Your body has too many natural fluctuations to weigh every day--it will get too frustrating.
If you need some motivational inspiration, the same site has about 4-5 pages of motivational ideas. Basically, you need to wake up each day and remind yourself why you want this so badly. It needs to be always in the forefront of your mind so that you don't rationalize being bad on a whim. I lost 85 pounds five years ago on Weight Watchers and I can tell you that during that year that it took to get the weight off, I had to give myself pep talks constantly. You have to always think before you eat! You have to actually give yourself the time to rationalize the right decision instead of taking the easy way out...
When you're ready, the biggest component to fast weight loss is going to be your workout. You will want to make sure you do a good 30 minute cardio workout every day for weight loss (3 times a week is sufficient to maintain health). Activities that use the large leg muscles burn the most calories. These activities also tone the lower body quite effectively. Think in terms of power walking, jogging, biking, skating, swimming laps, jumping rope, dancing, racquetball, and jumping jacks. To make sure that you're burning fat, you need to be sweating and huffing and puffing. In addition, do some good stretches and some strength training. This page has some great target exercises that you can do at home, without special equipment:
http://www.easy-weightloss-tips.com/targ鈥?/a>
Since you won't be on a ';formal'; diet, you won't feel deprived and be tempted to go off the diet! If you slip and eat something ';bad'; then just get right back on the healthy eating wagon the next meal. Make more and more changes as you feel stronger and more in control. Those changes will add up to big drops on the scale! Good luck!
Could u give me a question that a teenager would send to a advice column???
How can I get my mom to give me more independenceCould u give me a question that a teenager would send to a advice column???
how to lose weight?
how to get that one guy/ girl to notice...Could u give me a question that a teenager would send to a advice column???
crap about her boyfriend and this and that and all that crap
Me and my teacher don't get along, yet I'm good in the class. i think they're going to fail me because they don't like me. What should I do?
look at the family and relationship section here!!
does he like me? Does she like me? how do i get them to notice me?
Why do these mean girls make fun of me?
How do I get him/her to notice me?
How can I get my parents to understand me?
Why can't I get phone calls past 11 pm?
How do I get my boy/girl friend back?
My best friend dumped me for some new kid, how should I handle this?
I could go on.mor
how to lose weight?
how to get that one guy/ girl to notice...Could u give me a question that a teenager would send to a advice column???
crap about her boyfriend and this and that and all that crap
Me and my teacher don't get along, yet I'm good in the class. i think they're going to fail me because they don't like me. What should I do?
look at the family and relationship section here!!
does he like me? Does she like me? how do i get them to notice me?
Why do these mean girls make fun of me?
How do I get him/her to notice me?
How can I get my parents to understand me?
Why can't I get phone calls past 11 pm?
How do I get my boy/girl friend back?
My best friend dumped me for some new kid, how should I handle this?
I could go on.
Life advice for a teenager?
Be true to yourself, and don't try to please anybody else.
Edit: Most everyone has given great advice....try to follow it!!
Best of luck to you...just be smart!!Life advice for a teenager?
hugz not drugs
don't say i love you to some boy u just met
when you're fifteen, and somebody tells you they love you, you're gonna believe them, but try oh so hard not to
you'll do greater things than dating the boy on the football team
don't look to far into the future, live life in the moment
yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come, so live life in the moment
boyfriends come and go, but friends are here to stay
best friends are god's way of apologizing for family
just make sure that you do well in school and make your future. you're the one that makes you destiny, so make it the way you wanna. anything in life is possible through determination.
and in your life, you;ll have many smiles and tears and regrets. you cant change you're past, but you can change you're future. you hold the future. make it yours. and just go out there and face the world.
%26lt;3%26lt;3%26lt;3%26lt;3 does that help??Life advice for a teenager?
Be yourself. Even if you don't know quite who that is just yet.
Take chances. Don't let fear get in the way of ceasing an opportunity or taking a risk that could make you happy/really change you/your life.
Find a friend or two who you can trust (if you don't already have one), who you can lean on and who can lean on you through the crazy years.
And stay above the influence. ^.^
Try to wait until you're married until you have sex. It makes it more special. Don't do drugs...it's the gateway to many years of sorrow. Try to enjoy life the most you can because once you're 18 things change. Focus on school.....down the road that knowledge will come in handy. That's about it.....try not to get hung up on people picking at you because five years after you graduate you won't remember anyone lol :).
patience is your best friend
you have time to wait for everything
people who pressure you into doing something you don't want to do are not your friends
listen to your parents and any trusted adult
they have good advice although it sucks at the time
try to have fun and learn who you are
Stay in school, use a condom, don't do drugs, don't get in the car with a drunk driver. All good advice I didn't follow and wish I did now.
don't give in to peer pressure
what you think was so bad, it really isn't in a couple years you'll might laugh about
If you get drunk and bang some sleazy guy, don't get your friends, tell your gynecologist.
Live your life, don't do drugs, stay away from bad guys, do good in school, and have fun!
go to uni, dont get married until you are like 30, dont have kids by accident. if you are going to do drugs, be sensible with it. wear a seatbelt.
Buy as much Silver as you can get and save it for one year !
Always persevere, even when times are tough.
Well.....pay attention.... be considerate....see the cup as half full rather than half empty .....tell the truth ....smile a lot ..... enjoy humor ..... and speak in good faith .....
Focus on school. You have plenty of time for relationships later.
always use protection during sex...
keep a knife with you just in case
Be confident and don't let others bring you down :)
Oh yeah....and always use a condom =D
you don't need. just live your life. advice can wait.
have
no
regrets
its what i live by.
take an easy and savor your teenage years
look both ways before you cross the street
follow the right path and live life safely keep trying never give up be yourself and slow down don't rush
stop and think
Slow down..theres no rush :D
dont sleep around or take drugs or wag school
Don't do drugs. It can ruin your life.
';Wrap it...Before you Tap it';
Stay in school!!!
Don't have a kid till your about 25
if they look guilty, they are.
Use a condom.
Get a job.
dont do drugs
Edit: Most everyone has given great advice....try to follow it!!
Best of luck to you...just be smart!!Life advice for a teenager?
hugz not drugs
don't say i love you to some boy u just met
when you're fifteen, and somebody tells you they love you, you're gonna believe them, but try oh so hard not to
you'll do greater things than dating the boy on the football team
don't look to far into the future, live life in the moment
yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come, so live life in the moment
boyfriends come and go, but friends are here to stay
best friends are god's way of apologizing for family
just make sure that you do well in school and make your future. you're the one that makes you destiny, so make it the way you wanna. anything in life is possible through determination.
and in your life, you;ll have many smiles and tears and regrets. you cant change you're past, but you can change you're future. you hold the future. make it yours. and just go out there and face the world.
%26lt;3%26lt;3%26lt;3%26lt;3 does that help??Life advice for a teenager?
Be yourself. Even if you don't know quite who that is just yet.
Take chances. Don't let fear get in the way of ceasing an opportunity or taking a risk that could make you happy/really change you/your life.
Find a friend or two who you can trust (if you don't already have one), who you can lean on and who can lean on you through the crazy years.
And stay above the influence. ^.^
Try to wait until you're married until you have sex. It makes it more special. Don't do drugs...it's the gateway to many years of sorrow. Try to enjoy life the most you can because once you're 18 things change. Focus on school.....down the road that knowledge will come in handy. That's about it.....try not to get hung up on people picking at you because five years after you graduate you won't remember anyone lol :).
patience is your best friend
you have time to wait for everything
people who pressure you into doing something you don't want to do are not your friends
listen to your parents and any trusted adult
they have good advice although it sucks at the time
try to have fun and learn who you are
Stay in school, use a condom, don't do drugs, don't get in the car with a drunk driver. All good advice I didn't follow and wish I did now.
don't give in to peer pressure
what you think was so bad, it really isn't in a couple years you'll might laugh about
If you get drunk and bang some sleazy guy, don't get your friends, tell your gynecologist.
Live your life, don't do drugs, stay away from bad guys, do good in school, and have fun!
go to uni, dont get married until you are like 30, dont have kids by accident. if you are going to do drugs, be sensible with it. wear a seatbelt.
Buy as much Silver as you can get and save it for one year !
Always persevere, even when times are tough.
Well.....pay attention.... be considerate....see the cup as half full rather than half empty .....tell the truth ....smile a lot ..... enjoy humor ..... and speak in good faith .....
Focus on school. You have plenty of time for relationships later.
always use protection during sex...
keep a knife with you just in case
Be confident and don't let others bring you down :)
Oh yeah....and always use a condom =D
you don't need. just live your life. advice can wait.
have
no
regrets
its what i live by.
take an easy and savor your teenage years
look both ways before you cross the street
follow the right path and live life safely keep trying never give up be yourself and slow down don't rush
stop and think
Slow down..theres no rush :D
dont sleep around or take drugs or wag school
Don't do drugs. It can ruin your life.
';Wrap it...Before you Tap it';
Stay in school!!!
Don't have a kid till your about 25
if they look guilty, they are.
Use a condom.
Get a job.
dont do drugs
Book advice for a teenager...........for girls?
ok i am18
i am sick of reading hardy boys ,marykate and ashley olsen books
i want some thing new
i like magic, mistery and u know girls and boys high schoolBook advice for a teenager...........for girls?
I really think that you will like the ';Twilight'; series. It's about a teenage girl who moves to a small town and falls in love with a vampire. Or ';A Great and Terrible Beauty';. It's about a girl who can travel to magical dimension (for lack of a better word). Good luck!Book advice for a teenager...........for girls?
Magic:
The Tales of The Frog Princess by E.D Baker: These books are about a princess who is not all prim and proper but more of a tom boy. Well after kissing a frog she turns into one herself and must go on a long journey to turn herself back. The series has lots of magic, love/relationships, and adventure in it.
Mystery:
The Kidnapping of Christina Lattimore by Joan Lowery Nixon: This books is about a girl with rich parents who is kidnapped but when the police find her the kidnappers make it seem like she staged her own kidnapping. The girl goes through hell trying to prove herself inoccent to friends and family, and there's some love/relationships in it also.
Those are some good starter books for people exploring new styles of reading. You cna find both sugestions at almost any book store and their both really good.
I'm a guy, and I have no idea what teenage girls like to read.
But I have a fantasy book that isn't extremely ';masculine';, and it's pretty good. It might sound like a Harry Potter rip-off, but it is actually older (my copy says ';Copyright 1983';).
The protagonist is a girl named Nita. She runs into a library while being chased by some local bullies. Somewhere in this library, she finds a book that supposedly tells you how to become a wizard. It turns out to do just that, and it leads to a pretty creative adventure with some unexpected elements to it.
It's called ';So You Want to Be a Wizard';. It's not a challenging book at all, but I read it when I was 16, and I really enjoyed it. I think it's part of a series, so once you're done with it, there's more to read. I haven't read any of the sequels, yet.
Robert Jordan's ';Wheel of Time'; series starts out extremely good, but I thought it got a little dull and repetitive after the 5th book or so. It's about 12 books long, and the author died before the last one was finished (it isn't out yet, but by the time you read all the other books, it should be done).
I don't know if you should bother with that one, but if you like ';The Lord of the Rings'; and similar stories, I'd recommend it.
oh i know the perfect book! well it doesn't have high school girls and boys but you should try reading skulldugery pleasant(i might have spelt it wrong) plus if you're looking for those kinds of books, then try manga, you're hitting it right on the nose if you wanting to read stuff with magic, mystery and girls and boys high school. Try Vampire Knight
Read Koontz Books. They are very Suspencful and will have you guessing for the outcomes right up to the very end and even then they will surprise you. He is one of the best authors i have ever read and always look foward to his books. I would recomend starting with his book called Lightning or maybe the Odd Thomas series. Both excellent reads.
';Expecting Adam,'; Martha Beck,
';The Overachievers,'; Alexandra Robbins,
';The Great Divorce,'; C. S. Lewis,
';The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?';, Free and Wilcock, http://www.divinecosmos.com
';Soul Mates and Twin Flames,'; Elizabeth Clare Prophet.
His Dark Materials(trilogy)-Phillip Pullman
The Old Kingdom Series-Garth Nix
The Princess Diaries-Meg Cabot
Eragon,Eldest-Christopher Paolini
Harry Potter-J.K Rowling
I can't think of anymore books, but just so you know, these are all great!!!:)
Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer are fantastic
The Gemma Doyle books by Libba Bray
Tried anything by Meg Cabot?
or Harry Potter?
Twilight
Harry Potter
Gossip Girl
City of Bones - Cassandra Claire... lots of twists and turns, you won't be bored.
read vc andrews...there great!!! Mystery and love....
Here are some of my favorite teen and some adult-ish novels:
Twilight by Stephenie Meyer. It's about a girl named Bella who moves to Forks, Washington and runs into a group of vampires. VERY VERY good! I REALLY think you should give it a chance because I'm not into vampire stuff, but it was AMAZING!
http://stepheniemeyer.com/twilight.html
Pants On Fire by Meg Cabot. It's about a girl who basically has everything (popular best friend, good grades... and TWO boyfriends.) It's really funny because then her friend from eighth grade come back to town (everyone hates him) and she falls head over heals for him too.
http://www.megcabot.com/
Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants by Ann Brashares. It's about four girls who where born as friends. They go through ups and downs together.
The Last Summer (Of You and Me) by Ann Brashares was amazing. It may be more of an adult book, but it was fairly good.
All-American Girl and All-American Girl Ready Or Not by Meg Cabot. It's about an outcast girl who happens to save the presidents life. Suddenly everyone at school wants to be her friend, but she doesn't really care... What she does care about is the presidents son...
