Any advice on Drug abusive teenager?

My husband have had custody of his 17 year old nephew for about 4 months now and he is on probation and sees a couseler for substance abuse. We knew this when we took him in. He was from a very unstable home life. His dad was tired of him and we thought we could make a difference in his life. Well we where WRONG!!!!! His father passed away at the first of the year and his mother, who left him when he was only 2 years old lives in Alaska. He had scheduled drug test and was passing them all. Well that was the problem, they were scheduled!! His drug of choice is Dust Off, would not show up anyway. Just resently he had surprise test due to unexplained where abouts of money he had and guess what? He failed!! He opens his mouth and it is a lie! Very nasty and messy boy! Comes home smellinglike weed. Sayes he was around people that was smoking it! Not enough space to finish!! So here is my question. He addmited he needs help. We live in Va. and there is NO in house rehabs for teens.What 2 do?Any advice on Drug abusive teenager?
Look into a twelve step program for him and for you and your husband. Al Anon has done wonders for me in dealing with the alcoholics in my life, even though I am not an alcoholic myself. There are similar programs for dealing with drug addiction in the family. Addiction is a family disease. Good luck!Any advice on Drug abusive teenager?
Many hospitals have in and outpatient drug rehab programs. I don't know if this boy has insurance or not, but that may be worth looking into. If worse comes to worse, he is going to violate his probation, and will be getting some form of drug rehab in jail. He has to be willing to work at becoming sober. You can't force him if he is not ready, as hard as that may be. A person can only get sober for themselves if you expect it to work. Good luck
Send him somwhere where he can go to rehab, and when he comes back home he needs to get away from the freinds that unflunence him. It hard making new friends but it's possible to get some good ones. He just needs to understand how druges affect him..... send him to rehab. It's what is best for him.
Try a 12 step program or try asking your local court system for some recommendation. He is on probation so they should have some resources to help you out. He really needs some help---send him out of state if he has to!


Good Luck :):)
well, i know a lot of my friends parents who tried to be ultra strict


(didn't work)


they tried grounding them


(didn't work)


they tried mental hospitals and rehab


(didn't work)


they tried intensive therapy


(worked for some)


they tried scaring them with stats and pictures


(worked for some)


all i know is that for me it was having to open my eyes to things, seeing that things were okay now, that it wasn't that my mom was mad it's that i had hurt her, that i love being able to remember my little sister growing up (she's going to be 5 now and i'll be 20). i quit because no one showed me what it is that i would lose, they showed me what i could gain, what i had right in front of me that many others didn't have. they made the positives stand out. instead of yelling try just going out camping for the weekend, or going fishing or to the movies or out to his favorite resturant. remind he of what he has NOW (but don't throw it in his face just bring him along on activities and keep him playfully busy) even if your husband just hangs around the house with him for a weekend watching TV, playing videos games and ordering in pizza! show him what he has with you (again dont scream it at him) and talk to him about what kind of help he wants. if he says he doesn't know then get on the internet with him and look up diffrent programs or therapy treatments and see what he feels comfortable with. remember this is about him and his problem and how he wants to be helped now. not about how mad or disappointed you are. good luck, and hey have him email me if you want i've been sober 5 years now and i used to mentor teenagers at my highschool! i work full time, i'm married , i have a 2 yr old step daughter and am expecting my first child ( a son) this summer i did a full 180! my email is ugfounder@yahoo.com
If you can't get him in a program, encourage him to get involved with a different kind of program, like community theater or volunteer clubs or something. Many times the reason people can't stop doing drugs is partly that all their friends do it and keep encouraging them to keep doing it. If they have more friends they will have better influences. Also really listen to things he talks about and show him that you care. That can make a big difference.
well this is a familey problem trest me i no i have had the same thing in my famley and well there r so many of things to do 1 is take him to the hosptilteld thay usley have tretments there then there is a 12 steep program and he completed the first part he addmited he had a problem or ask his probation officer if he knows of anything he will work with u if u try to work with him good luck