I have a hard time with my kids growing up. Advice from teenagers and parents welcome! How do I let go?

I have three kids, 11-girl, 13 %26amp; 15 boys. I get very emotional when they pass milestones, like last day of elementary, first day of high school, first period, etc. My husband and kids all know and expect me to cry, and they comfort me while thinking (there goes mom again). I think that we have done a good job raising our kids, teaching them manners and good morals and we constantly get compliments on them. I know that they will grow into wonderful adults, but I still feel sad when I think of the day that they will ';leave the nest.'; This is why I try to visit my parents every chance I get, and we're lucky to live in the same city.I have a hard time with my kids growing up. Advice from teenagers and parents welcome! How do I let go?
my mom is the same way. my mom cried when my older brother graduated high school and left for college. she also cried when i started going through puberty and when i turned 13, but of course i'm the only girl out of 8 kids. i think it's natural for moms (parents) to feel emotional when they see their kids growing up and knowing it won't be long til they go off on their own.





as to your question, i don't know if you ever can ';let go'; but you have to let them leave, so your kids can go off to start their own lives. it's not easy, but just still be a part of their lives no matter how far away their future may take them.





hope i helped. God bless and Merry Christmas!I have a hard time with my kids growing up. Advice from teenagers and parents welcome! How do I let go?
You don't have to let go. I mean, of course, you have to let them leave, but memories are the most precious things you own, so don't ignore them.


You're so sweet! =D
I'm a teenager and my mom had the same problem. I think letting go is a good thing. Giving the kids room to breath is always needed and i know it's hard and i know you love them, but taking one day at a time is good. Letting go can be hard and you never want to let all the way go. i think you should join a club or something getting your mind off of your kids growing up and spend like ever friday night together as a family it will bring you closre to your kids and it is good for bonding. me and my mom did this and it helped her she is not crying al the time saying my little girls growing up. just try it.
don't let go,never let go, l haven't, l understand everything you are saying. you just keep doing what you are doing and love every second of it .





good luck
I don't think theres an easy answer for this. Some of us are just more emotional than others. My son is about to graduate high school and we are looking into colleges. This is very scary for me and I have already had several crying days. I guess we just do the best we can. We will make it.
I share your exact feelings, it's going way too fast. I get teary eyed when I think that one day they won't be sleeping under my roof. I'm just trying to let go a little at a time and the hardest part is knowing they will make mistakes and get hurt in the process. My husband also reminds me of the alternative, 40 year olds still living at home and never marrying and having families :-)
Don't let go, lol Hold on to them for dear life. No really... Lol My mom took off on me when I was 17 which fine I was engaged and she was moving and asked me to go with her but like i said I was engaged. I did not get a card or letter from her for 2 years and young as I was I felt abandoned. You do not have to let go... Your kids will appreciate the care and love you showed them while growing up. When they leave be sure and give them time to adjust before visiting. It is a very stressful time to move out. And don't call too often either. Just be strong and keep your mind on other things. Try not to think about it. They will come back to visit you all the time.
it's normal to feel upset, and it's ok to cry a little, but instead of dreading the day when they'll leave, make the mosst of the time you have! be happy for them that they're growing up.





even if you are still upset, it's ok, just don't try to keep them from growing up. when i started growing up and, admitedly, getting snotty, my dad freaked out. he was totally surprised that i was acting up and stuff, or even just being a bit of a smart aleck, and he kinda blew it out of proportion. we pretty much avoided each other for a year, and by that time, i had mostly gotten over my ';rebellion'; and he was able to accept the fact that i was growing up. so go with the flow, and enjoy you're kids.