Queen of Babble by Meg Cabot. It's about a girl who goes over seas with her boyfriend after (almost!) finishing college. After a bad break up with him, she goes with her friend and runs into someone.... It's a very good adult book!
How To Be Popular by Meg Cabot. It's about a girl who comes across an old book in her grandma'a attic called how to be popular. So, she follows the rules of the book hoping to become popular.
Jinx by Meg Cabot. If you liked Twilight, then you'll like this book. It's about a girl who has bad luck all the time so she moves in with her aunt and uncle. He sister is into witchcraft and I don't want to spoil the rest, but it fairly good.
Teen Idol by Meg Cabot. This is about a girl who has an advice column in her school newspaper. So, when a famous actor comes to her school and she's the only one who knows about it, chaos occurs!
Someone Like You by Sarah Dessen is also pretty good. It's about two girls that are best friends who are having a few issues in the love department.
http://www.sarahdessen.com/?q=books
Just Listen by Sarah Dessen is one of my favorites! It's about a girl who had something terrible happen to her and she's learning how to cope with it and befriends an outcast boy.
The Mediator series by Meg Cabot. I've only read the first two, but they are VERY good. It's about a girl named Suze who moves to California from New York because her mother just remarried. Oh, and Suze can see ghosts...
13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher. It's about a guy named Clay who gets these tapes in the mail about why a girl named Hannah killed herself. It's very good and a great page-turner!
http://www.thirteenreasonswhy.com/
She Went All The Way by Meg Cabot. This is a book for more mature people, but it's very good. It's about two people who get stranded in the wilderness.
Forever... by Judy Bloom is also pretty good. It's about a girl getting a boyfriend and going through sensual things. It's a little mature.
Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist by Rachel Cohn and David Levithan is okay. My friends LOVED it! I don't wanna tell you what it's about because it'll just give it all away.
The Host by Stephenie Meyer. It's about how these things called souls invade Earth, as well as humans. It's based on a soul named Wanda who is placed into Melanie, who refuses to fade away like she's suppose too. It's very interesting and I totally recommend it!
http://stepheniemeyer.com/thehost.html
Good luck with finding a book! I hope these help!
i am sick of reading hardy boys ,marykate and ashley olsen books
i want some thing new
i like magic, mistery and u know girls and boys high schoolBook advice for a teenager...........for girls?
I really think that you will like the ';Twilight'; series. It's about a teenage girl who moves to a small town and falls in love with a vampire. Or ';A Great and Terrible Beauty';. It's about a girl who can travel to magical dimension (for lack of a better word). Good luck!Book advice for a teenager...........for girls?
Magic:
The Tales of The Frog Princess by E.D Baker: These books are about a princess who is not all prim and proper but more of a tom boy. Well after kissing a frog she turns into one herself and must go on a long journey to turn herself back. The series has lots of magic, love/relationships, and adventure in it.
Mystery:
The Kidnapping of Christina Lattimore by Joan Lowery Nixon: This books is about a girl with rich parents who is kidnapped but when the police find her the kidnappers make it seem like she staged her own kidnapping. The girl goes through hell trying to prove herself inoccent to friends and family, and there's some love/relationships in it also.
Those are some good starter books for people exploring new styles of reading. You cna find both sugestions at almost any book store and their both really good.
I'm a guy, and I have no idea what teenage girls like to read.
But I have a fantasy book that isn't extremely ';masculine';, and it's pretty good. It might sound like a Harry Potter rip-off, but it is actually older (my copy says ';Copyright 1983';).
The protagonist is a girl named Nita. She runs into a library while being chased by some local bullies. Somewhere in this library, she finds a book that supposedly tells you how to become a wizard. It turns out to do just that, and it leads to a pretty creative adventure with some unexpected elements to it.
It's called ';So You Want to Be a Wizard';. It's not a challenging book at all, but I read it when I was 16, and I really enjoyed it. I think it's part of a series, so once you're done with it, there's more to read. I haven't read any of the sequels, yet.
Robert Jordan's ';Wheel of Time'; series starts out extremely good, but I thought it got a little dull and repetitive after the 5th book or so. It's about 12 books long, and the author died before the last one was finished (it isn't out yet, but by the time you read all the other books, it should be done).
I don't know if you should bother with that one, but if you like ';The Lord of the Rings'; and similar stories, I'd recommend it.
oh i know the perfect book! well it doesn't have high school girls and boys but you should try reading skulldugery pleasant(i might have spelt it wrong) plus if you're looking for those kinds of books, then try manga, you're hitting it right on the nose if you wanting to read stuff with magic, mystery and girls and boys high school. Try Vampire Knight
Read Koontz Books. They are very Suspencful and will have you guessing for the outcomes right up to the very end and even then they will surprise you. He is one of the best authors i have ever read and always look foward to his books. I would recomend starting with his book called Lightning or maybe the Odd Thomas series. Both excellent reads.
';Expecting Adam,'; Martha Beck,
';The Overachievers,'; Alexandra Robbins,
';The Great Divorce,'; C. S. Lewis,
';The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?';, Free and Wilcock, http://www.divinecosmos.com
';Soul Mates and Twin Flames,'; Elizabeth Clare Prophet.
His Dark Materials(trilogy)-Phillip Pullman
The Old Kingdom Series-Garth Nix
The Princess Diaries-Meg Cabot
Eragon,Eldest-Christopher Paolini
Harry Potter-J.K Rowling
I can't think of anymore books, but just so you know, these are all great!!!:)
Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer are fantastic
The Gemma Doyle books by Libba Bray
Tried anything by Meg Cabot?
or Harry Potter?
Twilight
Harry Potter
Gossip Girl
City of Bones - Cassandra Claire... lots of twists and turns, you won't be bored.
read vc andrews...there great!!! Mystery and love....
Here are some of my favorite teen and some adult-ish novels:
Twilight by Stephenie Meyer. It's about a girl named Bella who moves to Forks, Washington and runs into a group of vampires. VERY VERY good! I REALLY think you should give it a chance because I'm not into vampire stuff, but it was AMAZING!
http://stepheniemeyer.com/twilight.html
Pants On Fire by Meg Cabot. It's about a girl who basically has everything (popular best friend, good grades... and TWO boyfriends.) It's really funny because then her friend from eighth grade come back to town (everyone hates him) and she falls head over heals for him too.
http://www.megcabot.com/
Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants by Ann Brashares. It's about four girls who where born as friends. They go through ups and downs together.
The Last Summer (Of You and Me) by Ann Brashares was amazing. It may be more of an adult book, but it was fairly good.
All-American Girl and All-American Girl Ready Or Not by Meg Cabot. It's about an outcast girl who happens to save the presidents life. Suddenly everyone at school wants to be her friend, but she doesn't really care... What she does care about is the presidents son...
Queen of Babble by Meg Cabot. It's about a girl who goes over seas with her boyfriend after (almost!) finishing college. After a bad break up with him, she goes with her friend and runs into someone.... It's a very good adult book!
How To Be Popular by Meg Cabot. It's about a girl who comes across an old book in her grandma'a attic called how to be popular. So, she follows the rules of the book hoping to become popular.
Jinx by Meg Cabot. If you liked Twilight, then you'll like this book. It's about a girl who has bad luck all the time so she moves in with her aunt and uncle. He sister is into witchcraft and I don't want to spoil the rest, but it fairly good.
Teen Idol by Meg Cabot. This is about a girl who has an advice column in her school newspaper. So, when a famous actor comes to her school and she's the only one who knows about it, chaos occurs!
Someone Like You by Sarah Dessen is also pretty good. It's about two girls that are best friends who are having a few issues in the love department.
http://www.sarahdessen.com/?q=books
Just Listen by Sarah Dessen is one of my favorites! It's about a girl who had something terrible happen to her and she's learning how to cope with it and befriends an outcast boy.
The Mediator series by Meg Cabot. I've only read the first two, but they are VERY good. It's about a girl named Suze who moves to California from New York because her mother just remarried. Oh, and Suze can see ghosts...
13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher. It's about a guy named Clay who gets these tapes in the mail about why a girl named Hannah killed herself. It's very good and a great page-turner!
http://www.thirteenreasonswhy.com/
She Went All The Way by Meg Cabot. This is a book for more mature people, but it's very good. It's about two people who get stranded in the wilderness.
Forever... by Judy Bloom is also pretty good. It's about a girl getting a boyfriend and going through sensual things. It's a little mature.
Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist by Rachel Cohn and David Levithan is okay. My friends LOVED it! I don't wanna tell you what it's about because it'll just give it all away.
The Host by Stephenie Meyer. It's about how these things called souls invade Earth, as well as humans. It's based on a soul named Wanda who is placed into Melanie, who refuses to fade away like she's suppose too. It's very interesting and I totally recommend it!
http://stepheniemeyer.com/thehost.html
Good luck with finding a book! I hope these help!
Advice for a teenager?
What if you were 16 y.o. and living in a dysfunctional family and wished above all that you had a normal family, because you want a positive environment, and because it affects your self-worth when making friends, etc. Any recommended readings (not about dysfunctional families, but something inspirational, but not religious)? Thanks.Advice for a teenager?
Well, at that age maybe one cannot do anything but only to promise himself to study and make good in everything he does so that when the right time comes, he will have the power to change his life for the better.Advice for a teenager?
sweep the leg ';You got a problem with that';?
i think u should read tears of a tiger it is a good book
My faith is really the only thing I can offer, so..yeah..the Bible!
Personally, most of my inspiration comes from my faith. So without that, I have nothing to share.
i advise maybe counseling :D maybe u shud all sit at home 1 day and talk abt these problems, talking is gd and avoid conflicts or stop them wen u c they start to appear :) try working things out :D i dont hav a dysfunctional family but i image i did, 1 of my friends does and he fixed it almost completely :), hope i helped :)
how about experiencing your whole family gone. (dead)
?
growing up with no one to guide you. loitering around streets,., eating food from garbage bags,
people throwing you away just because you don't look rich and you smell funny.
?
read books. talk to a counselor
Well, at that age maybe one cannot do anything but only to promise himself to study and make good in everything he does so that when the right time comes, he will have the power to change his life for the better.Advice for a teenager?
sweep the leg ';You got a problem with that';?
i think u should read tears of a tiger it is a good book
My faith is really the only thing I can offer, so..yeah..the Bible!
Personally, most of my inspiration comes from my faith. So without that, I have nothing to share.
i advise maybe counseling :D maybe u shud all sit at home 1 day and talk abt these problems, talking is gd and avoid conflicts or stop them wen u c they start to appear :) try working things out :D i dont hav a dysfunctional family but i image i did, 1 of my friends does and he fixed it almost completely :), hope i helped :)
how about experiencing your whole family gone. (dead)
?
growing up with no one to guide you. loitering around streets,., eating food from garbage bags,
people throwing you away just because you don't look rich and you smell funny.
?
read books. talk to a counselor
Advice with raising teenager..?
I would appreciate any opinions/strategies for assisting a young woman who needs lots and lots of positive reinforcement continually. How can I teach her to be self supporting rather than always looking to others for congratulation. (I really do mean she is excessive; draws attention to her positive acts over and over in order to be told again that she did well.)Advice with raising teenager..?
My advice is for you to take her to a Special Olympics event as a volunteer, or a volunteer for special needs children in your local community. Her need for constant encouragement and approval is rooted in a mind that is self-centered with a ';me, me, me'; complex. When she returns from the volunteer session, avoid answering questions that validate her actions as well done, but rather re-direct your response towards her continued involvement. In terms of time, several weeks of volunteering should be sufficient, but don't allow inconsistent participation. Be prepared to do the first few sessions with her, keeping her focused on those being helped, not on the ones doing the help!Advice with raising teenager..?
Use physical punishment. The old way works best.
My children are 23 and 17, the 17 year old is a girl. I always looked at my own accomplishments and offered that to her. I was not always good at everything. Grades were important but not necessarily what you have learned. I have always taught my children to be good people which they are. Girls always look for reasurance and praise no matter what they do. Encouragement is good but over appraisal is not. And reasurance when she does not do well at something. ';thats ok, we all can't be good at everyting, but its ok you tried.'; example. My daughter took tennis lessons when she was 12 and 13, she so wanted to learn how to play. We took her and encouraged her to play. She did not make it out of beginners! I asked her one day if she liked it?
She said I love it! But, you know mom, I suck! But, do you like it?
Again she said yes. Ok, you are not good at tennis! You don't have to be the best at something to like it. She is now almost 18 and not afraid to try something new or different even if she is not good at something. I have taught her to reasure herself! I also have the same mind set. I taught them by example. Think before you react to a situation. Using the right words is important.
The only thing as I said is to hope they grow up to be good people. If you did that you did your job well.
Point out to her that you realize she is fishing for more compliments and that while she did a good job...she needs to move on to the next one. Don't be upset or anything. It's not that big of a deal, she just likes to have the good attention. Point out to her the reason that she did the thing also so that she learns to satisfy some of this need by being pleased with her own work.
she has low self esteem
boost it for her
teach her to be more outgoing and to be a leader to change her out look about her self im sure she has a bubbly personality just show her how to be a leader for herself.
How old is your daughter?..I am 15. I think that ou should just remind her everyday what is going on and she will soon after get the picture. I was like that until my dad died I opened my eyes and realized.
tell her that she did bad... over and over again and she will rise her expectations for 'good job' standards.
get her involved in activities such as karate or horse back riding. They raise self esteem as that sounds to be what she needs. There are other things out there of course but those 2 poped into my head as definite boosters.
