She seems to be infatuated with the guy that was driving even though he has a rap sheet longer than his arm, and earlier this year tried to knock her out with over the counter drugs to do who knows what to her. He was bailed out on charges ranging from DUI and possession to contributing to the delinquency of a minor. What she sees in him, I'll never know.
Our mom has tried coddling and our step dad has tried threats and punishment, neither of which has worked with very much success. We brought her out of state to separate the two but they still contact each other by phone or internet and I'm at a loss for what to do.
She just refuses to recognize the fact the him and his friends are all bad news and defiantly wishes to get back to him.
Help!How do you help a teenager who refuses to listen to advice?
Sounds like time for some tough love. Two words: responsibility and accountability. She's old enough to drive, she's old enough to go to jail.
Here are the issues:
- Mom won't say NO.
- Stepdad will be ignored.
Here's the short of it: Mom must learn to say NO and withold whatever she has power to remove. Money and transportation would be the first to go. Sister does not get access to a car and only gets enough money for specified meals away from home. All other purchases are supervised by an adult. Say nothing more about the guy she keeps contacting but don't make it easy for her to do.
If she wants to move out on her own and is old enough to do so, help her pack.
Put a wiretap on your own phone so that you will know what she's up to.How do you help a teenager who refuses to listen to advice?
Our situation is not the same but a bit similar. Our 20 year old is dating a 16 year old insane ***** she controls him and he spends all his money on her. He does not live at home he goes to College in Tulsa, OK she keep instant messaging everyone in the family and texting using our son's phone help
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scare her straight and make her face the real world without your help. if you want her to learn then she has to learn from her own mistakes
yeah sounds pretty bad
but you probably have to set him up to look like a HUGE asshole like way more than he actually is (which is completely unethical)
or move across the country or something so they can in no way keep a normal relationship
That's too bad, she's being lead in to wrong direction and she needs to get a hold before she ends up in the morgue. I would say she may have to learn the hard way but that wouldn't be wise because she's already headed for a point of no return. So what ur parents need to do is get her into counseling, U as her brother( and u seem toreally care about her) need to take a hard stand and setup appts to take her to counseling even if that means u have to go to a judge who will set it up where she may have to go to boot camp.
She will get mad at u she will even say she hate u but thats because she has anger in her, but in the end once she realize what she's headed for and u may have sfed her she will be grateful for u for doing this.
Boot Camp will not put up with her crap.
I hope u and Ur family will get a a tight hold on her b 4 it's too late.
God Bless
sometimes it just takes a dad and 2 of his good buddys to mess him up bad enough to keep him away (like hospital away) but then again you cant controle ppl who dont want help its her life just dont help her when she is in such trubble and comes crying for ';can u get me out of trubble ?'; if she had a dui then let here face the concequences for it alone make her do the work and find a lawyer ext dont do it for them yes its harsh but sometimes ppl have to learn the hard way
you keep talking!!!!!!!!!!!
I am 15, and to say the least, teens will be teens, and girls will be girls. The more you push her, the more she'll back away. So you have two options:
1. Let her work it out, and she'll realize that what she is doing is stupid.
2. Crack down on her. Ship her off to boarding school, take away her privilieges, do what you've got to do. Sometimes we need a slap in the face. Lay down the law and stick to it
Sounds like our situation with my wife's daughter. Nothing we have tried worked and we've tried everything short of killing her drug-selling, pot-smoking, unemployed, oxygen-stealing bf. The best we've been able to come up with so far is to sit back and let Mother Nature School of Hardknocks take over. Its tough, but what else can be done with someone who is hell-bent on self-destruction? Remember, no one is as blind as he/she who will not see.
I noticed the thing with your step dad. I think one thing that you should consider is what happened to ur dad, how old she was when it happened, how she gets along with ur step dad not just now but before, hows her school social life, and you just need to talk to her dont dog her about what shes doing wrong but hang out with her get to know her and eventually she will open up to you. I think most of all right know all she needs is some attention and alot of love, because she is definetly hurting inside.
Set something up that you can super vise and she doesnt know your doing it to show her the terrible things that cant happen bc she needs a serious wake up call
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