How old is your daughter? Mine is now 18 but still struggling with self image. Her mom deserted her when she was 5 and I have raised her on my own since then. Just keep on giving her your positive input and make sure she knows you love her. That's the best you can do. Even then, it may not always be enough. Believe me. I know. You might want to get her in to see a psychologist. Someone who can give her positive input from and outsiders view. Good luck to you.
i am a 14 year old and i have practically no self esteem because i get As all the time in class, and my parents get mad if it is an -A. i hate how strict they are and how i never get complimented unless it is like over 100%...i wish they would tell me i am good at what i do once in a while...i guess they just assume i know it, and it sux. but they dont know they are bringing me down cuz i never tell them since i am afraid they will get mad. i would much rather they built me up like u r doing for your kid...so honestly if u want her to be happy and not contemplating suicide and cutting herself while u have no idea please try to stay as close as u can to her!! i am the kid that trys to do everything right and thinks they did but it is never good enough...so i get depressed and often want to kill myself because i think on one cares about me...but my parents think everything is fine. please dont do this to your girl...i dont want her to suffer inside like i do while no one knows because she tries to hide it form the world. some day she will leave the house with the man of her life and you wont have to deal with her anymore, so do your best to make the hardest years of her life as easy as you can and be gentle with her!!
With teenagers in general, just talking to us helps. She's very insecure and needs reassurance. Don't be annoyed, just go with it and praise her each time. As she gets older there will be a break. There isn't really much you can do otherwise, if you cease to praise her, she will fall, very far. Just let her grow up, it'll happen over time, just support her while she still talks to you. I'm glad you wonder how to help your daughter, and not just scream at her in agitation.
My advice is for you to take her to a Special Olympics event as a volunteer, or a volunteer for special needs children in your local community. Her need for constant encouragement and approval is rooted in a mind that is self-centered with a ';me, me, me'; complex. When she returns from the volunteer session, avoid answering questions that validate her actions as well done, but rather re-direct your response towards her continued involvement. In terms of time, several weeks of volunteering should be sufficient, but don't allow inconsistent participation. Be prepared to do the first few sessions with her, keeping her focused on those being helped, not on the ones doing the help!Advice with raising teenager..?
Use physical punishment. The old way works best.
My children are 23 and 17, the 17 year old is a girl. I always looked at my own accomplishments and offered that to her. I was not always good at everything. Grades were important but not necessarily what you have learned. I have always taught my children to be good people which they are. Girls always look for reasurance and praise no matter what they do. Encouragement is good but over appraisal is not. And reasurance when she does not do well at something. ';thats ok, we all can't be good at everyting, but its ok you tried.'; example. My daughter took tennis lessons when she was 12 and 13, she so wanted to learn how to play. We took her and encouraged her to play. She did not make it out of beginners! I asked her one day if she liked it?
She said I love it! But, you know mom, I suck! But, do you like it?
Again she said yes. Ok, you are not good at tennis! You don't have to be the best at something to like it. She is now almost 18 and not afraid to try something new or different even if she is not good at something. I have taught her to reasure herself! I also have the same mind set. I taught them by example. Think before you react to a situation. Using the right words is important.
The only thing as I said is to hope they grow up to be good people. If you did that you did your job well.
Point out to her that you realize she is fishing for more compliments and that while she did a good job...she needs to move on to the next one. Don't be upset or anything. It's not that big of a deal, she just likes to have the good attention. Point out to her the reason that she did the thing also so that she learns to satisfy some of this need by being pleased with her own work.
she has low self esteem
boost it for her
teach her to be more outgoing and to be a leader to change her out look about her self im sure she has a bubbly personality just show her how to be a leader for herself.
How old is your daughter?..I am 15. I think that ou should just remind her everyday what is going on and she will soon after get the picture. I was like that until my dad died I opened my eyes and realized.
tell her that she did bad... over and over again and she will rise her expectations for 'good job' standards.
get her involved in activities such as karate or horse back riding. They raise self esteem as that sounds to be what she needs. There are other things out there of course but those 2 poped into my head as definite boosters.
How old is your daughter? Mine is now 18 but still struggling with self image. Her mom deserted her when she was 5 and I have raised her on my own since then. Just keep on giving her your positive input and make sure she knows you love her. That's the best you can do. Even then, it may not always be enough. Believe me. I know. You might want to get her in to see a psychologist. Someone who can give her positive input from and outsiders view. Good luck to you.
i am a 14 year old and i have practically no self esteem because i get As all the time in class, and my parents get mad if it is an -A. i hate how strict they are and how i never get complimented unless it is like over 100%...i wish they would tell me i am good at what i do once in a while...i guess they just assume i know it, and it sux. but they dont know they are bringing me down cuz i never tell them since i am afraid they will get mad. i would much rather they built me up like u r doing for your kid...so honestly if u want her to be happy and not contemplating suicide and cutting herself while u have no idea please try to stay as close as u can to her!! i am the kid that trys to do everything right and thinks they did but it is never good enough...so i get depressed and often want to kill myself because i think on one cares about me...but my parents think everything is fine. please dont do this to your girl...i dont want her to suffer inside like i do while no one knows because she tries to hide it form the world. some day she will leave the house with the man of her life and you wont have to deal with her anymore, so do your best to make the hardest years of her life as easy as you can and be gentle with her!!
With teenagers in general, just talking to us helps. She's very insecure and needs reassurance. Don't be annoyed, just go with it and praise her each time. As she gets older there will be a break. There isn't really much you can do otherwise, if you cease to praise her, she will fall, very far. Just let her grow up, it'll happen over time, just support her while she still talks to you. I'm glad you wonder how to help your daughter, and not just scream at her in agitation.
Any advice on how to get through to a defiant teenager?
My teenage son has ODD. He is very defiant and unruly. He Is very sweet until he gets mad . Then he is like a totaly diffrent kid.HELP!Any advice on how to get through to a defiant teenager?
Been there a hundred times!!! There is no good answer because every kid is diffrent. Here are a few things that helped with people I know and one or two that didn't make the situation go away for my daughter but helped a little making the everyday easier to deal with. Just remeber that; kids are tough but kids with mental disorders are very tough...they can't control every action the way others can. Second it's not always the parents fault - nature plays just as much of a role in personality traits as nurture does.
1. Professional Phyc help (meds and counceling works best for tough cases - just counceling for teen angst)
2. The reward - my friends son did very well on this. She created a point system for behavior through out the week. Good behavior earned a certian number of points while ';bad'; behavior lost them. At the end of the week points were tallied and her son could turn in predetermined vouchers for fun stuff (ex. going to movies voucher was worth 500 points - one candy bar voucher was worth 10). This system works great at any age beacuse you can customize the number of points and the vouchers to fit each kid and their interest - it's also something easily created at home with a marker and paper and they can chart their own progress. Just make sure to make vouchers rather than rely on whatever your kid wants to do in the moment (it'l save money and having to tell them no).
3. Kids with ADD, ADHD,and ODD don't do very well with anger or grounding so find other punishments. My daughter did well with the mac and cheese punishment when it came to throwing a fit over dinners (yes it sounds stupid but..)While breakfast and lunch where whatever I made dinner was mac and cheese for a month (just for her we ate whatever we wanted). Once or twice and I never had a dinner time problem again. The point isn't to use mac and cheese but find creative ways you can control to deal with the issues he presents.
4. Don't back down - sometimes it's easier to walk away or ignore the situation but that just gives them the catalyst to keep going. let them know in advance what you need from them, what the punishment will be, and most importantly that you are EVERYWHERE. Talk to their friends, friends parents, let them know you want to be notified of anything, call the school, etc. When they see you are in every aspect of their life they'll be less likely to do things they will get in trouble. My daughters friends are so afraid of me that they often stop anything from happening before it does so that I don't show up at their doorstep and their still welcome at mine.
5. Anger renactment - kids with issues tend to act their anger out in the moment. When my daughter was young I had her draw the angry pictures. First she drew a picture showing anger or just a mess, then one showing something happy. As she got older and into writing we moved into the angry letter. One letter full of whatever she wanted to write about in her mood (I wasn't allowed to read it so she could feel comfortable expressing what ever she felt) and then one showing her situation or feelings in a happy way. At then end she got to burn both. It didn't matter what she wrote or drew the point was to get her to take her rage to something safe and quiet but quickly following it with something good to remind her that anger is a moment not her whole life.
Don't forget to take time for you, whether it's talking to a friend, family, or shrink about whats going on. You'll feel better and then can effectivly find options that work for you. Good Luck - your not alone.Any advice on how to get through to a defiant teenager?
You have to help him find another way to vent his anger. There are things going on in his life that we don't always know about. Girlfriends, school and friends. Talk to him when he is not mad and find out what he is so angry about. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make things even a little bit better. He needs to find something to focus his energy. Ex: sports, other interests.
Give him one final chance to shape up. If he fails to do so, put him back in short trousers to remind him that all the times he acts like a little boy he will be made to look like one then give him the strapping of his lifetime with both strap and buckle of the belt.
just get personal help
there might be something bothering him alot
try to find out wat it is
Figure out why he is getting mad? Theres got to be a deeper issue here that he always reflects off of. Then when you find that out you can address the anger issue. When he is angry, he proably want to stay that way. I know it sounds weird, but sometimes people want to stay angry. You must find out where all this anger is coming from.
I agree with one of the answers that you should probably get professional help. I say this just to be sure that there are not deep psychological issues.
However, having raised two sons through their teens by myself... I sympathize. Most teens, especially boys, become defiant and are just plain angry most of the time. I kept telling my youngest when he was dying his hair black, dressing in black, staying out most of the night, skipping school... ';I know my son is in that body somewhere';. I always felt that the good behavior, values, morals, and respect that I taught them when they were younger would surface again when they made it through those ';dark years';. And it did! I have two wonderful sons who continually apologize for the way they acted when they were teens : )
My oldest does have a temper, like your son... but has learned to control it because it just isn't acceptable. I'm not sure how he deals with it, but he's not putting holes in walls like he did in his teens!
I heard a similar story as one of your answers... it says when your kid reaches puberty put them in one of those big wooden barrels, nail the top on and feed them through the knotholes. Then when they turn 16, seal up the knotholes! HA
You'll survive, and so will he! Good luck to you.
Put him in a box. Don't open it until he's out of his teens. Shove food through the cracks.
You need to seek professional help, not rely on answers from Yahoo members!
Here's a link to help you get started.
If you don't get professional help for this, it will only get worse and could lead to serious trouble for him and for you.mor
Been there a hundred times!!! There is no good answer because every kid is diffrent. Here are a few things that helped with people I know and one or two that didn't make the situation go away for my daughter but helped a little making the everyday easier to deal with. Just remeber that; kids are tough but kids with mental disorders are very tough...they can't control every action the way others can. Second it's not always the parents fault - nature plays just as much of a role in personality traits as nurture does.
1. Professional Phyc help (meds and counceling works best for tough cases - just counceling for teen angst)
2. The reward - my friends son did very well on this. She created a point system for behavior through out the week. Good behavior earned a certian number of points while ';bad'; behavior lost them. At the end of the week points were tallied and her son could turn in predetermined vouchers for fun stuff (ex. going to movies voucher was worth 500 points - one candy bar voucher was worth 10). This system works great at any age beacuse you can customize the number of points and the vouchers to fit each kid and their interest - it's also something easily created at home with a marker and paper and they can chart their own progress. Just make sure to make vouchers rather than rely on whatever your kid wants to do in the moment (it'l save money and having to tell them no).
3. Kids with ADD, ADHD,and ODD don't do very well with anger or grounding so find other punishments. My daughter did well with the mac and cheese punishment when it came to throwing a fit over dinners (yes it sounds stupid but..)While breakfast and lunch where whatever I made dinner was mac and cheese for a month (just for her we ate whatever we wanted). Once or twice and I never had a dinner time problem again. The point isn't to use mac and cheese but find creative ways you can control to deal with the issues he presents.
4. Don't back down - sometimes it's easier to walk away or ignore the situation but that just gives them the catalyst to keep going. let them know in advance what you need from them, what the punishment will be, and most importantly that you are EVERYWHERE. Talk to their friends, friends parents, let them know you want to be notified of anything, call the school, etc. When they see you are in every aspect of their life they'll be less likely to do things they will get in trouble. My daughters friends are so afraid of me that they often stop anything from happening before it does so that I don't show up at their doorstep and their still welcome at mine.
5. Anger renactment - kids with issues tend to act their anger out in the moment. When my daughter was young I had her draw the angry pictures. First she drew a picture showing anger or just a mess, then one showing something happy. As she got older and into writing we moved into the angry letter. One letter full of whatever she wanted to write about in her mood (I wasn't allowed to read it so she could feel comfortable expressing what ever she felt) and then one showing her situation or feelings in a happy way. At then end she got to burn both. It didn't matter what she wrote or drew the point was to get her to take her rage to something safe and quiet but quickly following it with something good to remind her that anger is a moment not her whole life.
Don't forget to take time for you, whether it's talking to a friend, family, or shrink about whats going on. You'll feel better and then can effectivly find options that work for you. Good Luck - your not alone.Any advice on how to get through to a defiant teenager?
You have to help him find another way to vent his anger. There are things going on in his life that we don't always know about. Girlfriends, school and friends. Talk to him when he is not mad and find out what he is so angry about. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make things even a little bit better. He needs to find something to focus his energy. Ex: sports, other interests.
Give him one final chance to shape up. If he fails to do so, put him back in short trousers to remind him that all the times he acts like a little boy he will be made to look like one then give him the strapping of his lifetime with both strap and buckle of the belt.
just get personal help
there might be something bothering him alot
try to find out wat it is
Figure out why he is getting mad? Theres got to be a deeper issue here that he always reflects off of. Then when you find that out you can address the anger issue. When he is angry, he proably want to stay that way. I know it sounds weird, but sometimes people want to stay angry. You must find out where all this anger is coming from.
I agree with one of the answers that you should probably get professional help. I say this just to be sure that there are not deep psychological issues.
However, having raised two sons through their teens by myself... I sympathize. Most teens, especially boys, become defiant and are just plain angry most of the time. I kept telling my youngest when he was dying his hair black, dressing in black, staying out most of the night, skipping school... ';I know my son is in that body somewhere';. I always felt that the good behavior, values, morals, and respect that I taught them when they were younger would surface again when they made it through those ';dark years';. And it did! I have two wonderful sons who continually apologize for the way they acted when they were teens : )
My oldest does have a temper, like your son... but has learned to control it because it just isn't acceptable. I'm not sure how he deals with it, but he's not putting holes in walls like he did in his teens!
I heard a similar story as one of your answers... it says when your kid reaches puberty put them in one of those big wooden barrels, nail the top on and feed them through the knotholes. Then when they turn 16, seal up the knotholes! HA
You'll survive, and so will he! Good luck to you.
Put him in a box. Don't open it until he's out of his teens. Shove food through the cracks.
You need to seek professional help, not rely on answers from Yahoo members!
Here's a link to help you get started.
If you don't get professional help for this, it will only get worse and could lead to serious trouble for him and for you.
I'm a teenager and i would like to take up yoga, any advice?
i'm a teenage girl, and am not overweight, but currently, am not into much physical activity, so im pretty out of shape. i don't take pe classes at school, because i take drama, and i dont have the money to get myself a gym membership, and i want to take up something unique that will keep me in shape without like running, or jogging, and i've heard yoga is also a type of stress reliever.
so, can you give me some good, beginning yoga tapes, or videos, or website?I'm a teenager and i would like to take up yoga, any advice?
Authentic Yoga has tremendous benefits for all. In exploring tapes, videos, or websites, note that: Yoga means to ';unite'; or ';join'; the aspects of ourselves which were never really divided in the first place. It also means to ';yoke'; or to engage ourselves in a self-training program. Yoga means working with each of the levels or aspects of our being individually, and then unifying all of those into their original whole, or Yoga. Yoga is a Sanskrit word coming from the root ';yuj'; and relates to both the processes or practices referred to as Yoga and also the goal itself, which is also called Yoga. As the goal, the word Yoga is virtually one and the same with the word Samadhi, the deep, transcendent realization of the highest truth or reality.I'm a teenager and i would like to take up yoga, any advice?
Try these sites:
http://www.yogajournal.com
http://www.yoga.com
Also, just do a search for ';beginning yoga';, ';yoga for teenagers';, etc.
I used to do yoga by following the poses on ';Inhale'; on Oxygen. I've gotten out of the habit of doing that, though, and I miss it. Even though it wasn't ';real'; yoga, it was still quite good. I have taken some real yoga classes and they were great. The leader said that I had some good natural form as well, which was nice.
Anyway, I hope this has been of some help.
Great start, go check this free yoga relaxation e-course:
http://www.yoga-health-beauty-energy.com鈥?/a>
All the best
Take a beginning 'gentle' yoga class with a qualified instructor.
take up yoga
so, can you give me some good, beginning yoga tapes, or videos, or website?I'm a teenager and i would like to take up yoga, any advice?
Authentic Yoga has tremendous benefits for all. In exploring tapes, videos, or websites, note that: Yoga means to ';unite'; or ';join'; the aspects of ourselves which were never really divided in the first place. It also means to ';yoke'; or to engage ourselves in a self-training program. Yoga means working with each of the levels or aspects of our being individually, and then unifying all of those into their original whole, or Yoga. Yoga is a Sanskrit word coming from the root ';yuj'; and relates to both the processes or practices referred to as Yoga and also the goal itself, which is also called Yoga. As the goal, the word Yoga is virtually one and the same with the word Samadhi, the deep, transcendent realization of the highest truth or reality.I'm a teenager and i would like to take up yoga, any advice?
Try these sites:
http://www.yogajournal.com
http://www.yoga.com
Also, just do a search for ';beginning yoga';, ';yoga for teenagers';, etc.
I used to do yoga by following the poses on ';Inhale'; on Oxygen. I've gotten out of the habit of doing that, though, and I miss it. Even though it wasn't ';real'; yoga, it was still quite good. I have taken some real yoga classes and they were great. The leader said that I had some good natural form as well, which was nice.
Anyway, I hope this has been of some help.
Great start, go check this free yoga relaxation e-course:
http://www.yoga-health-beauty-energy.com鈥?/a>
All the best
Take a beginning 'gentle' yoga class with a qualified instructor.
take up yoga
Do you have any advice for a teenager?
If so, what would you say? What things should teenagers know now that they will find out when they're adults?Do you have any advice for a teenager?
Just have fun and be a child as long as you can. Stay in school and do good, it will be MORE than worth it when you go to get a job. Don't fall in love too fast, enjoy life some first and spend some time on YOU before you start a family! Good luck!Do you have any advice for a teenager?
Stay in school.
don't be like me
It's not an exaggeration. Men, including the teenage ones, ARE always thinking about sex. Careful with your short skirt. They will try to walk up the stairs behind you and peek up it. You're probably laughing, but I'm not joking.
stay out of trouble. listen to your parents.
Just have fun and be a child as long as you can. Stay in school and do good, it will be MORE than worth it when you go to get a job. Don't fall in love too fast, enjoy life some first and spend some time on YOU before you start a family! Good luck!Do you have any advice for a teenager?
Stay in school.
don't be like me
It's not an exaggeration. Men, including the teenage ones, ARE always thinking about sex. Careful with your short skirt. They will try to walk up the stairs behind you and peek up it. You're probably laughing, but I'm not joking.
stay out of trouble. listen to your parents.
Help please want some advice about being teenager!!?
guys im not such a party person and hell i spend my time in home!
just twice a month i go out with my freinds!!
and i think im loosing my life and wasting it, how to find fun in life?
i wanna party hard, go to club and all fun stuff...
but..
im not so loaded first and i dont have my own private car?
how?Help please want some advice about being teenager!!?
go to a strip clubHelp please want some advice about being teenager!!?
Your parents should allow you to have fun during your teenage days. But I think, your parents just don't want you go out w/ your friends b/c they think that you will be some kind of really liberated. You can go out everyday, but make sure that there is nothing much important to do. I agree with you, you shouldn't waste your time by spending your teenage life at home. Go out with your friends...party, or do all the thing what you want. But just don't abuse that independence.
Hope this satisfied you.
Firstly where are you? as in city and country as for one if above 16 in the UK most people are in pub/bars (even if drinking fruit juice) whilst in the US that aint gonner happen.
You need to balance study with social life as will need social skills too.
We used to go clubbing all the time but used to only drink a few pepsis or even water out of the sinks and spend all night dancing or moshing.
Getting leaflets and getting into clubs early so only cost a few quid and got the night buss home not a taxi.
Just takes a few brains and often those where the better clubs.
If you are having a party hiring a smoke machine and uv light is cheap. stick bin liners with bluetak to the walls and get flourescent string and paper and it all glows.
Adventure sports are good maybe get sponsored to do a skydive etc.
u dont need money to have a good time just make the effort to see mates more and just have a laugh with them and u will meet loads of new people at college so that cool also so dont concentrate on money concentrate in havin a laugh and u will feel much better !!
Get a job
If you are not a party person, why do you want to party hard? There are plenty of other ways to enjoy yourself. If you really want to though, offer to do your mum's ironing in return for her playing taxi. I don't know many people who like ironing, so it might work for her.
If you don't have a friend who owns a car, you'll have to wait 'till you get your own But do you really need a car to go out? You say you go out twice a month, I didn't go out at all, I wasn't happy either. But don't worry, it seems like an eternity 'till adulthood, but it'll be there soon, too soon! I sometimes miss adolescence... Try to enjoy it as much as you can, you can invite friends at home too?
naaaaaaa. u don't have to force life. everything comes in its own good time. spend your cash when you have it but wisely. during teenage life, you have to be careful about what you do so that you don't live to regret it! So, if it's not possible for you to go out, don't............................
if your 18 ask a friend that drives and say ';hey lets go clubbing'; only if the club is 18 and over some are 21 and over depends what state you live in. If your still in high school take it easy on the clubbing and wait on that and just hang out at the movies or the mall...I am sure you have a friend that drives...make your own party ask your family if you could have one outside in the yard or in the living room or something!
Take a cab and go party. You have got to atleast have the big bucks for cab fare.
hi!!
Remember: Simplicity is d best policy...
simpler u r , better u r ...
no matter u've ur own car or not!!
the inherent power makes u able 2 get rid of d party.
neither a private car nor any kind of physic availibilities gets it done!!
ultimately life is more tht u take than u already have!
teenage comes with d lots of responsibilities , be aware of tht fact!make ur self ready 2 cope with all kinds of hardneses of life , u r gonna suffer!!
keep smilin , keep alive....
wish u d best of luck.
just twice a month i go out with my freinds!!
and i think im loosing my life and wasting it, how to find fun in life?
i wanna party hard, go to club and all fun stuff...
but..
im not so loaded first and i dont have my own private car?
how?Help please want some advice about being teenager!!?
go to a strip clubHelp please want some advice about being teenager!!?
Your parents should allow you to have fun during your teenage days. But I think, your parents just don't want you go out w/ your friends b/c they think that you will be some kind of really liberated. You can go out everyday, but make sure that there is nothing much important to do. I agree with you, you shouldn't waste your time by spending your teenage life at home. Go out with your friends...party, or do all the thing what you want. But just don't abuse that independence.
Hope this satisfied you.
Firstly where are you? as in city and country as for one if above 16 in the UK most people are in pub/bars (even if drinking fruit juice) whilst in the US that aint gonner happen.
You need to balance study with social life as will need social skills too.
We used to go clubbing all the time but used to only drink a few pepsis or even water out of the sinks and spend all night dancing or moshing.
Getting leaflets and getting into clubs early so only cost a few quid and got the night buss home not a taxi.
Just takes a few brains and often those where the better clubs.
If you are having a party hiring a smoke machine and uv light is cheap. stick bin liners with bluetak to the walls and get flourescent string and paper and it all glows.
Adventure sports are good maybe get sponsored to do a skydive etc.
u dont need money to have a good time just make the effort to see mates more and just have a laugh with them and u will meet loads of new people at college so that cool also so dont concentrate on money concentrate in havin a laugh and u will feel much better !!
Get a job
If you are not a party person, why do you want to party hard? There are plenty of other ways to enjoy yourself. If you really want to though, offer to do your mum's ironing in return for her playing taxi. I don't know many people who like ironing, so it might work for her.
If you don't have a friend who owns a car, you'll have to wait 'till you get your own But do you really need a car to go out? You say you go out twice a month, I didn't go out at all, I wasn't happy either. But don't worry, it seems like an eternity 'till adulthood, but it'll be there soon, too soon! I sometimes miss adolescence... Try to enjoy it as much as you can, you can invite friends at home too?
naaaaaaa. u don't have to force life. everything comes in its own good time. spend your cash when you have it but wisely. during teenage life, you have to be careful about what you do so that you don't live to regret it! So, if it's not possible for you to go out, don't............................
if your 18 ask a friend that drives and say ';hey lets go clubbing'; only if the club is 18 and over some are 21 and over depends what state you live in. If your still in high school take it easy on the clubbing and wait on that and just hang out at the movies or the mall...I am sure you have a friend that drives...make your own party ask your family if you could have one outside in the yard or in the living room or something!
Take a cab and go party. You have got to atleast have the big bucks for cab fare.
hi!!
Remember: Simplicity is d best policy...
simpler u r , better u r ...
no matter u've ur own car or not!!
the inherent power makes u able 2 get rid of d party.
neither a private car nor any kind of physic availibilities gets it done!!
ultimately life is more tht u take than u already have!
teenage comes with d lots of responsibilities , be aware of tht fact!make ur self ready 2 cope with all kinds of hardneses of life , u r gonna suffer!!
keep smilin , keep alive....
wish u d best of luck.
What is one advice you'd give to a teenager that he/she could use to life by?
It think this is a good saying: freedom of choice, but not freedom of responsibility.
I like it because it shows that people can make choices but those choices will have consequences which they have to take responsibility for.What is one advice you'd give to a teenager that he/she could use to life by?
Seek truth always.
Practice being loving to all.
Relish everything that is beautiful.
That is a all you need to know in life.What is one advice you'd give to a teenager that he/she could use to life by?
Do not underestimate or dismiss the importance of a good education.
have a good time.
Be useful. The more useful you are, the happier you'll be. Give this some thought before you discount it or thumbs down it. Profound things are found in simple places.
If someone is pushing you to do something in a hurry, wait it out. More than likely they're only interested in getting you to do something that will benefit them and them alone. If they complain: ';Don't you trust me?';, Don't. And don't feel guilty about it.
Be true to yourself, never change for anyone or become something your not and always follow your passions and dreams, never give up on them, always stay true to yourself and become what you want to be.
Develope good health habits so that you are not dragged
down by bad health. Work hard to make a good life for
you and who ever you are with. Do unto others as you want
others to do unto you.
life isnt about sex, drinkin, smoking, drugs, money, property, rumors or sin
it is about love, dedication to others/self, respect and hard work
Be self -confident and sincere and honest to your work or studies.
Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.
But on the other hand I liked the 'freedom of choice but not freedom of responsibility' one too.
The only problem is that teens will appeal to these short quips far more than listening to an insightful discussion about how to live life, enjoy it but be responsible all the while.
I guess you could try to engage them by relating the subject to something in their own life and how they affect everything around them either for the good or detriment of mankind or humankind for those who want to see some gender equality.
spelling is paramount.
reach for the moon, give it your all, stay true to your self.....
dont change to be like everyone else, otherwise the world will be a conform place.......
-i wish i could go back and be like this-
=)
always love and never hate and think before you act in life because what you do now will effect you for the rest of your life.
Always strive to improve yourself everyday to be the best person you can be...... all else falls into place....
Be careful doing things you can never undo.
Everything will be okay in the end.. if it's not okay, it's not the end.
Ignore negative people. Especially those close to you. Find your own golden ring and jump for it Just as high and as hard as you can
I like it because it shows that people can make choices but those choices will have consequences which they have to take responsibility for.What is one advice you'd give to a teenager that he/she could use to life by?
Seek truth always.
Practice being loving to all.
Relish everything that is beautiful.
That is a all you need to know in life.What is one advice you'd give to a teenager that he/she could use to life by?
Do not underestimate or dismiss the importance of a good education.
have a good time.
Be useful. The more useful you are, the happier you'll be. Give this some thought before you discount it or thumbs down it. Profound things are found in simple places.
If someone is pushing you to do something in a hurry, wait it out. More than likely they're only interested in getting you to do something that will benefit them and them alone. If they complain: ';Don't you trust me?';, Don't. And don't feel guilty about it.
Be true to yourself, never change for anyone or become something your not and always follow your passions and dreams, never give up on them, always stay true to yourself and become what you want to be.
Develope good health habits so that you are not dragged
down by bad health. Work hard to make a good life for
you and who ever you are with. Do unto others as you want
others to do unto you.
life isnt about sex, drinkin, smoking, drugs, money, property, rumors or sin
it is about love, dedication to others/self, respect and hard work
Be self -confident and sincere and honest to your work or studies.
Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.
But on the other hand I liked the 'freedom of choice but not freedom of responsibility' one too.
The only problem is that teens will appeal to these short quips far more than listening to an insightful discussion about how to live life, enjoy it but be responsible all the while.
I guess you could try to engage them by relating the subject to something in their own life and how they affect everything around them either for the good or detriment of mankind or humankind for those who want to see some gender equality.
spelling is paramount.
reach for the moon, give it your all, stay true to your self.....
dont change to be like everyone else, otherwise the world will be a conform place.......
-i wish i could go back and be like this-
=)
always love and never hate and think before you act in life because what you do now will effect you for the rest of your life.
Always strive to improve yourself everyday to be the best person you can be...... all else falls into place....
Be careful doing things you can never undo.
Everything will be okay in the end.. if it's not okay, it's not the end.
Ignore negative people. Especially those close to you. Find your own golden ring and jump for it Just as high and as hard as you can
I am experiencing this weird bruises...eversince when i was teenager and now im 28 this year..any advice?
I am experiencing this weird bruises...eversince when i was teenager and now im 28 this year..any advice?and they just usually come and go that's why i thought i can ignore it.I am experiencing this weird bruises...eversince when i was teenager and now im 28 this year..any advice?
I don't mean to scare you, but weird bruising that isn't caused by injury is a sign of leukemia...I am experiencing this weird bruises...eversince when i was teenager and now im 28 this year..any advice?
Easy bruising is also a sign of Anemia. I have that, as well as VonWillebrands Disease - so I bruise VERY easily. You have to have a specific blood test for the VonWillebrands - but the Doc can check your iron levels with a standard blood screen.
Good luck!
My daughter began bleeding when she teethed and i learned she had vonWillabrandts decease. In a minor form it causes bruising. Look it up it may answer many of you re health problems . please check it out it is also a cancer marker.
Certain medications (are you on a blood thinners)? ...most likely at your age you are not but important to ask. It can cause it and so can certain conditions or lack of certain vitamins. I'd get it checked out by the doctor.eye color
I don't mean to scare you, but weird bruising that isn't caused by injury is a sign of leukemia...I am experiencing this weird bruises...eversince when i was teenager and now im 28 this year..any advice?
Easy bruising is also a sign of Anemia. I have that, as well as VonWillebrands Disease - so I bruise VERY easily. You have to have a specific blood test for the VonWillebrands - but the Doc can check your iron levels with a standard blood screen.
Good luck!
My daughter began bleeding when she teethed and i learned she had vonWillabrandts decease. In a minor form it causes bruising. Look it up it may answer many of you re health problems . please check it out it is also a cancer marker.
Certain medications (are you on a blood thinners)? ...most likely at your age you are not but important to ask. It can cause it and so can certain conditions or lack of certain vitamins. I'd get it checked out by the doctor.
Need a little advice about parenting a teenager...?
My husband and I don't agree on what to do with our almost 17 year old son. He's a teen dad of a 4 month old but still very much acting like a kid. He also isn't doing well in high school and we are looking into alternatives. A big problem is that its causing strife between my husband and I. My husband wants to get him his GED and sign him into the military by the end of the summer (which you can do as long a they are 17). I'm trying to work with my son as much as I can and trying to keep peace with my husband. My son is constantly pushing and wants to act like a man when it suits his purpose and like a kid other times. It sounds crazy but I don't know what to do. Should I keep trying to work with my teen or side with my husband? Its tough and I'm really upset about the whole thing. Neither of them are thinking about me in the middle it seems like.Need a little advice about parenting a teenager...?
What a tough situation. 17 year old boys for the most part are not ready to be fathers. They are only just about ready to begin taking care of themselves, making more adult decisions. It is no surprise that he still wants/needs to act like a kid.
I have 3 boys ages 24, 21, and 15 with an 18 year old girl. None of them are completely out on their own yet. The 24 just returned from 5 years in the Navy. He needs to go to college now and work to support himself. It is a tough road no matter how you do it.
I just want to add my 2cents to Carmen's post. If he agrees military can be a good thing. The momma and baby may be lonely and need your help, but there will be an income to help them make it. On the other hand, carefully consider if the military is where this young man belongs.
1)Depending on the branch of the service, he really may be risking his life. 2)Lots of verbal abuse is heaped on our military recruits in an attempt to make them feel that the military is the only place that they will ever ';make it.'; This can be real emotional abuse. 3)Lots of drinking and drug problems start or get worse when young people join up. Our military is not as clean as idealists would have you believe.
Taking real responsibility for his child and his relationship seems to me to be the real goal. He must make this decision. He must be the one to decide his future. Insist that he do so. If not with you and his dad, then with a counselor or minister.
Impress on him the fact that, in essence, the decision to have sex 13+ months ago was his decision that he was an adult and he was ready to support a child and that child's mother. It is a decision that cannot be reversed. He must now live up to being the adult he is meant to be. He can be reminded that being grown up does not mean ';no fun';. It simply means fun times are tempered with lots of work and responsibility. It may have been an ignorance of the changes that would come, but it is still irreversible and he must do his best. You will support him as much as you can, but it must be his decision.Need a little advice about parenting a teenager...?
I am not a teen mother, but I don't agree with sending him in the military. He needs another lesson to try and teach him to be a better father. Truthfully, only time can do that. I would work with him until he graduates high school and then make it a point that its time for him to take care of himself and family. Good luck to your family!
It's time for your son to grow into a man, and your husband is the only one who can make him do that. So you need to back off and let him handle your son.
First you can not sign your son into the military without his consent. Even a GED will require his cooperation and consent. What does your son want? That is most important?
The person you need to side with is the 4 month old. Or the mother of said child if she's got her head screwed on straight. What's ';best'; for him doesn't matter anymore Grandma. He's lost that right. It's what's the best situation for his child now. If you have to beat that into him, then do, I'm sure that both the child and the mother of the child would thank you. When I was pregnant at 17 I was a senior, I had moved out to establish my own household before the baby was born, had a job, Daddy had a job, Daddy was attending college full-time, I was preparing for graduation and trying to get my stuff for college in the fall together, and was I managing as many aspects of all our lives as I could while being as big as a house and sick 24/7. Tell your son to be a man for once in his life and do what's right by his child. Too many guys get a walk when it comes to being a Dad that it's sickening to me. Anybody can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad.
Sometimes the only way teenagers learn is the hard way. I'de suggest tough love. Maybe not the miliary though.
Neither. Sit him down and give him an ultimatum. He is now a young man and should act like it. He can act like it at home, where he will earn his GED within a set period of time (set by you and your husband) or he can move out. If he goes with option a) make sure that once he has his GED he pays rent to you guys.
The military thing sounds extreme to me... the guy needs to grow up, but he doesn't need to go into the military to do so.
You need to start working together.
That doesn't necessarily mean that his idea 'wins'.
But you two need to sit down and agree on a strategy .
Agreeing means: really mean it. Not giving in to his point of view because you're tired of arguments and he's too stubborn.
If you can't fix it yourself, get some help. This is not relational or psycho-help.
A professional third party takes no sides and can help you negotiate.
You really need one strategy, not two.
he needs to grow up but he is so young. I certainly wouldn't sign my son up to go to Iraq
I think the military sounds like a good idea for your son. But you can't just throw him in there with out his consent. If your son wants to go into the military he could use his pay to help support his child, and it would also help him grow up because there are big punishments for not behaving in the army and he would learn to shape up pretty quickly I think.
with your husband. dont let the kid play you.
I think that the army may be a great opportunity for your son to grow up and learn what it really means to be a man. Right now, he is a child and there is no way that he will be a responsible and loving father to his new child. Maybe the army will give him a new perspective on life and it could make him a better father and son.
Dont let that teen play you!...
I'm siding with your husband on this one. And the only reason you're in the middle is becuase you have CHOSEN to put yourself there so stop blaming your husband and your son.
I am 34 now but had a child when Iwas 17 I did not gradutate high school but did get a GED.I wish I had gotten that High school diploma.My son is now 17 and asks me about my high school years and I still am embarassed to tell him I didnt graduate I probably never will. It was rough on my mom as well as my husbands parents but they stepped back and let us learn from our own mistakes.If you force your child into the military and god forbid something happens to him you will never forgive yourself. As long as the child is being taken care of maybe it is time to let him learn on his own but be ther to help when he fails.
Let me say first off that I'm sorry you're going threw this...I have a little 6 month old little boy and I'm not looking forward to this part of him growing up...I agree with the GED part but not of the military...but then again I don't like were any military is going right now :)...He needs to learn that he's responsible for a little one now and he's going to have to put that baby first...I would tell him after he gets his GED that he needs to start thinking about his future and how he's going to raise the baby...whether it be him finding a job, going to college or both...That child comes before all else...even his own wants
if he does that, he wont see his child while hes in miltary school. i think he has a first priority to be a father that child
i say keep working with him and he needs to accept the responsibility of being a father too
Uhh this is hard... I'm a kid but my brother sounds pretty much alike... he's not doing very well at all... It might be hard but joining the military might be very good for your son. My brother may be depressed, didn't go to college, and is in his low twenties and living with his parents. There is nothing we can do because he is an adult, so my parents can't make him get help. I know that I am just a kid, but if he is on the same track as my brother, military school might be a good choice. good luck, I hope this helps somewhat!
What a tough situation. 17 year old boys for the most part are not ready to be fathers. They are only just about ready to begin taking care of themselves, making more adult decisions. It is no surprise that he still wants/needs to act like a kid.
I have 3 boys ages 24, 21, and 15 with an 18 year old girl. None of them are completely out on their own yet. The 24 just returned from 5 years in the Navy. He needs to go to college now and work to support himself. It is a tough road no matter how you do it.
I just want to add my 2cents to Carmen's post. If he agrees military can be a good thing. The momma and baby may be lonely and need your help, but there will be an income to help them make it. On the other hand, carefully consider if the military is where this young man belongs.
1)Depending on the branch of the service, he really may be risking his life. 2)Lots of verbal abuse is heaped on our military recruits in an attempt to make them feel that the military is the only place that they will ever ';make it.'; This can be real emotional abuse. 3)Lots of drinking and drug problems start or get worse when young people join up. Our military is not as clean as idealists would have you believe.
Taking real responsibility for his child and his relationship seems to me to be the real goal. He must make this decision. He must be the one to decide his future. Insist that he do so. If not with you and his dad, then with a counselor or minister.
Impress on him the fact that, in essence, the decision to have sex 13+ months ago was his decision that he was an adult and he was ready to support a child and that child's mother. It is a decision that cannot be reversed. He must now live up to being the adult he is meant to be. He can be reminded that being grown up does not mean ';no fun';. It simply means fun times are tempered with lots of work and responsibility. It may have been an ignorance of the changes that would come, but it is still irreversible and he must do his best. You will support him as much as you can, but it must be his decision.Need a little advice about parenting a teenager...?
I am not a teen mother, but I don't agree with sending him in the military. He needs another lesson to try and teach him to be a better father. Truthfully, only time can do that. I would work with him until he graduates high school and then make it a point that its time for him to take care of himself and family. Good luck to your family!
It's time for your son to grow into a man, and your husband is the only one who can make him do that. So you need to back off and let him handle your son.
First you can not sign your son into the military without his consent. Even a GED will require his cooperation and consent. What does your son want? That is most important?
The person you need to side with is the 4 month old. Or the mother of said child if she's got her head screwed on straight. What's ';best'; for him doesn't matter anymore Grandma. He's lost that right. It's what's the best situation for his child now. If you have to beat that into him, then do, I'm sure that both the child and the mother of the child would thank you. When I was pregnant at 17 I was a senior, I had moved out to establish my own household before the baby was born, had a job, Daddy had a job, Daddy was attending college full-time, I was preparing for graduation and trying to get my stuff for college in the fall together, and was I managing as many aspects of all our lives as I could while being as big as a house and sick 24/7. Tell your son to be a man for once in his life and do what's right by his child. Too many guys get a walk when it comes to being a Dad that it's sickening to me. Anybody can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad.
Sometimes the only way teenagers learn is the hard way. I'de suggest tough love. Maybe not the miliary though.
Neither. Sit him down and give him an ultimatum. He is now a young man and should act like it. He can act like it at home, where he will earn his GED within a set period of time (set by you and your husband) or he can move out. If he goes with option a) make sure that once he has his GED he pays rent to you guys.
The military thing sounds extreme to me... the guy needs to grow up, but he doesn't need to go into the military to do so.
You need to start working together.
That doesn't necessarily mean that his idea 'wins'.
But you two need to sit down and agree on a strategy .
Agreeing means: really mean it. Not giving in to his point of view because you're tired of arguments and he's too stubborn.
If you can't fix it yourself, get some help. This is not relational or psycho-help.
A professional third party takes no sides and can help you negotiate.
You really need one strategy, not two.
he needs to grow up but he is so young. I certainly wouldn't sign my son up to go to Iraq
I think the military sounds like a good idea for your son. But you can't just throw him in there with out his consent. If your son wants to go into the military he could use his pay to help support his child, and it would also help him grow up because there are big punishments for not behaving in the army and he would learn to shape up pretty quickly I think.
with your husband. dont let the kid play you.
I think that the army may be a great opportunity for your son to grow up and learn what it really means to be a man. Right now, he is a child and there is no way that he will be a responsible and loving father to his new child. Maybe the army will give him a new perspective on life and it could make him a better father and son.
Dont let that teen play you!...
I'm siding with your husband on this one. And the only reason you're in the middle is becuase you have CHOSEN to put yourself there so stop blaming your husband and your son.
I am 34 now but had a child when Iwas 17 I did not gradutate high school but did get a GED.I wish I had gotten that High school diploma.My son is now 17 and asks me about my high school years and I still am embarassed to tell him I didnt graduate I probably never will. It was rough on my mom as well as my husbands parents but they stepped back and let us learn from our own mistakes.If you force your child into the military and god forbid something happens to him you will never forgive yourself. As long as the child is being taken care of maybe it is time to let him learn on his own but be ther to help when he fails.
Let me say first off that I'm sorry you're going threw this...I have a little 6 month old little boy and I'm not looking forward to this part of him growing up...I agree with the GED part but not of the military...but then again I don't like were any military is going right now :)...He needs to learn that he's responsible for a little one now and he's going to have to put that baby first...I would tell him after he gets his GED that he needs to start thinking about his future and how he's going to raise the baby...whether it be him finding a job, going to college or both...That child comes before all else...even his own wants
if he does that, he wont see his child while hes in miltary school. i think he has a first priority to be a father that child
i say keep working with him and he needs to accept the responsibility of being a father too
Uhh this is hard... I'm a kid but my brother sounds pretty much alike... he's not doing very well at all... It might be hard but joining the military might be very good for your son. My brother may be depressed, didn't go to college, and is in his low twenties and living with his parents. There is nothing we can do because he is an adult, so my parents can't make him get help. I know that I am just a kid, but if he is on the same track as my brother, military school might be a good choice. good luck, I hope this helps somewhat!
What should I do? Any advice? I'm a stressed, depressed teenager . . . .could you help?
-I鈥檓 14.
-Some of my teachers pressure me
-Started to learn German in a new class but the teacher who organised it for me only let me have 1 period a week to learn it.
-Now instead of a year of 3 periods per week I only get 1 period a week for about 3.5 months.
-The pressure to learn all of it is very stressful and I鈥檝e started to get really angry and I really try to calm down but sometimes I feel on the verge of tears for hours.
- I have four supposedly 鈥榖est鈥?friends but only one of them understands right now.
-They all have other plans on the weekend so I have nothing better to do and it gets me really depressed when they arrange things, then change the plans and don鈥檛 tell me.
-I just need some way of coping with stress, coping with lots of school work and some way of getting a better social life.
BTW
- My school does not offer any kind of counselling
-I鈥檓 quite shy so I have depended on my friends until now.
-Please Comment!What should I do? Any advice? I'm a stressed, depressed teenager . . . .could you help?
Living a life of a teenager is very stressful because it is a period of transition. Be strong. This is a part of life and you have to go through it. Do you know about that saying about the metamorphosis of a butterfly? The caterpillar needs to get outside the cocoon by itself so that it will become a butterfly and survive. You, my friend, may feel entangled because of all these pressures but keep in mind this thought:
';I don't know how but i know that i will get through this.';
I know you will. I have passed through that phase and i can say that those stressful, bitter and most desperate moments made me tougher. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that you will get through this. You are strong. Yes, you may want your 'four bestfriends' to go full force for you but maybe this is a time when you have to fight for yourself andf fight on your own. There are moments when you have to be strong for yourself and perhaps, this is now.
With regard to that academic concern of yours, i believe you have to consult your parents about it. I believe they can help you with sensible advices.
Be strong kid. I know you will make it.What should I do? Any advice? I'm a stressed, depressed teenager . . . .could you help?
if your parents or a relative can't be there, i'm glad you have at least one friend to talk with. if the school doesn't offer help, have you tried talking with the teacher who you do get along with. school is really tough on some kids just from the stress of no one to really talk with.
there must be some group for help with school work, normal stress and abnormal stress. keep looking, don't give up your search. help yourself, you will always have to take care of your life, you deserve the best you can do and be
Maybe try to find a tutor or friend that speaks German.
As for your friends , probably in less than 5 years you won`t have contact with any of them so don`t rely on them too much . Just do your best , and the rest will fall in place , good luck. Talk to your parent(s).
In order to fix these problems, you must face the music and confront whatever is bothering you issue by issue.
First of all, I recommend that you tell your parents about all of these issues because someone your age doesn't need to be going through all of this stress, it's way too early.
- I think you need to tell the teachers who pressure you exactly what they're doing and how it makes you feel. Listen to how they respond to your plea and if they don't respond appropriately, have your mom or dad come in one afternoon to talk to them.
- Have your parents know why you don't want to take German classes anymore - ask them to write you a note explaining how much stress you've been under, how you've had anger issues and emotional issues, too.
- Tell your parents of the plans and how they change without notifying you and how hard it really is - explain to your parents how you don't have time to be a kid or time to hang out with friends.
- Honey, you need an adult to talk to, so go to your parents first and see if they'll get you into some kind of psychologist's office for a little while. You need someone to talk this out with. Click on my pic if you want to chat or check out my source and join my group.
I've past my teen age years but I do understand your situation. I've learned that whatever happens to one's life is his own doing. It is a choice that he makes. Am quite sure that there are a lot of things you can do on a weekend, choose what interests you and pursue it. Live your own life. At this point in your life, school is one of the priorities you need to keep. Learn what you can while in school-your future depends on it. Make it your target that by the time you reach 21 years of age, you should graduate from school. That's just my personal opinion. you might find it too serious but do take time to think about it. But most important, enjoy life.
My god! You have almost perfectly described me. Last year, one of my friends had amatuerly diagnosed me with depression, and my teachers often have me stay after class and ask if I'm ok. School is an enormous pressure on my back. Last year I was bullied constantly, due to being overweight. This has contributed more stress, and hatred of school. I have to make honor roll every marking period, or I come home hearing about my older and little brother's grades. I'm in an AP class, and its dificult for me to continue on the way I have been. I often arrive home and start crying, because I can't handle it.
I have like, 2 real friends, but I don't tell either about my life, because I don't need their sympathy, and I don't want to mess up their lives with my stupid problems. Lately, I have given up Band7 as well as Orchestra, and it's kind of helping.
I also suggest that that you discuss with your mom what you've just revealed on yaho answers, and maybe she can help you solve the situation. Chances are, she went through it too!
ok, so here are my suggestions:
STart a diary/journal, pour your heart out
Talk with your mom
Talk with your teachers
Drop any extra classes like Band, or something else
YOGA!!
I also kinda have a weird question for you: Lately, I haven't been sleeping much, I have permanent bags under my eyes, and my face is white as a corpse. Is it the same for you, or other depressed ppl? I wear black tho, so may it be the contrast? I'm not goth, emo, or a cutter, so don't worry.
You don't mention your mum? Does she work outside of the home too? Not much time to talk? That sure does make it harder on you. You aren't alone in that situation these days, but you might have to push a little harder to express your needs. How do you two get along? Maybe she or your father would discuss it discuss it with the teacher.
German is hard for most people and you can only do your best - nothing more. How about using the weekend to get a Computer Program that helps with German - some of those language programs are fun.
Some of us don't eat enough food with certain vitamins that help us to be calm. Talk to your mum and to your doctor about things like iron and the B vitamins. The B's will help you to relax immediatly if your body is low. It could be your health.
You guys do have a lot of homework, and I am right with you one that one. Just do your best and do not be down on yourself. Get extra help from a tutor if you think it would suit you. (parents come in here) It is good that you care about your schoolwork - but if you are working your hardest, then there is nothing to more worry about.
Your best is very good.
It's a set up. Accidentally I'm sure. But if your serious about passing the Deutch class, then you'll have to take some action to overcome the lack of classroom time. I'm assuming you don't have an IQ of 180 and a photographic memory. Find somebody in class, your gender, who is serious, and start a study group. Re write each chapter in the book in your own handwriting, put the rewrite in the same notebook as your class room notes. Makes for a fast study prior to tests. If possible find an acceptable adult to teach you the fine points of speaking German, preferably a real German.
Crying all the time just hurts you. Once in a while fine, but if it's uncontrollable,then it's controlling you. Being shy is OK, a form of caution, it will leave when it's ready. Take a little public speaking. As far as friends are concerned, you don't really have any. Just acquaintances. They're not loyal to you, don't be loyal to them. Be polite, refuse to get closer. Pass the damn class though. Good luck.
I was a teenager once-get your own German course and someday suprise your teacher.
don't worry darlin, its all part of being a teen---if you think your depression is REALLY out of control, then see your family Dr, sometimes just alittle reassurance from an older person, can help ya realize you are not ALONE, maybe there is a friends mom, you trust, you could talk to her, without the friend knowing, well if none of that works, I'll be happy to talk to ya anytime you want, i was a teen once, and went through everything you are, guess what? i made, you will too!!!!
well to tell you the truth it is strange but i used to be the same kind of person and i think i can help u on this better or at least i can try.
first- don't run after people, let them come after you. if they don't share anything don't push them to or show them that you're interested. there's something called self respect, don't lose your's by stressing fo rthose who don't care for you.
try something different like for some days may be forget about ';my friends don't share with me';and do something useful getting to know more people etc.
as for your studies try to take help from the net or talk to this teacher of your's about how you are unable to cope with the things and needsome extra sessions. it always helps
one more thing, you don't need counselling, only try not to whine about little things, it is not a very likeable habit. perhaps that's the reason your friends are moving away....
german is a hard language to learn. if you live in the united states spanish would have been a better choice . keep @ the german though you will be pleased when your done
Your biggest problem is being 14 - the rest is just aggrevating it. First try to ease you way into another group of friends. Your friends are not treating you well find some new ones. There are probably lots of shy kids that are on the fringe. Most of them are great people who haven't quite blossomed yet and would make a great friend. Talk calmly to your teacher abut her expectations for the German gig and let her know that it is over whelming you and you need to get things adjusted. Just be calm dealing with things and the outcome will be better.
-Some of my teachers pressure me
-Started to learn German in a new class but the teacher who organised it for me only let me have 1 period a week to learn it.
-Now instead of a year of 3 periods per week I only get 1 period a week for about 3.5 months.
-The pressure to learn all of it is very stressful and I鈥檝e started to get really angry and I really try to calm down but sometimes I feel on the verge of tears for hours.
- I have four supposedly 鈥榖est鈥?friends but only one of them understands right now.
-They all have other plans on the weekend so I have nothing better to do and it gets me really depressed when they arrange things, then change the plans and don鈥檛 tell me.
-I just need some way of coping with stress, coping with lots of school work and some way of getting a better social life.
BTW
- My school does not offer any kind of counselling
-I鈥檓 quite shy so I have depended on my friends until now.
-Please Comment!What should I do? Any advice? I'm a stressed, depressed teenager . . . .could you help?
Living a life of a teenager is very stressful because it is a period of transition. Be strong. This is a part of life and you have to go through it. Do you know about that saying about the metamorphosis of a butterfly? The caterpillar needs to get outside the cocoon by itself so that it will become a butterfly and survive. You, my friend, may feel entangled because of all these pressures but keep in mind this thought:
';I don't know how but i know that i will get through this.';
I know you will. I have passed through that phase and i can say that those stressful, bitter and most desperate moments made me tougher. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that you will get through this. You are strong. Yes, you may want your 'four bestfriends' to go full force for you but maybe this is a time when you have to fight for yourself andf fight on your own. There are moments when you have to be strong for yourself and perhaps, this is now.
With regard to that academic concern of yours, i believe you have to consult your parents about it. I believe they can help you with sensible advices.
Be strong kid. I know you will make it.What should I do? Any advice? I'm a stressed, depressed teenager . . . .could you help?
if your parents or a relative can't be there, i'm glad you have at least one friend to talk with. if the school doesn't offer help, have you tried talking with the teacher who you do get along with. school is really tough on some kids just from the stress of no one to really talk with.
there must be some group for help with school work, normal stress and abnormal stress. keep looking, don't give up your search. help yourself, you will always have to take care of your life, you deserve the best you can do and be
Maybe try to find a tutor or friend that speaks German.
As for your friends , probably in less than 5 years you won`t have contact with any of them so don`t rely on them too much . Just do your best , and the rest will fall in place , good luck. Talk to your parent(s).
In order to fix these problems, you must face the music and confront whatever is bothering you issue by issue.
First of all, I recommend that you tell your parents about all of these issues because someone your age doesn't need to be going through all of this stress, it's way too early.
- I think you need to tell the teachers who pressure you exactly what they're doing and how it makes you feel. Listen to how they respond to your plea and if they don't respond appropriately, have your mom or dad come in one afternoon to talk to them.
- Have your parents know why you don't want to take German classes anymore - ask them to write you a note explaining how much stress you've been under, how you've had anger issues and emotional issues, too.
- Tell your parents of the plans and how they change without notifying you and how hard it really is - explain to your parents how you don't have time to be a kid or time to hang out with friends.
- Honey, you need an adult to talk to, so go to your parents first and see if they'll get you into some kind of psychologist's office for a little while. You need someone to talk this out with. Click on my pic if you want to chat or check out my source and join my group.
I've past my teen age years but I do understand your situation. I've learned that whatever happens to one's life is his own doing. It is a choice that he makes. Am quite sure that there are a lot of things you can do on a weekend, choose what interests you and pursue it. Live your own life. At this point in your life, school is one of the priorities you need to keep. Learn what you can while in school-your future depends on it. Make it your target that by the time you reach 21 years of age, you should graduate from school. That's just my personal opinion. you might find it too serious but do take time to think about it. But most important, enjoy life.
My god! You have almost perfectly described me. Last year, one of my friends had amatuerly diagnosed me with depression, and my teachers often have me stay after class and ask if I'm ok. School is an enormous pressure on my back. Last year I was bullied constantly, due to being overweight. This has contributed more stress, and hatred of school. I have to make honor roll every marking period, or I come home hearing about my older and little brother's grades. I'm in an AP class, and its dificult for me to continue on the way I have been. I often arrive home and start crying, because I can't handle it.
I have like, 2 real friends, but I don't tell either about my life, because I don't need their sympathy, and I don't want to mess up their lives with my stupid problems. Lately, I have given up Band7 as well as Orchestra, and it's kind of helping.
I also suggest that that you discuss with your mom what you've just revealed on yaho answers, and maybe she can help you solve the situation. Chances are, she went through it too!
ok, so here are my suggestions:
STart a diary/journal, pour your heart out
Talk with your mom
Talk with your teachers
Drop any extra classes like Band, or something else
YOGA!!
I also kinda have a weird question for you: Lately, I haven't been sleeping much, I have permanent bags under my eyes, and my face is white as a corpse. Is it the same for you, or other depressed ppl? I wear black tho, so may it be the contrast? I'm not goth, emo, or a cutter, so don't worry.
You don't mention your mum? Does she work outside of the home too? Not much time to talk? That sure does make it harder on you. You aren't alone in that situation these days, but you might have to push a little harder to express your needs. How do you two get along? Maybe she or your father would discuss it discuss it with the teacher.
German is hard for most people and you can only do your best - nothing more. How about using the weekend to get a Computer Program that helps with German - some of those language programs are fun.
Some of us don't eat enough food with certain vitamins that help us to be calm. Talk to your mum and to your doctor about things like iron and the B vitamins. The B's will help you to relax immediatly if your body is low. It could be your health.
You guys do have a lot of homework, and I am right with you one that one. Just do your best and do not be down on yourself. Get extra help from a tutor if you think it would suit you. (parents come in here) It is good that you care about your schoolwork - but if you are working your hardest, then there is nothing to more worry about.
Your best is very good.
It's a set up. Accidentally I'm sure. But if your serious about passing the Deutch class, then you'll have to take some action to overcome the lack of classroom time. I'm assuming you don't have an IQ of 180 and a photographic memory. Find somebody in class, your gender, who is serious, and start a study group. Re write each chapter in the book in your own handwriting, put the rewrite in the same notebook as your class room notes. Makes for a fast study prior to tests. If possible find an acceptable adult to teach you the fine points of speaking German, preferably a real German.
Crying all the time just hurts you. Once in a while fine, but if it's uncontrollable,then it's controlling you. Being shy is OK, a form of caution, it will leave when it's ready. Take a little public speaking. As far as friends are concerned, you don't really have any. Just acquaintances. They're not loyal to you, don't be loyal to them. Be polite, refuse to get closer. Pass the damn class though. Good luck.
I was a teenager once-get your own German course and someday suprise your teacher.
don't worry darlin, its all part of being a teen---if you think your depression is REALLY out of control, then see your family Dr, sometimes just alittle reassurance from an older person, can help ya realize you are not ALONE, maybe there is a friends mom, you trust, you could talk to her, without the friend knowing, well if none of that works, I'll be happy to talk to ya anytime you want, i was a teen once, and went through everything you are, guess what? i made, you will too!!!!
well to tell you the truth it is strange but i used to be the same kind of person and i think i can help u on this better or at least i can try.
first- don't run after people, let them come after you. if they don't share anything don't push them to or show them that you're interested. there's something called self respect, don't lose your's by stressing fo rthose who don't care for you.
try something different like for some days may be forget about ';my friends don't share with me';and do something useful getting to know more people etc.
as for your studies try to take help from the net or talk to this teacher of your's about how you are unable to cope with the things and needsome extra sessions. it always helps
one more thing, you don't need counselling, only try not to whine about little things, it is not a very likeable habit. perhaps that's the reason your friends are moving away....
german is a hard language to learn. if you live in the united states spanish would have been a better choice . keep @ the german though you will be pleased when your done
Your biggest problem is being 14 - the rest is just aggrevating it. First try to ease you way into another group of friends. Your friends are not treating you well find some new ones. There are probably lots of shy kids that are on the fringe. Most of them are great people who haven't quite blossomed yet and would make a great friend. Talk calmly to your teacher abut her expectations for the German gig and let her know that it is over whelming you and you need to get things adjusted. Just be calm dealing with things and the outcome will be better.
My Family Life is Just a Crisis. Please Help Me. . I'm a Teenager DESPERATE for advice and help.?
Well. . . okay. here's the story.
I'm 15 and I understand if my parents don't trust me because I'm in Highschool and everything. But I only did ONE thing to make them completely not trust me. But ever since then, they won't let me do anything, or go anywhere. Plus it's summer so I'm basically with them ALL the time. I'm never gone. Usually I would yell at them all the time. But lately it's like I've givin up. Plus all of this, is making me just give up on soccer. I LOVE soccer, and today I just didn't show it in the game. So I'm REALLY depressed, and it really just seems like I've givin up on my life. What do I do. . My mom used to be my BEST FRIEND, now even if I ask to go out to ice cream with friends, she says no. I have developed migranes all these past 2 months. But I don't tell them. I cannot stand living here anymore, what do I do?
Please answer, I'm desperate for some answers.
Thank You
P.S they wont let me stay at a friends house or anything so please don't suggest itMy Family Life is Just a Crisis. Please Help Me. . I'm a Teenager DESPERATE for advice and help.?
talk to your momMy Family Life is Just a Crisis. Please Help Me. . I'm a Teenager DESPERATE for advice and help.?
I wish I had better news for you that would magically solve your problem, but you can't choose your family. In a few years you'll be on your own and you won't have to deal with them as much. Until then, try to gain their trust back. Eventually, they'll forget about what happened and let you be more independent again. If you're suffering from depression and migraines, I would definitely tell them. You might need to see a therapist and who knows, maybe the therapist will convince your parents to loosen their grip a little, especially if they're being unreasonable. Good luck and hang in there!
That sucks...I think your parents overreacted. I mean, I'd expect them to ground you for life if you snuck out of your room and stayed the night at a boy's house without anyone else around, but just because you went out for ice cream?
There's not a lot you can do. A lot of people tell you to do chores and stuff to get them to trust you, but in my experience, they just take it for granted that you're doing the chores. Your migraines are probably from the stress...I suggest you talk to your mom about it. I'm sure you have, but keep your voice low and calm and ask her how keeping you in the house is going to accomplish anything. Seriously, grounding you for a week, maybe, but for so long?
I can't help you with depression...I suggest you grow something. Taking care of something living usually works for me.
My only suggestion would be to sit down and tell you parents what you told ';us'; i mean i have a son and i wouldnt go over the edge over one friend canceling and him being with just one. As long as i was ok with them hanging out with that one.
Could it be that your parents dont like this Jon person? Or did you go out other then ice cream like you told them.
There is so many issues there and all parents expect different things.
But if you went to the ice cream place and the one friend didnt show and it was just you and the other and then home it wouldnt be a big deal.
UNLESS you told your parents the one was going which is why they let you go and with her calling and not being there yeah that looks like a lie but it may take you sitting down and telling them and even if they have to confirm it with the friend that yeah she was gonna be there but didnt.
As for the migraines it sounds like stress and the depression. I would talk to your parents and if your relationship was that good with your mom then i would go to her.
15 is a delicate age because you're finally becoming more independent. Since you and your mom used to be best friends you guys have this special bond, which your mom might feel has been altered by your newfound independence, like things aren't the same, and she might be having a hard time letting go. You need to remember that she is still your mom, and she wants the best for you, but at the same time adults still have an ego, especially when it comes to someone your age, where they won't ever admit that they're wrong even if they are. You have to be the bigger person and open up and apologize, this will get your mom's sympathy, and then you should actually listen to what she's gonna tell you.
You should also find a way to relieve stress, it's hard to do it during games, so maybe juggle the ball around, listen to some NON emotional music, some HAPPY songs, and SLEEP, because things are always better in the morning.
well what u can do is gain thier trust bak...what ever u do dont yell at them or diagree thats the worst u can do..when they explain something to u try to view it on thier point of view...so try to make them understand by saying ';mom i can understand that ur really worried about me ..but i am mature and can do the right thing..but i still need ur help though so if i made u worry am sorry and it wont happen again';...ur mom might c that u have learned a lesson..hope that helps..Depression is a common thing...do something that can calm u down when ever ur down..like find ur favorite spot,sit and think,right a jornal,listen to a song, anything that keeps ur mind of ur problems...good luck
tell your mom exactly what you did with your friend,parents that wont listen to their kids probably did something thay regret and don`t want their kids to do the same.in time it will all be forgoten,hang in thair you have a lot of life to live.dont let it get you down
Here's the deal. You did mess up because when you are young and trying to earn your parents trust, even the smallest details need to be communicated to them. I believe you that it was a last minute cancel, but that doesn't make it right for you not to tell your parents BEFORE going. Depression is a common thing for teens to deal with - especially girls and I think a lot of the feelings you are having is hormones mixed with being grounded. It will pass and get better but you will have to begin re-building your parents trust. I can see why your parents are keeping you home, and although it may seem unfair since its summer - they just need to see something from you that will show them you are trustworthy. Try talking to your Mom and tell her that you are depressed, and that you are sorry that you messed up - even though it was unintentional. Ask her what kinds of things you can do to earn her trust back. She may be willing to allow you to earn privelages back by doing extra chores or other things to prove you know you messed up and want to fix it. Patience will also help, this is on you so only you can fix the problems. Communication is key, and remember just because your mom is trying to teach you responsibility doesn't change her love for you or her being your friend.
I'm 15 and I understand if my parents don't trust me because I'm in Highschool and everything. But I only did ONE thing to make them completely not trust me. But ever since then, they won't let me do anything, or go anywhere. Plus it's summer so I'm basically with them ALL the time. I'm never gone. Usually I would yell at them all the time. But lately it's like I've givin up. Plus all of this, is making me just give up on soccer. I LOVE soccer, and today I just didn't show it in the game. So I'm REALLY depressed, and it really just seems like I've givin up on my life. What do I do. . My mom used to be my BEST FRIEND, now even if I ask to go out to ice cream with friends, she says no. I have developed migranes all these past 2 months. But I don't tell them. I cannot stand living here anymore, what do I do?
Please answer, I'm desperate for some answers.
Thank You
P.S they wont let me stay at a friends house or anything so please don't suggest itMy Family Life is Just a Crisis. Please Help Me. . I'm a Teenager DESPERATE for advice and help.?
talk to your momMy Family Life is Just a Crisis. Please Help Me. . I'm a Teenager DESPERATE for advice and help.?
I wish I had better news for you that would magically solve your problem, but you can't choose your family. In a few years you'll be on your own and you won't have to deal with them as much. Until then, try to gain their trust back. Eventually, they'll forget about what happened and let you be more independent again. If you're suffering from depression and migraines, I would definitely tell them. You might need to see a therapist and who knows, maybe the therapist will convince your parents to loosen their grip a little, especially if they're being unreasonable. Good luck and hang in there!
That sucks...I think your parents overreacted. I mean, I'd expect them to ground you for life if you snuck out of your room and stayed the night at a boy's house without anyone else around, but just because you went out for ice cream?
There's not a lot you can do. A lot of people tell you to do chores and stuff to get them to trust you, but in my experience, they just take it for granted that you're doing the chores. Your migraines are probably from the stress...I suggest you talk to your mom about it. I'm sure you have, but keep your voice low and calm and ask her how keeping you in the house is going to accomplish anything. Seriously, grounding you for a week, maybe, but for so long?
I can't help you with depression...I suggest you grow something. Taking care of something living usually works for me.
My only suggestion would be to sit down and tell you parents what you told ';us'; i mean i have a son and i wouldnt go over the edge over one friend canceling and him being with just one. As long as i was ok with them hanging out with that one.
Could it be that your parents dont like this Jon person? Or did you go out other then ice cream like you told them.
There is so many issues there and all parents expect different things.
But if you went to the ice cream place and the one friend didnt show and it was just you and the other and then home it wouldnt be a big deal.
UNLESS you told your parents the one was going which is why they let you go and with her calling and not being there yeah that looks like a lie but it may take you sitting down and telling them and even if they have to confirm it with the friend that yeah she was gonna be there but didnt.
As for the migraines it sounds like stress and the depression. I would talk to your parents and if your relationship was that good with your mom then i would go to her.
15 is a delicate age because you're finally becoming more independent. Since you and your mom used to be best friends you guys have this special bond, which your mom might feel has been altered by your newfound independence, like things aren't the same, and she might be having a hard time letting go. You need to remember that she is still your mom, and she wants the best for you, but at the same time adults still have an ego, especially when it comes to someone your age, where they won't ever admit that they're wrong even if they are. You have to be the bigger person and open up and apologize, this will get your mom's sympathy, and then you should actually listen to what she's gonna tell you.
You should also find a way to relieve stress, it's hard to do it during games, so maybe juggle the ball around, listen to some NON emotional music, some HAPPY songs, and SLEEP, because things are always better in the morning.
well what u can do is gain thier trust bak...what ever u do dont yell at them or diagree thats the worst u can do..when they explain something to u try to view it on thier point of view...so try to make them understand by saying ';mom i can understand that ur really worried about me ..but i am mature and can do the right thing..but i still need ur help though so if i made u worry am sorry and it wont happen again';...ur mom might c that u have learned a lesson..hope that helps..Depression is a common thing...do something that can calm u down when ever ur down..like find ur favorite spot,sit and think,right a jornal,listen to a song, anything that keeps ur mind of ur problems...good luck
tell your mom exactly what you did with your friend,parents that wont listen to their kids probably did something thay regret and don`t want their kids to do the same.in time it will all be forgoten,hang in thair you have a lot of life to live.dont let it get you down
Here's the deal. You did mess up because when you are young and trying to earn your parents trust, even the smallest details need to be communicated to them. I believe you that it was a last minute cancel, but that doesn't make it right for you not to tell your parents BEFORE going. Depression is a common thing for teens to deal with - especially girls and I think a lot of the feelings you are having is hormones mixed with being grounded. It will pass and get better but you will have to begin re-building your parents trust. I can see why your parents are keeping you home, and although it may seem unfair since its summer - they just need to see something from you that will show them you are trustworthy. Try talking to your Mom and tell her that you are depressed, and that you are sorry that you messed up - even though it was unintentional. Ask her what kinds of things you can do to earn her trust back. She may be willing to allow you to earn privelages back by doing extra chores or other things to prove you know you messed up and want to fix it. Patience will also help, this is on you so only you can fix the problems. Communication is key, and remember just because your mom is trying to teach you responsibility doesn't change her love for you or her being your friend.
Can anyone give a frustrated teenager some career advice? PLEASE!!?
***Disclaimer! This rant is kind of long so please bare with me if you can!
I am eighteen years old and I am also an unpublished writer desperately searching for a literary agent. But that's not my only problem. You see, my mother seems to think that I'm wasting my time trying to become a writer. She thinks that it's pretty pointless pursuing something that may or may not ever come true. She's constantly telling me that I should set my sights on something more certain. She wants me to pursue a job in the medical field for more money. While I understand where she's coming from, I just don't think that route is for me. I know how important education is but school has never been one of my stronger points. (I failed all through high school and I'm not looking to go through it again with college) I know that I may not ever reach my publishing dreams. That reality is slowly starting to sink in for me and right now, failing is my biggest fear. At the same time, there's something in me that won't let me give up on my dreams. I love my mom more than anyone else and I really, really value her opinion but I'm confused about what's really right for me. Little by little, I'm starting to believe that maybe my dreams are simply too unattainable and that I should just give up and go after a ';real job.'; ( I haven't had any luck getting an agent or a publisher in five years) I want to be a writer and I know that I'm a great writer and every agent I've queried say that that they think I'm a great writer too so why won't anyone give me a chance to prove myself? What am I doing wrong? What do I need to do to get past this slump? Should I continue to hunt after my impossible dream despite the embarrassing unsuccess or should I just follow my mother's advice and settle down with a job I know I'll regret doing in the future?
***This question is pretty much for people in the publishing business.***Can anyone give a frustrated teenager some career advice? PLEASE!!?
Salem_Monroe, I found a list of job search resources that can help. http://www.workemploymentservices.com
Good Luck!Can anyone give a frustrated teenager some career advice? PLEASE!!?
If you are a writer I think you should not set your sight only searching for a literary agent or a publisher this route takes time. Since you like writing you can start honing your talent as a copy writer in an advertising agency. Copy writers in an advertising agency can make tons of money. You can also work for a Public relations agency and you write about public relations programs of companies. You can also start writing articles for magazines you will be some kind of a contributor or an opinion writer for a magazine. I think you will do well writing about teen relationships, teen fashion and other interesting subject about teens. Children's magazine are also good venues for your writing talent. Do not limit yourself as a writer for books. Apply as a writer in your local paper or local magazine. You can work at home and you will be paid by the piece you submit. Opportunities for writers are limitless. Write a copy for a few products and send it to an advertising agency. Start making your writers portfolio and you are on your way. Good Luck
My brother is a successful writer, but he went to college for journalism and communications. As far as doing what your mom wants you to do, you need to do what you want to be happy. Having a career that you hate will make you miserable. You will most likely need to go to college for a career in the medical field, so you might as well go to college for something that you enjoy, which in your case is writing. If you are in classes that you enjoy and know you need them to reach your goals and dreams, chances are you will not fail because you will have the mindset to do well.
I dont think you should give up on your dream, but the real world has hit you in the face and part of that reality is having to make a living. So what you have to do is do both.....If you don't want to go to college, it's important that you seek out some gainful employment that can give you the money you need to support yourself.....and spend your time off pursuing your goal......No one said it will be easy, but it is a fact of life.
As a mom of adult kids, I feel the same way. I want them to do what makes them happy, because there's nothing worse than getting stuck in a job you hate....But then the practical side of me says it's time to grow up, as parents can't support them forever. My son is going to school, and my daughter quit and is working at a job....the whole idea is to get past the job and have a career......more lucrative and satifying.
This is the advice I can give trying to understand where you're coming from. Keep writing, plugging yourself, and maybe it can happen. I just know it doesn't always happen to all that deserve it.....I have a musician friend, better than so many who've made it, and he never did have the right connections. Unfortunatly as the saying goes....it's not always what you know but who you know......But in the meantime, try to find something else that you are interested in that you can make a living at.
Just a bad reality of life.
I am eighteen years old and I am also an unpublished writer desperately searching for a literary agent. But that's not my only problem. You see, my mother seems to think that I'm wasting my time trying to become a writer. She thinks that it's pretty pointless pursuing something that may or may not ever come true. She's constantly telling me that I should set my sights on something more certain. She wants me to pursue a job in the medical field for more money. While I understand where she's coming from, I just don't think that route is for me. I know how important education is but school has never been one of my stronger points. (I failed all through high school and I'm not looking to go through it again with college) I know that I may not ever reach my publishing dreams. That reality is slowly starting to sink in for me and right now, failing is my biggest fear. At the same time, there's something in me that won't let me give up on my dreams. I love my mom more than anyone else and I really, really value her opinion but I'm confused about what's really right for me. Little by little, I'm starting to believe that maybe my dreams are simply too unattainable and that I should just give up and go after a ';real job.'; ( I haven't had any luck getting an agent or a publisher in five years) I want to be a writer and I know that I'm a great writer and every agent I've queried say that that they think I'm a great writer too so why won't anyone give me a chance to prove myself? What am I doing wrong? What do I need to do to get past this slump? Should I continue to hunt after my impossible dream despite the embarrassing unsuccess or should I just follow my mother's advice and settle down with a job I know I'll regret doing in the future?
***This question is pretty much for people in the publishing business.***Can anyone give a frustrated teenager some career advice? PLEASE!!?
Salem_Monroe, I found a list of job search resources that can help. http://www.workemploymentservices.com
Good Luck!Can anyone give a frustrated teenager some career advice? PLEASE!!?
If you are a writer I think you should not set your sight only searching for a literary agent or a publisher this route takes time. Since you like writing you can start honing your talent as a copy writer in an advertising agency. Copy writers in an advertising agency can make tons of money. You can also work for a Public relations agency and you write about public relations programs of companies. You can also start writing articles for magazines you will be some kind of a contributor or an opinion writer for a magazine. I think you will do well writing about teen relationships, teen fashion and other interesting subject about teens. Children's magazine are also good venues for your writing talent. Do not limit yourself as a writer for books. Apply as a writer in your local paper or local magazine. You can work at home and you will be paid by the piece you submit. Opportunities for writers are limitless. Write a copy for a few products and send it to an advertising agency. Start making your writers portfolio and you are on your way. Good Luck
My brother is a successful writer, but he went to college for journalism and communications. As far as doing what your mom wants you to do, you need to do what you want to be happy. Having a career that you hate will make you miserable. You will most likely need to go to college for a career in the medical field, so you might as well go to college for something that you enjoy, which in your case is writing. If you are in classes that you enjoy and know you need them to reach your goals and dreams, chances are you will not fail because you will have the mindset to do well.
I dont think you should give up on your dream, but the real world has hit you in the face and part of that reality is having to make a living. So what you have to do is do both.....If you don't want to go to college, it's important that you seek out some gainful employment that can give you the money you need to support yourself.....and spend your time off pursuing your goal......No one said it will be easy, but it is a fact of life.
As a mom of adult kids, I feel the same way. I want them to do what makes them happy, because there's nothing worse than getting stuck in a job you hate....But then the practical side of me says it's time to grow up, as parents can't support them forever. My son is going to school, and my daughter quit and is working at a job....the whole idea is to get past the job and have a career......more lucrative and satifying.
This is the advice I can give trying to understand where you're coming from. Keep writing, plugging yourself, and maybe it can happen. I just know it doesn't always happen to all that deserve it.....I have a musician friend, better than so many who've made it, and he never did have the right connections. Unfortunatly as the saying goes....it's not always what you know but who you know......But in the meantime, try to find something else that you are interested in that you can make a living at.
Just a bad reality of life.
Best advice you can give a teenager?
Matthew 11:28-30
(28) Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
(29) Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
(30) For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.Best advice you can give a teenager?
Always remember you came into this world alone and everything you do in life will be like that till you die; alone. Don't count on other people to do what you wanna do in any situation such as jobs, sex, your future (etc) you decide your life because you only have one life , one body so make the most of it!Best advice you can give a teenager?
Teenage years are all drama.. don't take everything seriously..
A phase you'll laugh about.. well it's the best.. so live it and enjoy it to the max.
I say you can't give any really good advice, because they wont listen. hahaa. :p
don't have sex at a young age, it will screw with your mind and may cause you to get an std or pregnant.
Don't get knocked up and ruin your life!
Always be grumpy: never wash, and stay in bed all day.
make the most of your time studying
(28) Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
(29) Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
(30) For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.Best advice you can give a teenager?
Always remember you came into this world alone and everything you do in life will be like that till you die; alone. Don't count on other people to do what you wanna do in any situation such as jobs, sex, your future (etc) you decide your life because you only have one life , one body so make the most of it!Best advice you can give a teenager?
Teenage years are all drama.. don't take everything seriously..
A phase you'll laugh about.. well it's the best.. so live it and enjoy it to the max.
I say you can't give any really good advice, because they wont listen. hahaa. :p
don't have sex at a young age, it will screw with your mind and may cause you to get an std or pregnant.
Don't get knocked up and ruin your life!
Always be grumpy: never wash, and stay in bed all day.
make the most of your time studying
Just another teenager needing boy advice?
i was friends with this boy that lived not to far from me, but a different town and i knew he had a girlfriend, he used to talk about her but i'd never met her. then things started to get more like a relationship and i really liked him, id talk to him all the time, stay up until stupid hours and talking to him online and if i couldn't be with him i'd be texting him. i used to get upset sometimes because saturdays where days he spent with his girlfriend and would get annoyed at myself cause id hate to be with someone and know they had someone else, so i tried to chill things down. but then he stopped talking about her all together and just concentrated on me all the time and i soon just forgot all together that he even had a girlfriend. all his friends know about me and talk to me quite happily and there is no problem but im always feeling bad about his girlfriend. the thing is i know im still young but i really do think i love him. just these last couple of months anything i do he gets super jealous and controlling and tries to make me feel bad about things when i know i haven't done anything wrong, we keep falling out over silly things and it really makes me feel sick to think about him when we're not talking coz i miss him too much. i spent last weekend with him and everything was great, then on the monday he was all weird with me, and now he's ignoring me all together and his friends don't know why, except i met one of his friends the other day and he was drunk and was talking aload of **** like 'you better not talk to me or lewis will get jealous ;)' then started talking about how lewis has been saying stuff to them about how i 'well want him and am i mess without him' and whatever else the bum was saying :L but i know he's gonna come back and sweet talk me and im gonna forgive him again and i really don't want to because it always happens, but i can help it. and for some reason he thinks im the one 'playing games' im like yeah bud, but im single, your the one with the girlfriend. ive always been lovely to him and done everything to be great to him. PLEASE HELP i think my friends are getting sick of me talking about himJust another teenager needing boy advice?
Well, I dont' know how old u r or him 4 the matter but sounds like this is the start of a bad relationship. Honestly u need 2 leave him alone. He's immature an obviously doesn't respect u or the relationship ya'll had.Just another teenager needing boy advice?
I'm not even your friend and I;m sick of hearing about him. He treats you like crap and you want every one to tell you to put up with it? Dump the loser.eye color
Well, I dont' know how old u r or him 4 the matter but sounds like this is the start of a bad relationship. Honestly u need 2 leave him alone. He's immature an obviously doesn't respect u or the relationship ya'll had.Just another teenager needing boy advice?
I'm not even your friend and I;m sick of hearing about him. He treats you like crap and you want every one to tell you to put up with it? Dump the loser.
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